Yesterday, I watched a good 9Ja movie featuring the likes of Omotola, uche jumbo, Jim iyke but what got my attention was the scene when Jim Iyke’s girlfriend/fiancé always embarrasses other girls that she sees around her lover.
WAIT!  That scene remembered of something that always happen daily in and around our environments.
I have carry out some research and found that  9Ja babes are so possessive
*Not giving breathing space to their lover
*Always snickering on their guy?
*Always afraid when other girl comes around their guy
Some even fight other girls all in the name of love.
   
                                NAWAH!
WHY ARE 9Ja BABES SO POSSESIVE?
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is it other 9ja babies they are afraid of or other women from different cultures.

Cuz i know the nigerian women here in the states always stare and never talk to me when my husband and i go to events.

its simply a feeling of insecurity, thats all

this is a matter of the mind and attitude, period

Generalizing baboons

It's not a Nigerian thing, more like a woman thing

even men do the same thing, not just women or naija women

the altitude might be so obvious in women folks but same goes for men.how will u feel if ur babe is in d mist of wealthier, more handsome,taller and well built men and all smiling and looking at her?coooooooool i believed prob is not 9ja babes alone,it mit only be stronger here cos women av no right in nigeria

I can say the same for some men. . .
always wanting to knw where u are, who u're with, what u'r doing. . . wanting a blow-by-bow detailed account of your day, everday. . .
I can't stand over-possssive men, I think its disrespectful treating a grown ass woman like a child!

that is what i call "CARING" ,so getting angry over that  would be crazy ,and do you blame a nigga for wantig to know how  his babe is faring, 

flexibles:

that is what i call "CARING" ,so getting angry over that would be crazy ,and do you blame a nigga for wantig to know how his babe is faring,

Caring and checking your girl is ok is one things, hounding her continuously and asking silly questions is another. if u really cared about her and her well-being, u'd trust her and give her the breathing space she needs!

showing u care does not equate to being a bullying, over-possessive, domineering control freak!

Ruby_Pearl:

Generalizing baboons

It's not a Nigerian thing, more like a woman thing

partially correct!

helo friends
this isssue is eating deep into our system.
let fight this whole thing.

Ruby_Pearl:

Generalizing baboons

It's not a Nigerian thing, more like a woman thing

C'mon that's a lie jare
The difference is, the nigerian lady starts being possesive from the first day you meet

eldee:

C'mon that's a lie jare
The difference is, the nigerian lady starts being possesive from the first day you meet

Shaarup dia! This be lie! You can't pin point this straight to Nigerian women. . . . all culture groups are the culprits. Im not saying all women are like this. I for one im not possessive. Im secure enough to know that if my man knows whats good for him. . . . he'll keep his eyes on the prize.

what!! that calls for serious deliverance oo.

@topic, its the basic characteristic of the female psyche.

hi, onyin.

Hola, Baxilexi

onyinye2:

Shaarup dia! This be lie! You can't pin point this straight to Nigerian women. . . . all culture groups are the culprits. I'm not saying all women are like this. I for one im not possessive. I'm secure enough to know that if my man knows whats good for him. . . . he'll keep his eyes on the prize.

C'mon, let's be truthful here
When I go on a date with Serena, I know there's still a chance I don't call her again
Infact, bout 70% chance that we're not taking it anywhere

But let's try the same thing with a Bunmi
You'll get calls filling your voicemail, there was a time this next chic used a different number to see if I was avoiding her
It's like you're married just because you wen on one date
Fine, most Nigerian chics don't spew first, but when you give sumn as little as a greenflash, they go all clingy

eldee:

C'mon, let's be truthful here
When I go on a date with Serena, I know there's still a chance I don't call her again
Infact, bout 70% chance that we're not taking it anywhere

But let's try the same thing with a Bunmi
You'll get calls filling your voicemail, there was a time this next chic used a different number to see if I was avoiding her
It's like you're married just because you when on one date
Fine, most Nigerian chics don't spew first, but when you give sumn as little as a greenflash, they go all clingy

Blah Blah Blah. . . . you are in violation of generalizing. You can't give faulty stats based on one experience with a woman. Overall. . . . women are clingy to a degree. If she wasn't. . . . she would be deemed as "Non Caring". It truly depends on the guy and the vibes he gives off. Some men give no reason for a woman to be ultra clingy because he is faithful and keeps his eye on the prize. While others flirt in front of their woman, check out babes in the presence of her, so on and so forth. So you can you blame her for upping her degree of clinginess? i wouldn't blame her at all.

There is a clear difference between being caring and being clingy or choking - GOSH! I don dey tire to dey read your sexist rants, when u see the truth, identify with it please

whitelexi:

There is a clear difference between being caring and being clingy or choking - GOSH! I don dey tire to dey read your sexist rants, when u see the truth, identify with it please

Good thing this wasn't aimed towards me. . .

Possessiveness is not a sex thing. Men could be as possessive as women.
It usually stem from insecurity, when you think you're not good enough for your partner, you keep having this fear that someone better will come from no where and simply snatch him or her away. That way you find yourself constantly watching on your partner.
It's actually very frustrating to the person having it and it's a sure relationship breaker. But if trust and true friendship can be built by having a heart to heart talk and reasuring your partner that you aren't going to run away with the next available toaster, such jealousy and possessiveness will give way to respect and love.

onyinye2:

Blah Blah Blah. . . . you are in violation of generalizing. You can't give faulty stats based on one experience with a woman. Overall. . . . women are clingy to a degree. If she wasn't. . . . she would be deemed as "Non Caring". It truly depends on the guy and the vibes he gives off. Some men give no reason for a woman to be ultra clingy because he is faithful and keeps his eye on the prize. While others flirt in front of their woman, check out babes in the presence of her, so on and so forth. So you can you blame her for upping her degree of clinginess? i wouldn't blame her at all.

