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Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by smile4kenn(m): 12:13pm On Sep 12, 2008
Statistics show that around the world, the number of unmarried women is growingly steadily and economists predict it will continue to do so.

The TV series "Sex and the City" helped change the image of the single woman in her 30s from one of a lonely desperate spinster to a woman who is in charge of her own economic and sexual destiny.

But what is it like being a single woman in Africa today?

Are single women still seen as social failures, or do men find women with successful careers too intimidating to date? That's the view of Nigerian writer Shola Dada. Do you agree?

If you are a single woman over 30 in Africa, do you feel socially stigmatised? Or, if you are a man, would you hesitate to date a woman over 30 who's successful in her career
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by iice(f): 5:59pm On Sep 12, 2008
I think still stigmatized
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by freakyy(m): 6:44pm On Sep 12, 2008
I actually have a thing for Independent Women,
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by chykeo(m): 6:51pm On Sep 12, 2008
I find career women over 30's very interesting and fascinating. I love thier independence and some are very focussed. Well men who feel intimidated just have a complex problem. I think they are challanging and compelling. I love meeting them.

Stigmatising them is ignorance. Moreover, unless women accept polygamy, let's face the fact that women outnumber men therefore I cant see every woman having a man. Check Isiah 4:1

It is not bad being single
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by martho(m): 7:16pm On Sep 12, 2008
chykeo:

I find career women over 30's very interesting and fascinating. I love their independence and some are very focussed. Well men who feel intimidated just have a complex problem. I think they are challanging and compelling. I love meeting them.

Stigmatising them is ignorance. Moreover, unless women accept polygamy, let's face the fact that women outnumber men therefore I can't see every woman having a man. Check Isiah 4:1

It is not bad being single
right but not forever,nobody likes to be single.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by omoovie(f): 12:58am On Sep 13, 2008
Unequivocally - Yes and No.

Yes - I can dictate how and where all aspects of my life should go without having to consider anybody if I don't want to. I can cook when I feel like it, wear whatever the heck I want to wear and be however I want to be - loud and brash or quiet and stately or just chic/sophisticated without having to hide my opinions. There is something rather liberating about not having to worry about a husband and children and being able to go on trips and order your own finances.

However,

No - The loneliness is disheartening even when you have great friends. There is only so much a best friend can do for you as a female or even a male best friend if you guys will never be an item. God created human beings to love so that yearning will always be there.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by Sisikill: 7:45am On Sep 13, 2008
If you are single, enjoy it and when you get married, you enjoy that too. Simple.

What's the point of lamenting about where you are?
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by coolboy100(m): 7:58am On Sep 13, 2008
NO! NO!! NO!!!
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by Sisikill: 8:12am On Sep 13, 2008
WHY? WHY? WHY?

Give me a break! Saying it's bad is just another form of scare tactics guys use to have the upper hand. It's comes right after "Men are Scarce" and before "No other man will want you". . . Yeah, right rolls eye
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by smile4kenn(m): 11:09am On Sep 13, 2008
Being single in Africa is no different from being single in any other part of the world. I do agree however, that its harder for a highly educated lady holding a well paying job to get a partner. That said however, there is a change in the way men relate with women in this mordern world. Some men are begining to realise the improtance/advantage of having a partner who is an equal but this will take a while before its fully accepted in some parts of Africa.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by eldee(m): 12:16pm On Sep 13, 2008
Sisikill:

If you are single, enjoy it and when you get married, you enjoy that too. Simple.

What's the point of lamenting about where you are?
Why does this remind me bout 'em 'Big is Beautiful' crap we hear on Oprah and Tyra??

smile4kenn:

Being single in Africa is no different from being single in any other part of the world.

BEEP!!! Wrong
The African soceity is family-oriented
Women that choose to be single are seen as weird, hence the pressure from the family
The joy of the average african is only topped when he/she sees all his/her children 'settled'
And do I have to tell you the african definition of 'settled'??
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by MrCrackles(m): 12:18pm On Sep 13, 2008
if a woman wants to remain single, is that not her problem?

whatever is good for a woman, a woman would do!

if she wants to die a virgin, so be it!! grin
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by eldee(m): 12:26pm On Sep 13, 2008
Brash!:

if a woman wants to remain single, is that not her problem?
whatever is good for a woman, a woman would do!

if she wants to die a virgin, so be it!! grin
In the ideal, politically correct society . . . YES!!!
In the ideal, politically correct society, there's no discrimination based on gender, marital status, sexual orientation or financial status

Is Nigeria the ideal, politically correct society?? That's the question!!!
Remember the topic's bout African women
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by bluespice(f): 12:55pm On Sep 13, 2008
its good either way
one has to find the attraction in it
either way i love being single
dont mean i wouldnt get hitched sometime
but while am single, im loving every moment of it
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by MissyB1(m): 1:09pm On Sep 13, 2008
smile4kenn:

do men find women with successful careers too intimidating to date? That's the view of Nigerian writer Shola Dada. Do you agree?


