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Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 4:59pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
Ify Angela: not all. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 5:02pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
I dnt adhere to rules in terms of relationship, It shud be as d spirit leads. 1 Like |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
craziebone:aiite |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 5:42pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
obayaya:lol,u dey jonz |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 5:45pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
5yrs and if you are a SpaceGooat 15yrs |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by SpaceGooat: 5:46pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
Mondisweets: 5yrs and if you are a SpaceGooat 15yrs Elantracey: as long as u cansee them |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by bootstrap(m): 5:53pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
ok.. let me ask this, you ladies and guys. If a guy asks to take a lady out for a movie or something and she says ok (Ps: the guy if footing the bills), then its the D-day, 1hrs bfor hr zero, you call her, and she says.... ohhh, sorry, something came up, i cnt make it. What do you call that plz..... its possible something came up, but then nothing stops her frm calling to inform the guy way before the time, or maybe she forgot about the appointment. I used a movie just as an example. Other instances abound.... frm "i am coming to visit you noon sunday" to "yes, dinner is good for tuesday" My brain finds it difficult to differentiate between when she is not interested, when she wants you to chase or when she is simply an unreliable person. (the later being my usual take.. and thats why i generally walk away) What i dont understand is.... these things shld be easy, straight forward. Maybe its weird to me because i am kind of crazy about schedule, dates and time. If i make a date, i save that date in stone, except its a life threatening situation, i always keep to my dates and times. And if i cnt make it, i make sure i call i good time to cancel. So i dnt understand how some ladies wld make a date, decide to cancel, and yet would not inform you until u call few hrs or minutes before the date. So do these ladies cancel because they want guys to keep asking and chasing or they cancel because it makes them feel sophisticated? 5 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 6:06pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
I think this ish of chasing after a lady is a bit over stretched by a lot of guys. Yeah, I have fallen into that web of 'lady-chasing'. Matter of factly, I have 'chased' after a lady for a little over a year but the truth is, no matter how long or short we chase, marriage will come when it comes. I don't think it has anything to do with how long or short we do the chasing. Granted, there are some ladies who are worth chasing but still chasing for me shouldn't be the in-thing. I think taking one bit at a time is more like it. If you like a lady then first try and be her friend. If you guys become great friends as time goes on and you too are quite compatible and comfortable with each other then would be the right time to ask her out. After-all, we all want to get married to our best friend. 2 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by obayaya(m): 7:00pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
Harbosede02: lol,u dey jonz |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 7:06pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
One week, |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by acidtalk: 7:56pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
@Op, was thinking of this same issue over the weekend after having this same topic with the guys (age between 30-38years). Was scared of starting up this topic so that the nairaland babies won't bombard it and derail the topic. The most irritating is ladies giving out their number knowing well they will never pick up the guy's call or intentionally cutting it within 1minute and refuse to pick up afterwards. I believe those with thing nasty attitude are the ones who think they are still young and attractive as so suitors will still keep coming. The ladies who are in their late 20s and mid 30s will dare not attempt such silly "forming". That's why dating older ladies is advisable in some instances. 2 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
bootstrap: ok.. let me ask this, you ladies and guys.hmmm different strokes for different ladies. If i did that to a guy then it means i wasn't into him cos if i was i would've called to say i wouldn't make it instead of waiting till the d-day and him doing the calling. Like someone posted, 'a girl wouldn't waste your time if she really likes you' 1 Like |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by laphta(m): 8:07pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
neva liked d waitin game. pisses me off, nd i take it as a sign dat she is not into me. don't gals will waste ur time if dey liked u. 1 Like |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by laphta(m): 8:09pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
it just recently happened to me nd i found out one of my guyz was already shootin for her so i left. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Cecediva(f): 8:18pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
2-4 months...i need alot of time to think abt it first |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Beetwaise(m): 8:22pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
@OP,some guys are simply like that, I think the reason is to preserve their ego or let me use self-esteem in this context. Sometimes, ladies are meant to be wooed/chased but when they keep shying away from your advances better back off bro to avoid any contemptuous act. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 8:23pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
bootstrap: so... I am a 30yrs old guy, quite good looking, got a good job, comfortable, straight and single. Recently, i have been doing some self appraisal as to why i am still single (boring summer break, away frm school work has its issues..lol). I find that i am not a love-dovie kind of guy. I just am more of a 'reason' dude. You are not alone bro. Don't stress too much, the one that will click with you will cluck. Use your precious time to add value to your business, life, etc.... Take a vacation, give yourself a good treat and keep doing your thing. 4 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by tolutweety(m): 8:33pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
bootstrap: ok.. let me ask this, you ladies and guys. We are in the same shoe . There is this lady that act so non-chalant about our friendship (doesnt call, text or show any iota of care if i dnt ), but the truth is whenever i overlook all dt and calls her, we get talkin real good and she gives this really annoying excuse of 'she being that type of person-introvert type that has to be compelled to come out of her shell' and being always busy with her final yr project n all. The truth is a part of me wants to give her time-which she asked for ,coz she's really someone i would love to have a future with (she's nt just evry other girl), the other part of me keeps asking how long are you going to keep waiting . P.S : we v been friends for more than a yr , thou distance between us has been another itch we had to cope with. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 8:55pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
