Dear Nairaland,
My boyfriend hates tithing and strongly believes it's a waste of money but I am the exact opposite of that line of thinking. I also believe that if a man exhibits a particular behavior, he may never change it even after marriage. I'm a bit worried that if i go ahead and marry him, I may be compromising my faith because he may never accept the truth behind tithing. I'm not sure whether he'll change because anytime i bring up the issue of tithing, he goes ballistic and prefers to believe that it's a weapon used by pastors to con their laity. We tend to agree on everything but what if we get married and combine our income, will it be possible for me to stash away 10% of our combined income for God's work? Won't that make him go haywire if he looks at the statement of account?.

The real question will be: Do i marry him and displease God or do I ignore God's word and marry him since I love him so much?

DeepZone:

Dear Nairaland,
My boyfriend hates tithing and strongly believes it's a waste of money but I am the exact opposite of that line of thinking. I also believe that if a man exhibits a particular behavior, he may never change it even after marriage. I'm a bit worried that if i go ahead and marry him, I may be compromising my faith because he may never accept the truth behind tithing. I'm not sure whether he'll change because anytime i bring up the issue of tithing, he goes ballistic and prefers to believe that it's a weapon used by pastors to con their laity. We tend to agree on everything but what if we get married and combine our income, will it be possible for me to stash away 10% of our combined income for God's work? Won't that make him go haywire if he looks at the statement of account?.

The real question will be: Do i marry him and displease God or do I ignore God's word and marry him since I love him so much?

Dump HIM and marry PATAKI.
Pataki is a strong believer of paying tithes.

Dump HIM and marry PATAKI.
Pataki is a strong believer of paying tithes

God forbid!. You have to get a job first before talking about tithes. That broke ass negro needs a JAB.

Every woman wants a fulfilled marriage



sorry to say dis,but for moi,i cant marry such a person

but its ur life,u know wats right and wrong

ur conscience is d answer to ur question

Lol that's enough for you to be worry about whether marrying him or not? Funny person

I agree with your bf. That aside, dont tell me a whole "women this men that" Funmi would actually get married and rely solely on a joint account? How depressing.

Use your OWN account for tithing and leave his money alone. Let the joint account be used for family expenses

Simple.

[s]Funmi, seriously, if you want to get better advice, one that is more considerable than all this NL rubbish advices, find a friend or family to talk to.
Personally, I would not discuss my personal life publicly like this on NL.
I understand that some advice are worth listening to, but seriously. . . .seriously, think about it


Well, this is my 2cent sha.
Some things are better off left at home [/s]

DeepZone:

God forbid!. You have to get a job first before talking about tithes. That broke ass negro needs a JAB.

Th hell is a jab?

rampagain:

sorry to say this,but for moi,i can't marry such a person

Cos of tithing?   Quite a number of Christians don't believe in it. You may bring up Malachi calling for it and they will bring up Hebrew which dismisses it.

Ruby_Pearl:

[s]Funmi, seriously, if you want to get better advice, one that is more considerable than all this NL rubbish advices, find a friend or family to talk to.
Personally, I would not discuss my personal life publicly like this on NL.
I understand that some advice are worth listening to, but seriously. . . .seriously, think about it


Well, this is my 2cent sha.
Some things are better off left at home [/s]

Let's just say she's in trouble the next time we bump heads

KarmaMod:

Lol that's enough for you to be worry about whether marrying him or not? Funny person

I agree with your boyfriend. That aside, don't tell me a whole "women this men that" Funmi would actually get married and rely solely on a joint account? How depressing.

Use your OWN account for tithing and leave his money alone. Let the joint account be used for family expenses

Simple.

Seriously.
This days, men thinks women are after the money than other things. It's annoying like hell!^{scratches self}

@karma

everybody to his or her own

i love tithing,and i really dont care if d pastor eats d money or not,its wat my spirit agrees wt and so i do it

if others dont fine

thank God i did not end up a  man dat will slap me wen i men tion tithing

LMAO!!!!!!!!!

Female power out the window LOL
I always had female down as a lesbian due to all her male bashing!

This is a suprise!!!

At the end of the day you cant change how he thinks but that shouldnt stop you doing what you believe is right. Nor should it stop you marrying him!!!

P.S I dont believe in joint accounts its best everyone has their own personal AND a joint account.

Lol that's enough for you to be worry about whether marrying him or not? Funny person

I agree with your boyfriend. That aside, don't tell me a whole "women this men that" Funmi would actually get married and rely solely on a joint account? How depressing.

Use your OWN account for tithing and leave his money alone. Let the joint account be used for family expenses

Simple.

You think I've not thought about that? Wouldn't that be lying unto God since his income is part of my earnings?

Suit urself gurl, do wat u know is the best.

wht is deepzone starting useless threads, neva was the posters style, hmmm

DeepZone:

Wouldn't that be lying unto God since his income is part of my earnings?

How would you be "lying to God"

DeepZone:

You think I've not thought about that? Wouldn't that be lying unto God since his income is part of my earnings?

