Seeking love and
commitment can be challenging, as well as
rewarding. It’s challenging because we have
to kiss a few frogs before we actually locate
our prince. It’s rewarding because dating is
an opportunity for self discovery and should
be enjoyable. Just as I shared in the article on
breakups, I strongly believe there are specific
temptations and situations single folks must
avoid.
Here’s 5 Things Single Folks Just Shouldn’t
Do:
Pursue someone who is unavailable.
“Unfaithfulness is a character flaw that we
shouldn’t desire in a potential mate.”
Besides the fact that we all know it’s biblically
wrong, a married man is simply not in a
position to give you the love, time and
commitment you deserve. Why cheat yourself
out of the happiness you are worthy of
receiving? This includes the married but
separated as well as those who are in a
girlfriend/ boyfriend relationship. Someone
who is willing to cheat with you, will definitely
cheat on you! .
Settle or compromise on their core values.
“Our core beliefs, those that make us who we
are, should never be compromised.”
It’s true… in a relationship, sacrifices will need
to be made. There are, however, certain areas
of our lives we should hold dear. Our core
beliefs, those that make us who we are, should
never be compromised. Your Spiritual well
being, your Faith, and your relationship with
Christ should never be sacrificed. A person
who asks us to give up something or
challenges us in a way that alters who we are
really isn’t worthy of our love. Listening to
your intuition is key. If it feels all wrong, it
usually is.
Depend on a relationship to make you happy.
“Honoring who we are with our actions shows
the world just how amazing we are, whether
we’re single or not.”
If you’re not happy with who you are on the
inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term
relationship with anyone else either. You have
to create stability in your own life first before
you can share it with someone else. Being
wise with the choices we make is the
beginning of self-love.
Give in to temptation.
“Make a promise to God, and keep it.”
When you fall in love, it’s natural to want to
express your love in physical ways. But you
also know God wants you to remain sexually
pure—in both your actions and your thoughts.
It’s a tough balance, but showing love for
another while remaining pure is possible.
Decide where you’re going to draw the line,
and tell God that with his help, you are not
going to cross that line until marriage. Don’t
commit to it unless you mean it, though. The
Bible says it’s a serious thing to make a vow
to God. At the same time, realize that you
can’t stick to your promise without his help.
That’s why it’s important to renew your
commitment daily.
Give Up On Love
“Stop rejecting new relationships just because
old ones didn’t work.”
Embrace who and where you are at this
moment. In life you’ll realize that there is a
purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test
you, some will use you and some will teach
you. But most importantly, some will bring out
the best in you. There is nothing wrong with
you. If you are still single, examine your past
relationships, look for common themes and
anything that no longer works for you, be
willing to make some changes. Otherwise,
embrace who and where you are at this
moment. Your being single could represent a
few positive things, like you weren’t willing to
compromise who you are. There are behaviors
and actions that simply don’t serve us well.
Some cause damage and destruction to our
lives. Others bring joy and happiness. The
focus has to shift more toward that joy.
Source: Theprayingwomen.com