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Ask and ye shalt receiveth da glorious news!
Pele dia!:

Most people do not date exclusively.
No woman puts all her HEGGS in one basket o!
Unless Na ODE!

Much ado about nothing.

Leave it in the past. Has your marriage been good so far? Has she been a good wife? Have you been happy? Then forget the past and enjoy the present.

Best wishes

Orisi risi!
You men really think the world begins and ends with you sha, till you are let down with a BIG BANG!
Abi you think to be a compliant wife is easy?
Only extra-marital affairs can make a woman the IDEAL wife ke!
Now you know about 'the don't ask-don't tell' NUMBER ONE rule in any HAPPY MARRIAGE!

I really don't know why you should bother yourself with this revelation. At that time you were not married and probably you did not express your intention of marriage to her. If it bothers you that much, then you need to forgive her and gradually let it go for you are going to hurt yourself more if you divorce her or by not releasing her from the hurt

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Really?

7yrs into a blissful marriage, you find out she had not broken up with an ex at the beginning of your relationship but later ended it and has been faithful to you since then. Now you want to divorce her? Good luck.

*and before the re*tards come and jump on my post, I'm not saying she was right to double date or to lie about it when the OP first asked. She was absolutely wrong. All I'm saying is, at this point in time you have to look at the big picture. Get mad, but get a grip! All this talk about divorce is a bit much*



Now if you have evidence of further cheating since then, now we have a good discussion.

Lifted123:

Thanks for your opinion but I am not every man. I know who I am. I believe love without honesty is like an empty house. By the way I never said she had any extra-marital affairs and would have no reason to think so.

Hmmmmmm!
You are a man now.
Quit acting like a little kid who thought his candy was stolen.
EVEN AFTER FINDING THE DAMNED CANDY, continues to whine about where it could have been hiding!
Your bruised ego is unwarranted here.
She is still a gooooooood wife and mother.

You need to move on sir!
OR, SHE MAY UNLEASH MORE SECRETS ON YOUR EARS!
You will drive her back into the arms of OKAFOR!!!!

If you can be this ANNOYING online, no telling what you sound like offline!

Sheeeeeeeeesh!

carefreewannabe: Much ado about nothing.

Leave it in the past. Has your marriage been good so far? Has she been a good wife? Have you been happy? Then forget the past and enjoy the present.

Best wishes

Lol! While I was busy typing an epistle, you made it short and sweet!

Hmmm! you thought of Divorce already?
every issue leads to divorce these days

You had a good marriage and a happy home but you decided to scatter everything with your own hands by digging up...
I'm still trying to figure out where she went wrong, your relationship had a strain and she decided to continue with her ex. while she made sure you were truly serious about being with her.
You are hurt she didn't tell you, but the truth is most women will find it hard to reveal such, so as to save their relationships.
Forgive your wife and move on with your marriage and try not to dig next time unless you are ready to face the music.


This reminds me of the thread "would you rather take it to the grave"?

D_BestDoc: Hmmm! you thought of Divorce already?
every issue leads to divorce these days

You had a good marriage and a happy home but you decided to scatter everything with your own hands by digging up...


This reminds me of the thread "would you rather take it to the grave"?

I was not digging up. We were having an innocent discussion and like I said one thing led to the other and I was compelled to ask based on statements she made.

This OP needs 12 strokes of Koboko for his brains to reset to default.

Oh boy go sleep abeg!
You nor get case!

Billyonaire: This OP needs 12 strokes of Koboko for his brains to reset to default.

Thanks for your "matured" input.

Ballotti: Oh boy go sleep abeg!
You nor get case!

Could you be more explicit. Would be much appreciated.

ileobatojo:

Lol! While I was busy typing an epistle, you made it short and sweet!

Lol

I like your comment better than mine even though we wanted to say the same

I don't understand oh,wasn't it in d past? U want to end your marriage cz of something that happened 7yrs ago? U r a really funny man

zeb04: I don't understand oh,wasn't it in d past? U want to end your marriage cz of something that happened 7yrs ago? U r a really funny man

Well I appreciate your opinion but having that information when I proposed to her was vital. It could have determined our future either way. That was fraud and in the part of the world where we live, it is unacceptable.