Is he paying you to be his wife?

Funmi, seriously, if you want to get better advice, one that is more considerable than all this NL rubbish advices, find a friend or family to talk to.
Personally, I would not discuss my personal life publicly like this on NL.
I understand that some advice are worth listening to, but seriously. . . .seriously, think about it


Well, this is my 2cent sha.
Some things are better off left at home

You pick the ones you can and leave others as chaff. Besides, you never can tell someone may come out with an idea that is yet to occur to you. I may be a deviant and an amazon, but i don't mess with God. I'd rather stay on my own than go to hell because of a man.

DeepZone:

You pick the ones you can and leave others as chaff. Besides, you never can tell someone may come out with an idea that is yet to occur to you. I may be a deviant and an amazon, but i don't mess with God. I'D rather stay on my own than go to hell because of a man.

i love dis outlined statement

yea I'm sure God's requirement for hell is tithing. Not the fact that you are guilty of bashing other females, it's only tithe the Lord will for because He needs your money. Ar you drunk tonight?

and for someone who claims to be so close to God, what was that crack about reading OK mag more than the Bible?

Karma you are wicked

DeepZone:

God forbid!. You have to get a job first before talking about tithes. That broke ass negro needs a JAB.

U need help!!!!

Sit your stingy boy/friend down and tell him the reasons tithing is important.
Loads of cats don't understand it and since the spirit lives in you(i hope this aint no blasphemy ), it's your duty to teach the tight-fisted cunt.
This should teach u a lesson. . . . . .Stop dating twitz!!!

How would you be "lying to God"

Because his money is mine and mine is his'. What if there is a conflict of interest along the line especially if we run into financial murky waters? Do you think he'll let me rest if i continue to write checks to the church?

LadyT:

P.S I don't believe in joint accounts its best everyone has their own personal AND a joint account.

HELL YEAH!!!! [/b]I'm a strong believer that married folk should resist have only one sole account. They should have a joint account and their personal one. Just having one sole account is asking trouble, in fact you are past asking for trouble. You invited it to come and relax in your house. Pull up its feet and watch its destruction begin.

Anyways. . . . . tithing is a [b]PERSONAL thing. If you choose to tithe, oya then tithe. If you choose not to tithe, then don't. But just don't belittle those who do. I personally tithe, and have been since i was like a child. I mean I just feel that it is right to give back to what the Lord has blessed me with. But if my partner choose not to tithe, so be it. I aint going to cross him out of my life. That is [b]HIS [/b]decision and choice with God. I mean I might try and persuade him but if he feels that it is not what he believes in, who am I to try and confirm him into doing so? I wouldn't want him doing such to me, so I should I do to him? So just let life be life, and let him do whatever. It is [b]HIS [/b]relationship with God, not yours.

yea I'm sure God's requirement for hell is tithing. Not the fact that you are guilty of bashing other females, it's only tithe the Lord will for because He needs your money. Ar you drunk tonight?

and for someone who claims to be so close to God, what was that crack about reading OK mag more than the Bible?

I don not yield to tantrums from any moral police again. Thank you, it's not worth my time.

I don't understand this NL people sef. Even the creepiest ones are preaching the words of God

DeepZone:

Because his money is mine and mine is his'. What if there is a conflict of interest along the line especially if we run into financial murky waters? Do you think he'll let me rest if i continue to write checks to the church?

Your money. Your checks to write.

All that "money is his, mine is his yada yada" doenst work if its for something both of you dont agree with which is why you have it come from your money first then the rest of the money can go to the joint account

You need help!!!!

Sit your stingy boy/friend down and tell him the reasons tithing is important.
Loads of cats don't understand it and since the spirit lives in you(i hope this aint no blasphemy Grin), it's your duty to teach the tight-fisted cunt.
This should teach u a lesson. . . . . .Stop dating twitz!!!

May be I should put a gun to his head and force him to make out a check to God, abi?


I heard the red light zone is on strike, how are you fairing?

LadyT:

Karma you are wicked  

Karma's been called a bitch so many times so I'll gladly take wicked  

[size=4pt]how are you, dear?[/size]  

I don't understand this NL people sef. Even the creepiest ones are preaching the words of God

That's why Nairaland is diverse and rich in culture.

LOL@Funmi wondering about dumping her husband to be.

If he ever stumbles across this site (thats if hes real) She will be dumped quicker than you can say HOTFUNMI LMAO

You better hold on tight you know time is not on your side!

@Karma

DeepZone:

May be I should put a gun to his head and force him to make out a check to God, abi?

Stop acting like a crazed ram. . . . .

Use your own money to pay your tithes. . .
Joint account or no joint account(ya paycheck is your paycheck).
Take your 10% out and give to God. . . . . I doubt your boy/f would complain about that UNLESS he is a freeloader.
If he doesn't want to tithe. . . .His loss.

@Lady T,

Your picture looks gorgeous. I really like the braids in your hair.