Tunde loves Bukky! that's better!

I really don't see the big deal here. my closest friend is a guy. i get along very well with the girl he's dating and it ain't an issue.

i respect her position. i also understand when she needs to be in charge and alone with her guy, cus am also in a relationship and understand how it could be tough sometimes dealing with certain issues relating to the opposite sex.

So such situation depends on the individuals involved and how well do they handle the situation.

My advise to bukky. She should try and deal with her insecurities, she should see tope as a friend rather than a competitor. She should get herself more involved in whatever activities they both doing.

Tunde himself ain't helping matters. he should be understanding. he should involve bukky in whatever activities he's doing. he should also try and spend more time with bukky, at least to create that security. he should know he's got a gf now and she comes first no matter how long he's been friends with tope, except he's got feelings for tope and is hiding under the canopy of friendship.

if Tunde ain't be understanding and she ain't still comfortable with the whole thing, then she has no option than to pull out and save herself the heart ache.

I've succeeded in bringing the 3 parties involved here to read this thread. Am putting a call across to Tope now to know her opinion. BRB with more info.

na wa oo na wa oo

Such tunde and tope kind of relationship is not healthy, yes they have nothing going on,he is cheating on buky emotionally and deep down one of them may be feeling something strong. I bet if that tope of a girl has a man of her own , for the sake of love tunde claimed to have for buky, he should distance himself from tope. If tope truly values her friendship with tunde and wants his happiness she should have respect for buky's feeling. Boys and girls are not friends Biko. As one priest will say, man and women don't say rosary together. My 2 cents though,