There seem to be a growing number of stay-at-home dads lately. These men do everything from dropping the kids off at school to doing the household chores. Once upon a time, disengaged fathers represented the typical pop culture parental stereotype. Of course, I'm aware that this belief still holds true in some parts of the world but but there's been a tremendous change in such views.

A 2011 census bureau report showed that among fathers with a wife in the workforce, 32 percent were a regular source of care for their children under age 15, up from 26 percent in 2002. Among these fathers with preschool-age children, one in five fathers was the primary caregiver, meaning their child spent more time in their care than any other type of arrangement.

Interestingly, these dads are not taking up the role of "Moms" but instead are carving a unique role for themselves as parents.

My wife wouldn't mind me being a stay-at-home dad as long as she makes enough money to take care of the family. Who's to say that stay-home-dads can't run a home business as well?

Can you be a stay at home dad? Share your thoughts!

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i can only stay at home dad if m working and i av a very flexible schedule.... but apart from dat i cant b a stay at home dad......

If ma wife was let's say nicki minaj hell yeah

Nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home dad as it's done with the chid(ren)'s best interests at heart.

Having a parent with the child before and when they get back from school pays dividends. The kids are much happier and even more emotionally stable in the knowledge that dad loves and cares that much for them.

No amount of money made can replace the love and security a child feels from just being with them.

Having said that, this would be detrimental to the child's development ONLY if the parent in question isn't happy / fulfilled in their role. In that case, their negativity will rub off on their kid(s).

Efemena_xy: Nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home dad as it's done with the chid(ren)'s best interests at heart.

Having a parent with the child before and when they get back from school pays dividends. The kids are much happier and even more emotionally secure in the knowledge that dad loves and cares that much for them that much.

No amount of money made can replace the love and security a child feels from just being with them.

Having said that, this would be detrimental to the child's development ONLY if the parent in question isn't happy / fulfilled in their role. In that case, their negativity will rub off on their kid(s).

Well said

So many stay at home dad in Niaja due to laziness and unemployment

But they don't wanna answer the name because of ego.
See them sleeping, playing computer game and still want to be served.

Orishirishi

Yes

have two kids and i have zero tolerance policy for housemaids so we don`t have one,my business permits me to have more time than my wife and as such i spend more time at home with the kids. Nothing brings joy to my heart and life than been responsible for the kids not just financially but been present physically. My greatest joy is the bond we share as father and children,i am proud of myself and most importantly the joy that radiates in the life of my kids. I only want them to be fantastic girls like there Mum.

deeptesting: have two kids and i have zero tolerance policy for housemaids so we don`t have one,my business permits me to have more time than my wife and as such i spend more time at home with the kids. Nothing brings joy to my heart and life than been responsible for the kids not just financially but been present physically. My greatest joy is the bond we share as father and children,i am proud of myself and most importantly the joy that radiates in the life of my kids. I only want them to be fantastic girls like there Mum.

Great! I trust you are doing a good job at that. Good to know that you aren't just staying at home but u run a business as well. That's like killing two birds with a stone.
Wish you the very best as u continue to take care of ur lovely kids

Chillisauce: So many stay at home dad in Niaja due to laziness and unemployment

But they don't wanna answer the name because of ego.
See them sleeping, playing computer game and still want to be served.

Orishirishi

Those aren't really stay-at-home dads. I'm really referring to fathers who take up the traditional role of a mother while the mom works.

Efemena_xy: Nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home dad as it's done with the chid(ren)'s best interests at heart.

Having a parent with the child before and when they get back from school pays dividends. The kids are much happier and even more emotionally secure in the knowledge that dad loves and cares that much for them that much.

No amount of money made can replace the love and security a child feels from just being with them.

Having said that, this would be detrimental to the child's development ONLY if the parent in question isn't happy / fulfilled in their role. In that case, their negativity will rub off on their kid(s).

I concur with all ur points! You couldn't have said it any better.

quivah: CAPITAL NO.. nigerian men and society will abuse it!

The lazy ones, yes. But not all of us.

infonubia:

Great! I trust you are doing a good job at that. Good to know that you aren't just staying at home but u run a business as well. That's like killing two birds with a stone.
Wish you the very best as u continue to take care of ur lovely kids

Thanks.

deeptesting: have two kids and i have zero tolerance policy for housemaids so we don`t have one,my business permits me to have more time than my wife and as such i spend more time at home with the kids. Nothing brings joy to my heart and life than been responsible for the kids not just financially but been present physically. My greatest joy is the bond we share as father and children,i am proud of myself and most importantly the joy that radiates in the life of my kids. I only want them to be fantastic girls like there Mum.

Not only is this such a nice post, it also restores one's faith in Nigerian fathers.

You sound well grounded and your wife is lucky to have such a supportive spouse - and your girls...Just you watch out, not even the skies will be able to contain their self-esteem when they grow up. I only wish many more Nigerian men would ditch the ego trip and take a leave from your book.

It is well.

Chillisauce: So many stay at home dad in Niaja due to laziness and unemployment

But they don't wanna answer the name because of ego.
See them sleeping, playing computer game and still want to be served.

Orishirishi

Different kettle of fish babes. Those aren't fathers but bone-idle spe.rm donors.

Efemena_xy:

Not only is this such a nice post, it also restores one's faith in Nigerian fathers.

You sound well grounded and your wife is lucky to have such a supportive spouse - and your girls...Just you watch out, not even the skies will be able to contain their self-esteem when they grow up. I only wish many more Nigerian men would ditch the ego trip and take a leave from your book.

It is well.

Thanks...Well that is not to say that we don`t have our challenges,it all depends on what you want out of life. I have been a child advocate from childhood, i love kids and have always seen them as a privilege gift. My love for kids motivated me to marry at a very young age immediately i left school,it was not funny for us but my love for children not just mine has kept me going and i can do anything for them...My kids are great, no day passes without them saying my Daddy i love you or i am proud of you and that brings me great joy. There Mum shows great understanding and does not take it for granted,when she has time like the weekends it is for the kids,no party, no weddings or visitation except the family is going out together. As a family,we have our differences, challenges,fights etc but certainly not with the well being of the children.

deeptesting:

Thanks...Well that is not to say that we don`t have our challenges,it all depends on what you want out of life. I have been a child advocate from childhood, i love kids and have always seen them as a privilege gift. My love for kids motivated me to marry at a very young age immediately i left school,it was not funny for us but my love for children not just mine has kept me going and i can do anything for them...My kids are great, no day passes without them saying my Daddy i love you or i am proud of you and that brings me great joy. There Mum shows great understanding and does not take it for granted,when she has time like the weekends it is for the kids,no party, no weddings or visitation except the family is going out together. As a family,we have our differences, challenges,fights etc but certainly not with the well being of the children.

Nice! Worth emulating.

deeptesting: have two kids and i have zero tolerance policy for housemaids so we don`t have one,my business permits me to have more time than my wife and as such i spend more time at home with the kids. Nothing brings joy to my heart and life than been responsible for the kids not just financially but been present physically. My greatest joy is the bond we share as father and children,i am proud of myself and most importantly the joy that radiates in the life of my kids. I only want them to be fantastic girls like there Mum.

Awww you sound like a wonderful father. Well done.

I personally see nothing wrong with SAHD but when even SAHM mums are called liabilities It takes a couple who really are in sync, mature and progressive to make it work especially in Nigeria.Trust boku boku friends and family to keep poke nosing 'Ehn so your husband does not to go work na wa o'.