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Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 5:18pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Woged2005: Marriage is not a bed of roses it takes a lot of hard work. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 5:20pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: ^^ Oh I know what love is. What do you want to do with my opinion? |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by kundi90(m): 5:24pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Why would I beef her? It is you I am beefing! I suspect something from you, and I am trying to help a neighbour, as a wise man once said we should. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by onegig(m): 5:25pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Seriously, I had to laugh. It is no secret that like 80 per cent of ladies here who have advised cosmass are married and doing well with their families. So i don"t see where your jealousy idea is coming from. No one disagrees marriage is an easy thing but why would you fight for a lost cause? Why would you fight for someone who has clearly told you, you dont figure in his plans? Cossmass is even making excuses for his outrightly rude behaviour. If you are looking for a reason he spoilt you bad during your dating then you need not go far. He sees nothing important in you and feels you are after his money and not worth being his wife. Most Nigerian guys are like that, they spend money on you, use you while having a spare gal somewhere they are grooming to marry. Its that simple. You have been used and need to move on. He intiating marriage proposals was a mistake and "the powers that be" who control him from behind the scenes hve told him you are not worth it and just useless and quite bad for you he AGREES with them. 4 Likes |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by kundi90(m): 5:28pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Now I need to ask; how old are you? You don't sound matured. 1 Like |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 5:33pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
kundi90: And you do? |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 5:36pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
onegig: The lady said the whole problem started from an argument... she didn't explain details...please read between the lines....you don't expect her to expose everything here. She knows that she caused the problem and wants to make amends ...that makes sense to me. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by EfemenaXY: 5:39pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: So you haven't got one? |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by EfemenaXY: 5:42pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
onegig: Dinachi hasn't got a clue. He really hasn't. Maybe in 10 years time, he'll understand what's being said here... 3 Likes |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by kundi90(m): 5:42pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Well, na her palaver. I have already said my own. She has the freewill to do anything she wants with her life. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 5:46pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: If I recall correctly you are supposed to have unfollowed this thread. The fact that you don't have a handle on relationship issues is not my fault. From what I know her relationship is worth fighting for. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by onegig(m): 5:55pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Yes she caused the problem but what happened after is the main issue. Why can't he forgive his potential spouse ? Is this their first time of having disagreements? Put yourself in the guys hoes, Your bride to be offended you, you reacted and she comes to her senses and asked for forgiveness. If you truly "wanted" her what would you have done? If he can't forgive her, she should be the one running away from him because she would offend him 1000 times when they get married. Question is; Is she willing to be married to someone who won't forgive her misdeamenours? Dinachi, open your eyes and reason with your brains please. I Would love you disappoint me about the preconcieved notion i have about you. Look at the bigger picture and advise her accordingly. I |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by EfemenaXY: 6:01pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Really? What makes her relationship worth fighting for? Okay, let's put the shoe on the other foot, then you tell me (honestly) what your stance will be: ~ You go shopping with your girl. Rather than take you home as agreed, she goes home, leaves you waiting in the car for 1 hour without so much an explanation (total lack of respect) ~ Eventually you go up to meet her, only to find she's 'working' on her laptop. You try to get her attention and it degenerates into a struggle. Rather than sort it out between yourselves, she calls her father on the phone. He comes over and chastises you. You're forced to apologise to her father. (unable to handle conflict amicably without involving 3rd parties) ~ Her family postpone and eventually cancel the wedding without so much an explanation to you or your family. (undermining your role as a man) ~ She dumps you via text message (total disregard for you. Very insulting I daresay) ~ She hooks up with someone else and is leaves you hanging. (blatant cheating on you). ~ After months, her friend tortures you with tales of how the other man in her life hooked her with 'Jazz' she hasn't been herself. Her friend 'offers' to bring you back together (mocking your predicament) ~ Your now ex sends you texts telling you to 'move on'. So, tell me, will you accept this in the name of 'love'? 2 Likes |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 6:12pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
onegig: You already have a pre concieved notion....keep it all to yourself From what I know, this is not the first time they have had the disagreement...both are differing personalities.... and most of the time the fault have been hers.... the guy is a careful meticulous person...she is the carefree playful type... Actually the guy feels she is taking him for granted...and that is why....he is really offended....she truly loves the guy from what I know......and I believe that the relationship has a good chance of survival.. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by onegig(m): 6:13pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: The way the fight was handled shows there was more than meets the eye. Its simple, they had be shopping for a replacement for her and were only looking for an avenue to push the blame on her as the cause of the discontinued marriage plans and here she is not using her senses and blaming herself for a situation she never caused. If that fight didn't come up at that time they would have looked for another thing to rope him in. I just can't see how the girl is so blind to all these. A man who is heart broken about losing a girl he respects and wished to marry would definitely not jump and conclude to marry another few weeks after the heartbreak. Its not rocket science, its simple human nature. He is human and have emotions. 1 Like |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by onegig(m): 6:14pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Its her life and i wish her well just like My Oga Bellong has said. lol. Cossmass best wishes. Enough said already. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 6:18pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: First you must apologize for leaving the thread abruptly and returning without adequate notice...that aside....there are other aspects of the relationship that she did not disclose here....so take what you are reading with that understanding...I have a better understanding of the issues as raised. Both are wrong and if she follows my advice with her heart, the relationship will be saved... |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by kundi90(m): 6:33pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: you have a point, but why did the guy move on so fast like he was expecting the break up? |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 6:35pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