Lifted123:

I was not digging up. We were having an innocent discussion and like I said one thing led to the other and I was compelled to ask based on statements she made.

Some questions are not meant to be asked.
Forgive her, it is something most women do especially when the relationship looks bleak and uncertain.



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D_BestDoc:

Some questions are not meant to be asked.
Forgive her, it is something most women do (i inclusive..i did )especially when the relationship looks bleak and uncertain.

Well I don't know but when I proposed to her, I made sure she knew all my secrets if there was any, medical history, family history, past failures etc. In my world honesty reigns supreme and anything short is fraud.

Lifted123:

Well I appreciate your opinion but having that information when I proposed to her was vital. It could have determined our future either way. That was fraud and in the part of the world where we live, it is unacceptable.

We get it. You are pure in heart. You are disillusioned.

But, you cannot turn back the hands of time.

You are in an advanced country. Book an appointment with a marriage counsellor. Do both individual and couple sessions. And move on!!

ileobatojo:

We get it. You are pure in heart. You are disillusioned.

But, you cannot turn back the hands of time.

You are in an advanced country. Book an appointment with a marriage counsellor. Do both individual and couple sessions. And move on!!

Thanks. Done that already. Even gone for hypnosis to ease up the pain. None worked

Lifted123:

Well I don't know but when I proposed to her, I made sure she knew all my secrets if there was any, medical history, family history, past failures etc. In my world honesty reigns supreme and anything short is fraud.

I sure wasn't swift enough, you quoted already

@OP:

If you are religious i.e Christian or Muslim, it is time to go for a retreat.

Go somewhere and pray to your God earnestly to help you forgive her since you feel very bitter about it.

You have lived with her 7yrs after so you know to an extent what she is like and from your OP,it is obvious she is worth fighting unforgiveness for.

Yes, she cheated and lied but this was before you prosoped to her (not saying it is right). I am sure if you discovered then and came to NL, the responses would be different.

God be with you and home

Lifted123:

Thanks. Done that already. Even gone for hypnosis to ease up the pain. None worked

In that case, you need Jesus.


I'm not joking.

Lol! Reverse scenario!

Buka posting the epistle while I make it short and sweet!

ileobatojo:

In that case, you need Jesus.


I'm not joking.

Thanks for making me smile after 2 months

Lifted123:

Thanks for making me smile after 2 months

Please find a way to forgive. Not worth destroying a good marriage for. Did you try cognitive behavior therapy through a psychologist?

Ballotti:

Hmmmmmm!
You are a man now.
Quit acting like a little kid who thought his candy was stolen.
EVEN AFTER FINDING THE DAMNED CANDY, continues to whine about where it could have been hiding!
You bruised ego is unwarranted here.
She is still a gooooooood wife and mother.

You need to move on sir!
OR, SHE MAY UNLEASH MORE SECRETS ON YOUR EARS!
You will drive her back into the arms of OKAFOR!!!!

If you this ANNOYING online, no telling what you sound like offline!

Sheeeeeeeeesh!

Hope you read the caveat at the bottom of my post before commenting

Lifted123:

Thanks for your "matured" input.

Whats the true worth of perfection and what degree of perfection do you expect from an imperfect creation of perfecting Deites. Many of you folks think that quiet desperation can take you a mile to Eldorado, when in the real sense perfection is illusion of the mind.

My advise for you is to divorce that woman so she can meet a better endowed man that will cherish her imperfections and make nonsense of your legendary perfectionism with all his wealth in glory.

Billyonaire: Whats the true worth of perfection and what degree of perfection do you expect from an imperfect creation of perfecting Deites. Many of you folks think that quiet desperation can take you a mile to Eldorado, when in the real sense perfection is illusion of the mind.

My advise for you is to divorce that woman so she can meet a better endowed man that will cherish her imperfections and make nonsense of your legendary perfectionism with all his wealth in glory.

Quite interesting.

ileobatojo: Lol! Reverse scenario!

Buka posting the epistle while I make it short and sweet!

LOL!