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mamateniola1: Good afternoon house. thanks thanks for the prayers.
meanwhilly, bafm, as others have rightly spoken, in as much as you shldnt act on every message you receive but you must try and find out the truth before confronting a man! you think he will say yes, I did it? just be vigilant. i have actually done it before. i sent a message (when you cld still buy sim card without registering it), bought one, sent several messages to the wife of my neighbour (we don't talk but got the wife's number from a saloon she uses) who i always see around my friends area. the way the man behaves, most peeps around there did not believe he get wife and 2kids for house! i broke the sim the moment i accomplished my mission. you can never tell. now that you don sound the trumpet for your husband to start suspecting you know something, you have to be extra vigilant. try the number on this true caller application maybe it will give you the full names, then dig, try google the name, she go be on any of the social forums-facebook, twitter etc, from there you can be putting one plus one together. not to fight yur hubby but to put a stop to it, and save your marriage. i dont believe in not digging when am confronted with message like this, you have the right to know before it gets too late. pls, talk less about it with your hubby and pray for strenght and wisdom to handle whatever comes out your way. its well with you.
toyoscole, pls, dont ever confront your in-laws on any issue again. your fiance might be cool with it now, you can never tell how far he can go. but have you asked why he didnt confront his sister and pretend he never told you about it rather than asking you to go ahead and confront her when the neighbour did not even tell you directly? pls, its dangerous!
hummm, at all. remember my S-I-L that i said doesnt call me whenever she dey come my house? as usual, she came last month and overheard her telling dh she don meet a man she go marry. heeehehheeeee, if you see the way my stomach sweet me! i sang all though when i was taking my bath. she never tell me oh, but if na matter wey dem don break her heart or tripping for a guy who no notice her or in an unhealthy relationship, she go come to me come gist and need advise, now she no even tell me say she meet a man.it concerns me not sha. me am just thanking God that she go soon go her husband's house and will know what it means when her inlaw treats her like she no be part of the family, when her inlaw enters her kitchen and rearrange her things with impunity, burst into her room without knocking. heheeheeheeehe, cant wait for the wedding, my gele go big pass DSTV dish! i thank God say i never confront her all through despite driving me crazy with her insensitive attitudes, they will say its because, she never marry! hummmm

aisha2:
Are you actually hoping that her in laws should treat her badly?
See my problem sometimes with hiding our real feelings. Someone hurts you with their actions tell them and settle it don't manage and act as if all is well while piling it up. Meanwhile I will never understand the my kitchen my pot my soup battle and hope I never do, I have never had any restrictions to food and don't understand the need to restrict others from being free and eating as they please. Each to her own. Am sorry to be so blunt, if I were you I would have a talk with my sister in law and clear out any I'll feelings instead of singing nd waiting for her tale of woes.

aisha2: I agree with their homes their rules hence I said each to her own.
I am trying to understand " going Scot free.
Do we stay hoping and praying that she will also get badly treated? What happens if she gets good in laws and no sob stories?
Is that even christainity? Is revenge justice?

hispinkolo:

Not everyone is a Christian.
Law of karma 'what goes round comes round'..
I just believe as you treat me,especially when unrepentant one day someone will do the same to you.
If she gets fantastic inlaws good for her.
When you do something bad knowingly to someone and someonelse does something equally bad to you is that revenge?nope.thats nature taking its course.
Isn't revenge trying to avenge a wrong done to me by myself?
I wouldn't go out personally to revenge,never.But I know for certain that life will pay you back.

aisha2:

Revenge is hoping and praying something bad happens to someone because you feel they hurt you yet instead of talking to them trying to solve it you act as if all is well yet pray they have it bad.
I agree nor everyone is a Christian.

Whatever makes people sleep better at night sha. For me it's sorting it out and letting go.
Most times down here the offender is actually the last to find out he or she has offended someone everyone gets to know before the offender and chances of healing and moving on for both the offender and offended then so slim

hispinkolo:

Maybe you believe everyone in the world hs good intentions or go round not wanting to hurt people?No
Some people actually go out of their way to hurt others because they feel untouchable or just because they want to.
The fact that you've not encountered them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Not everyone wants to sit down and talk.
That's life.
People are shaped by their experiences.

I disagree strongly with your definition of revenge.Revenge is an action.
Most people don't sit down and pray and hope something bad happens to others.Thats taking it too far.I just believe in the law of karma,that's all.If you hurt someone,at least go back and say sorry.
I'm speaking generally,not as per poster.

aisha2: I agree with their homes their rules hence I said each to her own.
I am trying to understand " going Scot free.
Do we stay hoping and praying that she will also get badly treated? What happens if she gets good in laws and no sob stories?
Is that even christainity? Is revenge justice?

alutacontinua: Chaiiiiiiii!
Women!

Godmystrength: I don't have time for in-laws palava so i have learnt to mind my own business. if i feel offended/hurt by any of my in-laws,i just let my hubby know and i end it there. I won't even refer to it a second time and i care less if he takes action or not. My telling him is just that i don't want to die in silence and also let him know in advance of why i might not be able to go out of my way for someone/somebody.

If you hurt /offend me and i know that my speaking out will cause more harm than good, i keep my mouth shut and be more careful around you.....

Godmystrength: Me i have a new story o and i need advise. will be back with the gist shortly

FynBabe: Hispinkolo, Snazzylove, Godmystrength and all those who are keeping it real on this thread, well done! I can relate 2 so many issues here especially those of Hispinkolo. I just hate it when some people come on-line 2 write what they can never do just to portray themselves as super women/wives. #Fakepeopleeverywhere# I mean, some people claim to have the best of everything @ all times. Hispinkolo, I had a good laugh @ most of your stories. I have my own stories too jare. Most of my in laws are pretenders and sooooooooo fake. They can kneel down(even the ones wey senior me self) just to greet me when hubby is there, call me aunty, madam, all sorts of pet names but for my back na different tory. Somehow, I always get 2find out what they say about me when I'm not there. I hate pretence a lot so I have learnt 2 put them all where they belong after one katakata wey open most of their nyansh. They are so ashamed of themselves now that they I know who they trully are. Long story jare! I will be back.

ladygogo: Na wa o. All in this bid to remain in the husbands house.
Aisha abeg to each their own. You have said my mind.
Make we dey suffer and smile dey go. That's our stock in trade.
I miss kobojunkie.