Both men and women that have been through tough relationships end up feeling like they aren’t worthy of being loved. The effects of a bad relationship can be so traumatizing that people end up building walls to avoid intimacy and commitment to others.

They begin to attach the feeling of pain and misery to the feeling of love. They know that although they might be able to fall in love with someone, in the end, they will only end up getting hurt. They have concluded that it’s better to avoid love entirely then to put themselves out there again only to be let down.

They may have gotten out of a tough relationship, maybe a long one, and met someone that made them feel so happy and special only to have it end in disaster again. They may have done this several times before they gave up on love entirely — experiencing heartbreak after heartbreak, loss after loss, and going from an extreme high to an extremely low and dark place.

This is why falling in love can be viewed as a bad thing. From that point on everyone is the same and no one is given a fair chance. The defense and walls built up are so high that it keeps out everyone.

If you build your walls too high to keep others out, you can end up keeping yourself out as well. This allows you to hide from who you really are and how you really feel. You are denying yourself the pleasures of this life, including happiness.

Who said it's a bad thing before?

eyah!!!

ERTHAENIGMA: Who said it's a bad thing before?

Okay- Wish you'd fall for the wrong person. Maybe then you'd understand a little.

Nigerian girls don't love.... So to save urself Js enjoy while it last