xy: I am in Love with this girl and we are hoping to get married, I am a staunch Catholic and she attends one of the Pentecostal churches. She insisted that she will not loose her maiden name even when we get married and I granted the request and mow she is saying she can never follow me to the catholic church, that for her to marry me and I must leave the catholic church and join her in any of the Pentecostal church of my choice.
Note: none of us is dependent on the other, we re all doing well in our fields, she is a pharmacist and myself an Engr, but right inside me I do not want to leave the catholic church but I love her too, am I making a mistake by clicking to my decision of not leaving the church. Kindly advise me by putting yourself in my shoes.

Thanks guys.

andromida:

Why must you stay in the catholic church? Don't let your ego cost you someone you love.

dahmie2013: Stupidity dear! U don't take such sensitive decisions just because of a woman, u take dem because u are personally convinced its d best 4 u!

Pretyangel25: First it was her not changing her maiden name, now is for you to follow her to pentecostal church. Hmmmmm i think she doesnt love you and she is looking for a way to drive you

Ihedinobi:
Andromida, this is the first time I'm seeing you giving terrible advice! Abi na joke? His ego? Cost him a woman he loves? Are you serious? Who is supposed to lead in the home that they'll build?

dahmie2013: Stupidity dear! U don't take such sensitive decisions just because of a woman, u take dem because u are personally convinced its d best 4 u!

andromida:

ihe, the man is a christian not a catholic well at least that's what i am thinking. Yeah he feels good in that church but he can check other churches that will be suitable for both of them. This is leading in my own opinion. Does a christian convert to a catholic christian? This sticking to this church or that just feels like rigidity and too much rules. The church was there before you were born and they will be there after you are long gone. If truly it is love then compromises without compromising himself is ok. Leading is not being rigid she sounds like a woman with her own opinion who is not afraid to say what she wants.

Ihedinobi:
Please. Andromida! What kind of love requires a man to divest himself of his manhood? She's not afraid to say what she wants? He shouldn't be afraid to put his foot down either. First, he agrees to her not using his name! WHO DOES THAT, ABEG? Then he has to change churches FOR HER? Abeg, which one has she done for him? Adonbelieve what you're sayin o!

Besides, this woman's behavior is the reason that many women get into marriage and say that their husband has changed - making all sorts of ultimatums to tailor him to themselves. A man will only truly change when he does so out of his own self.

andromida: This guy is ok with her not bearing his name after marriage or is pretending to be its the church he is skeptical about, this love is not about divesting himself of his manhood its about compromises. In a marriage you will be surprised the kind of compromises many men and women make to keep the ship sailing smoothly and really if he can find a church that will make both of them really happy whats the big deal. Would you prefer she pretends to be ok with the church then pull a fast one after marriage. This point right here is where he shows his leading skills. She has not asked for the impossible just something reasonable to both of them. If bearing his name is very important to him then he should speak up quickly or forever hold his peace. And if he feels so deeply connected to the vatican he should speak out in the long run they don't have to attend the same church.

xy: I am in Love with this girl and we are hoping to get married, I am a staunch Catholic and she attends one of the Pentecostal churches. She insisted that she will not loose her maiden name even when we get married and I granted the request and mow she is saying she can never follow me to the catholic church, that for her to marry me and I must leave the catholic church and join her in any of the Pentecostal church of my choice.
Note: none of us is dependent on the other, we re all doing well in our fields, she is a pharmacist and myself an Engr, but right inside me I do not want to leave the catholic church but I love her too, am I making a mistake by clicking to my decision of not leaving the church. Kindly advise me by putting yourself in my shoes.

Thanks guys.

Monstertrucks: [size=25pt] open she doesn't want to marry u Ah!, get over yourself. [/size]

Pretyangel25: First it was her not changing her maiden name, now is for you to follow her to pentecostal church. Hmmmmm i think she doesnt love you and she is looking for a way to drive you

xy: I am in Love with this girl and we are hoping to get married, I am a staunch Catholic and she attends one of the Pentecostal churches. She insisted that she will not loose her maiden name even when we get married and I granted the request and mow she is saying she can never follow me to the catholic church, that for her to marry me and I must leave the catholic church and join her in any of the Pentecostal church of my choice.
Note: none of us is dependent on the other, we re all doing well in our fields, she is a pharmacist and myself an Engr, but right inside me I do not want to leave the catholic church but I love her too, am I making a mistake by clicking to my decision of not leaving the church. Kindly advise me by putting yourself in my shoes.

Thanks guys.