A woman's opulence can sometimes daunt men.
Only men within or above her staus can walk up to her for
a relationship.Failure for these men to come by might
lead to her being single.Sometimes she is even too busy with work
to socialise and of course men wouldn't come up
to her bedroom to ask her out.

While in other cases,some of these women voluntarily
made the decision of being single.

IS IT GOOD TO BE A SINGLE WOMAN?
Every individual will have to answer that for themselves.
If at a point in my life I decide to remain single. . . Then
good for me as long as I don't become a nuisance to the society,
I'm as good as every other married woman.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by mecussey(m): 1:42pm On Sep 13, 2008
Let me ask these question, are some women born to be single? because, to every male born there is 10 females; and no body is doing polygamy again. Therefore, it is obvious that some women must stay single; but its a bad idea because most of them don't feel happy in it. Thank God, I am not a woman; and to the shy guys who is affraid to toast, you should understand that women really need you and you will be a minus if you don't try it, so dont be affraid to toast the queen of England. Lets join hands and reduce the number of single women.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by bluespice(f): 1:45pm On Sep 13, 2008
bwauhahahaha! a call to action!
lest save the ladies some disgrace
bull shit i say

the idea of women being more than men is true
but saying men should hook up to "reduce the number of single ladies"
is both laughable and demeaning
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by mecussey(m): 1:59pm On Sep 13, 2008
Yes, it may be laughable; but there is no other way out than to make all men effective. wink
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by MissyB1(m): 2:03pm On Sep 13, 2008
mecussey:

Let me ask these question, are some women born to be single? because, to every male born there is 10 females;
Where did you get ur statistic from?
I'm aware that 42.7 percent of statistics are made up on
the spot.
Mine excluded tho. tongue
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by mecussey(m): 2:16pm On Sep 13, 2008
Missy B, you should be current now, don't tell me you re timid about this; go to any hospital, the doctor always come out with 10 BBGs and 1 BBB average. Come to the church, they rejoice more with BBGs than BBB. Come to my secondary school class; 45 girls and 13 boys, the same in the UNIs. Go to Oshodi market etc, its real; forget Nigerian census, if you are looking at it from their.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by MissyB1(m): 2:24pm On Sep 13, 2008
After giving ur xamples,lemme give you mine also.

In ma sec.skl days-20 boys and 12 girls. cool
Currently-15 boys 10 girls shocked
Where I work 2 boys and 1 girl
My family-1 boy and 1 girl

So?
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by mecussey(m): 2:38pm On Sep 13, 2008
Missy B:

After giving your xamples,let me give you mine also.

In ma sec.skl days-20 boys and 12 girls. cool
Currently-15 boys 10 girls shocked
Where I work 2 boys and 1 girl
My family-1 boy and 1 girl

So?

:oEhhn, may be na big man area you dey grin
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by smile4kenn(m): 3:11pm On Sep 13, 2008
Lets face it,man who feels threatened by a successfull single woman are failures in life themselves and will be more comfortable being with a woman who they can tramp and trash. Stigmatising single woman in their 30s is a sure sign of narrow-mindedness.There is more to a woman than having babies and cooking and any man who understands this would give his woman freedom to make her choices,one of them being the choice to or not to marry at any age.iam for sure attracted to successful single women

WILSON CHENGETA
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by Nobody: 3:18pm On Sep 13, 2008
Single women rule! grin
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by smile4kenn(m): 8:12am On Sep 14, 2008
Is it good to be a single African woman? NO.Though social, economic and financial comfort might say otherwise, I believe a single woman does not feel complete. Though she might say otherwise. The real question is why stay single. Is by choice or by design. By choice, I would say misguided, change your thoughts,, , by design, I would say change the design, it is okay to run in the opposite direction. A lot of men are not intimidated by successful women.
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by Gabry(f): 8:35am On Sep 14, 2008
@ Poster,

I have been single for 20 over years and I love it and now that I am in a relationship for 1 year plus now, I am loving it as well. So I think it all depends on individual I guess
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by florapete: 5:53pm On Sep 14, 2008
There is nothing wrong with being single.it depends on how some women see it.From my own opinion being single could be fun
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by nana(f): 5:59pm On Sep 14, 2008
I LOVE BEING SINGLE cheesy kiss
Re: Is It Good To Be A Single Woman? by oziomatv(m): 6:21pm On Sep 14, 2008
some like it some don't.

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