He hasn't moved on yet...be patient... |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by EfemenaXY: 6:37pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by kundi90(m): 6:52pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: He hasn't moved on yet...be patient... I hope so! I would not want another I-hate-men lady created, because she fell mugu for a guy twice. Also remember to address the family "remote control" stuff when advicing her. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Nobody: 7:30pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: I didn't wanna comment on this thread but the bolded above pushed me to punch the 'reply' button! You expect her to change who she is because of love What happened to the guy also easing up a little? This relationship is nothing to write home about again, Cosmass should just let it go. Telling her to work on this relationship is not the best idea for her. To keep her sanity, she needs to let go! If we follow your analogy, which to me is mere speculation, these people are not even compatible! Telling Cosmass to start watching every word that proceeds out of her mouth and living life like she's in prison is not a good idea (at least, not for her ego and sanity) and telling the guy to take her for who she is is clearly asking for too much! Note: I'm just tryna see things from your perspective, not that I even bliv it! |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 8:01pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
opposites attract! Every good relationship is supposed to CHANGE you for the better... please do not relate with anybody who has no value he or she is adding to your life......That is why two good heads are better than one.. Both of them needs to make amends. Relationship is all about compromise.. |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Woged2005(f): 8:51pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: opposites attract! I didn't want to comment on this thread again. It's becoming a bit absurd. Many people have already dropped off from the thread. However, something tells me u've never married b4 going by some of ur posts on this thread...they sound too literary like a knowledge acquired from a romance novel or movie, not based on real life experience.. Pls relationships are not supposed to change people, and don't change people. Don't advise people to get into a relationship hoping to change the other party (it's called being controlling, or manipulation). It doesn't work and never worked. It's not a good advice please. Hope young people following this thread don't take that advice serious. Except you meant to say something else and I misunderstood u. 1 Like |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 9:09pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Now you seem to expose a basic lack of relationship principles..I don't disclose my personal information on public boards like this... A MARITAL relationship where you are not adding value and receiving value is not worth it. You are supposed to help each other become better... some learn patience ....others learn....tolerance....If you can do it alone then you shouldn't marry in the first place.....your spouse is supposed to compliment you and smoothen your rough edges...that is what i mean by change...until you change your perception that relationship is a competition instead of complimentary you may never understand what I am saying... They both need to make adjustments....the relationship can be saved.. 2 Likes |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Woged2005(f): 9:22pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Now you seem to expose a basic lack of relationship principles..I don't disclose my personal information on public boards like this... A MARITAL relationship where you are not adding value and receiving value is not worth it. You are supposed to help each other become better... some learn patience ....others learn....tolerance....If you can do it alone then you shouldn't marry in the first place.....your spouse is supposed to compliment you and smoothen your rough edges...that is what i mean by change...until you change your perception that relationship is a competition instead of complimentary you may never understand what I am saying... Ok thanks. But it's been u against an entire crowd of differing opinions and commentators. Hope u win the entire community on the debate. I really enjoyed the e-debate though bc it's matured and without personal insults like other threads!..Nairalanders are improving. Reminded me of debating societies in school in those days, where teachers taught us to address our opponents with respect as 'honorable co-debaters'...LoL! All the luck, and have a wonderful new year ahead! |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 9:27pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Woged2005: @ bolded It is because most people like to play to the gallery, i don't! I say it the way it is and some people can't just relate with that |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 9:30pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Woged2005: All the luck, and have a wonderful new year ahead! Thanks! I wish you a more prosperous and fulfilling 2014... |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Nobody: 10:12pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: dinachi: I came in late in this party and to the Op I would say these How dare you insult the intelligence of people by starting a thread ,actually threads on your issues and people comment sincerely to help you then you go offline to tell details to a poster? If he is the only person who understands you and your situation then spare us and unburden on his manly shoulders ,let him help you wipe your tears and energize you to fight for your man.( whatever that stupid term means) Based on what I have read so far ,irrespective of who did what,the bottom line is that a man doesn't want you That is the main story here He has told you that himself His family has hold you the same Please gather up the dignity you have left and move on Have you no mother and father? relatives? No friends? How can a man use you and play ludo like this and you are still dreaming of the same man and crying over him Move on sweetie He doesn't want again Na by force? If dinachi is available marry him na E no get money? |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Tallotti: 10:19pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Pleaaaaase o! MY DARLING HUSBAND NEVER BEARS GRUDGES! Nothing I have done has bothered him to that point of unforgivenezz! Including DOING FULL TIME 'tricks WITH MY SUGAR DADDIES IN POD!!!! AND VICE VERSA!!!! If you GARRRRRRRRRIT. . . . . FLUANNNNNNNIT!!!! E badu belle and e jolosi nor QUENCH O!!!! |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by dinachi(m): 10:28pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
Baby mama: At least you have learnt something...no relationship is perfect and every relationship has a history....the way you got married may not be the way every other person will tie the knot.....try and be understanding....I have said enough.....I am going to be unavailable till 2014....in a few hours...happy new year in advance! |
Re: Men,What Is/are The Things Your Woman Would Do To You That You Can Never Forgive by Nobody: 10:32pm On Dec 31, 2013 |
dinachi: Excuse you! If you wan chop the girl,go chop am Which one is my own She will come back with another thread and people will give advice Every responder here is mad,jealous as u put it and you are the only sane one? Comot jor make I find eye see berra place to do breakthrough service |
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