bootstrap:Dude, you just have to adjust your principles if you truly wanna marry an homie lady and live with homie lady cuz it shall give you problem in the future ! The fastest way to catch a girl without being rejected is to make her to be interested in you by delving into what she is interested in : the relationship is gonna be mutual and siiiiiaaam u go zeal am ! I discovered that when you put girls to be responsible for their actions as they usually do to we guys phhhhiiiiian , they will run away ..... Or recoil from you despite you probably being the best for 'em !! Therefore, I used Op's tactics whenever I wanna put a girl @ arms length i.e OYO ooo !! Though whenever I'm ready to really settle down for marriage , I will have to play the script Nigerian way , stalking , calling , chasing , visiting : Blahblah , Though it is irritating but no be to use am put the girl for house ? Also, If u knack the girl just once , she will be the one chasin you until then .... Na you ooo My maximum chasing period is always one week after which I friendzone the girl .... No Time 4 time self !! 2 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by ogawisdom(m): 9:35pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
bootstrap: ok.. let me ask this, you ladies and guys. Women r sometimes very difficult to understand. D bottomline is dt once u show too much interest in a gal she ll nt take u seriously again. Cancellin dates is jst a game sometimes designed to heightened d other person's interest but it doesn't work at times. Try to give them three chances n if they dnt honour appointments then u can back off. Sometimes u can cancel dates for no reason too, it makes u look cool at her eyes n less desperate. Women r purely emotional beings n if u r nt hittin on her emotions she ll nt feel much for u. Stop taking dates wit gals too seriously, learn to forget it too. Blow hot n cold abt it. Read more abt attraction n chemistry 2 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 9:55pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
tolutweety:I knew my guts couldn't be wrong. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by ebullientV(m): 10:14pm On Jul 01, 2014 |
Harbosede02: Do sum gurls still play hard to get ni??Hello miss .. We meet again! How r U doing? |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 2:32am On Jul 02, 2014 |
ebullientV: Hello miss .. We meet again! How r U doing?guess am good u?? |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 3:59am On Jul 02, 2014 |
Harbosede02: Do sum gurls still play hard to get ni?? Will you be my girlfriend please ? Mind you, you're not allowed to play hard to get. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by sexylogan(m): 4:44am On Jul 02, 2014 |
bootstrap: so... I am a 30yrs old guy, quite good looking, got a good job, comfortable, straight and single. Recently, i have been doing some self appraisal as to why i am still single (boring summer break, away frm school work has its issues..lol). I find that i am not a love-dovie kind of guy. I just am more of a 'reason' dude. My guy, the very same thing happened to me recently. I hav had a best friend (female) for close to ten years. An architect, tall, beautiful, smart, decent, a true wife material who has been there for me thru the good times and the bad. She literally knows almost everything there is to know about me. I sat down one day and asked myself...why shudnt I marry this amazing girl? She's everything I've wanted in a woman and a wife. One time I took her out for a dinner date and I asked her to be my gf. She laffed and said that she knew that I was going to ask her that question today...that's how well she knows me. To my surprise she said a week later that she doesn't want us to date only be friends as we always have been. I was like ok...no sweat. Maybe it wasnt meant to be. I moved on. Some weeks later, I met this beautiful babe in church who just by coincidence is also from my place. Some weeks later, we started dating. I called my friend and told her the good news only for her to say that I just broke her heart? That it means I didnt really love her. How could I ask her out just once and not persist? 1 Like |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by xp17(m): 4:53am On Jul 02, 2014 |
Mondisweets: 5yrs and if you are a SpaceGooat 15yrsif u break a sweat, it means you are not using the right tool btw, who does that in 2014?. sexylogan:my bros , she is not doing u a favor to date u. I would just continue with the new church girl , if I were u. u see, if you start up by serial begging, sooner than later ,she will turn you to Julius Berger. starting a relationship with begging is a wrong approach. heaven would bear u witness that you did tried your best by asking her (old friend) to be your girlfriend and she said "NO". u do not apply to much effort loosing a boot from a nut when you are using the right wrench/spanner. mk she carry her shakara go . mecheeew! 7 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by bootstrap(m): 6:00am On Jul 02, 2014 |
sexylogan: Sorry mehn to hear, It can be sad a times. I just wonder why some ladies think they doing you a favour by being ur gf. its a symbiotic stuff, give and take. I guess its her loss. Wish you the very best with ur new gf 2 Likes |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 6:05am On Jul 02, 2014 |
xp17: if u break a sweat, it means you are not using the right toolyour grandfathers used to do it, why cant you? |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by bootstrap(m): 6:05am On Jul 02, 2014 |
ogawisdom: Actually, i dnt take women generally too seriously, especially when it comes to friendship and all. So, generally i put a lot of thought in, before asking any lady for a date. I am just a principled person, i dnt think its cool to be inconsistent and unreliable. I either agree to a date, tell you NO straight up.... or tell you, let me chck for the date and get back to you (of which i always will). |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by ebullientV(m): 6:21am On Jul 02, 2014 |
Harbosede02: guess am good u??I guess I'm good too . Good 2 know d NL 'crash' didn't affect U.. |
Re: How Long Is Long Enough To Chase After A Lady? by Nobody: 6:55am On Jul 02, 2014 |
It's disrespectful to "forget" a date we planned out and not alerting me prior to her not being able to make it. I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect to my time. That's just my personal boundary. If we are going to do anything after that display of unreliability, she is going to have to re-initiate it herself. It's the adult thing to do. If she is too "small-of-mind" to do that, then I have no use for such "shaky" females in my life as she clearly has either flawed judgement/expectations or isn't interested. |
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