Busy_body:

He proposed

cold:

Well it depends,if u'v bin datin then it's genuine.But if u guys just met then u nid to pray hard.Taq it from a brother who shld now,u're caught between a rock & a hard place.

sistawoman:

So how are things with your boyfriend?

I think the guy was just gisting with you. (please don't shoot me if i just used gist in the wrong context).

Tgirl4real:

Iyalode, na u be this. u dey wait make i post

Busy_body:

Don't make me vex plus you o You know say sleep no fit catch me since because of your issues na

@ topic

Same thing happened to me too. I have met a lot of desperate guys in my time.

Ist time, 2nd and 3rd time: I will take care of you and give you what your man can't give you. Let me prove I can take care of you. Turned them down and said no thanks. One of the creeps wanted to get me a brand new car, was barely 17 and not old enough to get a driving licence.

4th time: I'm serious let's go for counselling in church. Turned him down. Bumped into him the week after, yes the week after he proposed, and he said he though about things and felt the age difference would be a problem, because of taste in music, outlook in life, etc. He's 30, I was 21. Can you imagine, we did not even go on a date, only spoke for a maximum of three hours the one week I knew him.

5th time: Was prepared to hand over the deeds to his 12 properties because he wanted to marry wife. Thank God and his lucky stars I don't date people for their wallet.

6th time: Let's elope and get married, you understand me more than my girlfrirend, said my ex's best friend. Literarily kicked him to the curb.

7th time: Can I take you on a date now that your man has dumped you? I told you when we first met that you were going to be my wife, you just didn't know it. guess what I did? Married him after 5 years . this is not the same guy as the sixth one o.And I can say he is not desperate because he waited for my three years relationship to fizzle out before making his moves again.

Tgirl4real:

Could it be that some say it just to get the attention of a serious lady

If the lady accept the proposal and starts a rel wt d guy, would u term her a fool

Busy_body:


Don't do it.

They often do it because they are desperate and as a competition with other guys.

Tgirl4real:

Make i gist you small wetin make d guy wan marry in a week. He saw my pix somewhere online, added me as a friend and also to his messenger list and decided to buzz.

He said he likes what he saw. That i'm beautiful and i have a good _samba only God knows what that means to him because he certainly has a diff def. He says i have a lovely skin  _{how e take see i no know} and i'm someone he would love to wake up to see everyday.

k1banty:

@tgirl4real

it seems you have a small likeness for this guy that want to marry you. Don't tell me it's the first time a guy will use marriage or other material things to trap you into getting intimate with him.


Be honest, if you like him then accept his proposal and wait for the consequences of your foolish act.


Marriage is a good thing.

Busy_body:

I guessed as much. When you have a friendly and comely face and a figure to die for, you get a lot of desperate guys trying to prove what they are not. They have thoughts like "can i afford her", "my friends would respect and rever me for my taste", "she seems out of my league", "wow i'm lucky i'm talking to her" etc, then feel the need to prove they can compete for your hand in marriage. They forget to profess that they love you, and start telling you all what they have and their material possesion, instead to sway you. 

That's why I say it is an act of desperation. I prefer the guy to give me ample time to show my true colour and see if i am still worth it after a few months, and see if they can handle me, rather than jump in with rose-tinted glasses because they see fine gyal.

Tgirl4real:


. . . Iyalode, i just checked your location, no be aro _{yaba left} u described so

Busy_body:



^{come again}

topup:

Don't listen to it, if someone told you that. It means NOTHING, his behaviour is what matters most. If you respond to it by being more intimate with him, it could have just been a ploy to get you to see him in a more romantic light. If you're not currently going out, or the best of friends, or have known each other for years, then the guy is just testing the waters to see how gullable you are, or he is really desperate for marriage, who knows he could have said the same thing to another girl last week, but she rejected him.

Don't let him make up your mind for you or rush you, if you weren't interested in him before, this shouldn't change things.

Busy_body:

That's why I say it is an act of desperation. I prefer the guy to give me ample time to show my true colour and see if i am still worth it after a few months, and see if they can handle me, rather than jump in with rose-tinted glasses because they see fine gyal.

Yup, and if they leave then good ridance, because the marriage would have probably been disasterous if he couldn't handle me after a few months

Tgirl4real:

Of course, it wont change things. I'm just marvelled at the level guys can go to get a lady.