Ta the Bleep toi!!!
If I wanted to generalise, I'll be saying 'all women are clingy'
But I've seen women from other cultural backgrounds
Nigerian women take it as an art, it's like a skill they learnt in school

Not caring?? C'mon . . . I don't need you to be 'caring' when we just met last week
The average nigerian lady thinks a date is a ritual that shows commitment
Questions like, 'I called you twice and you didn't pick, where were you?'
Erm . . . it's just a flipping dinner

Aight . . . tell me which Brit dishes out eye gestures towards their boyfriend's secetaries??

whitelexi:

There is a clear difference between being caring and being clingy or choking - GOSH! I don dey tire to dey read your sexist rants, when u see the truth, identify with it please

C'est fini . . . you put it well
Caring is 'how was your day', clingy is calling every hour to see how your day's been going

I think the guys are more possesive than babes.

kemisuga:

I think the guys are more possesive than babes.

Hell Yeah!

eldee:

Ta the Bleep toi!!!
If I wanted to generalise, I'll be saying 'all women are clingy'
But I've seen women from other cultural backgrounds
Nigerian women take it as an art, it's like a skill they learnt in school

V.O.G. (violation of generalizing)

eldee:

Not caring?? C'mon . . . I don't need you to be 'caring' when we just met last week
The average nigerian lady thinks a date is a ritual that shows commitment
Questions like, 'I called you twice and you didn't pick, where were you?'
Erm . . . it's just a flipping dinner

So then why don't you open your God given mouth and speak? If you notice the particular chick you kickin it with aint understanding that what you got between yal aint no commitment. . . . then just say it. Aren't you the same one who rants about women expecting their man to be a mind reader? Well it seems like the table has changed.

eldee:

Aight . . . tell me which Brit dishes out eye gestures towards their boyfriend's secetaries??
C'est fini . . . you put it well
Caring is 'how was your day', clingy is calling every hour to see how your day's been going

Oka you have to understand that EVERYONE is clingy to a degree. Men and Women.

naija chicks?!!!!
Possessive is an understatement.

To lend credence to it there's one hitting da buzz key on my YIM right now it's drivin me nuts!!

NiyiRocks!:

naija chicks?!!!!
Possessive is an understatement.
To lend credence to it there's one hitting da buzz key on my YIM right now it's drivin me nuts!!

Stop exaggerating. . . . it is so phony and unnecessary.

onyinye2:

V.O.G. (violation of generalizing)

As I told you before, I've been in, witnessed and heard of enough cases to form an opinion
You know the truth, let's not call the kettle blueish, metallic, scalded black . . . Nigerian ladies get clingy from the start
That's why you hear them saying 'he used and dumped me' when he didn't promise commitment in the first place

onyinye2:

So then why don't you open your God given mouth and speak? If you notice the particular chick you kickin it with aint understanding that what you got between yal aint no commitment. . . . then just say it. Aren't you the same one who rants about women expecting their man to be a mind reader? Well it seems like the table has changed.

Tell me how to say 'Please hun, you really need to back off now, let's slow down with this' without putting a Nigerian chic on suicide watch?
It still boils down to the 'Every relationship must end in marriage' thing that they grew up with
As TOH said, a nigerian sees a chic that goes on three dinner dates in a week is seen as a slut
And now look at you describing being possesive as 'caring' . . . hmmn dark days ahead for us ooh

onyinye2:

Stop exaggerating. . . . it is so phony and unnecessary.

NiyiRocks!:

naija chicks?!!!!
Possessive is an understatement.

To lend credence to it there's one hitting da buzz key on my YIM right now it's drivin me nuts!!

Hehehe . . . word on the street is nigerian chics invented flashing before GSM [/b]came to naija
I wonder how they survived when it was still [b]snail mail and P.O Box

eldee:

As I told you before, I've been in, witnessed and heard of enough cases to form an opinion
You know the truth, let's not call the kettle blueish, metallic, scalded black . . . Nigerian ladies get clingy from the start
That's why you hear them saying 'he used and dumped me' when he didn't promise commitment in the first place

Oka what ladies have you been dating? Like on the real. . . . it sounds like you attract insecure women. Because yes i admit there are women who tend to be on the clingy side. But you have to remember there is a lot of women who see no need to be clingy. A woman who is clingy from the start is a red flag for the rest of the relationship.

eldee:

Tell me how to say 'Please hun, you really need to back off now, let's slow down with this' without putting a Nigerian chic on suicide watch?
It still boils down to the 'Every relationship must end in marriage' thing that they grew up with
As TOH said, a nigerian sees a chic that goes on three dinner dates in a week is seen as a slut
And now look at you describing being possesive as 'caring' . . . hmmn dark days ahead for us ooh

Just simply tell her from the start that you aint looking for no relationship and leave at that. I mean i can't stand people who whine about things going on in the relationship when you were given opportunity after opportunity to set boundaries. Just open your mouth and speak. Simple as that.

My brain exploded trying to go through that gibberish

snicker on the guy? remembered you something?