Only point 19 is sensible to me. Make we dey carry girls like egg abi? I just got jilted and I care for none of them again

psychologist: #21 bj
Tank me later

Pls what is BJ

@OP 14 & 20 contradict themselves don't they?

fijiano202: Some are real advice while some are pure bullshiit

seconded

14 & 20 already contradict. It's a mutual relationship. You want a peaceful home and a long-lasting home, if you're not comfortable with her morals, It's your luck though. You walked into but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to change her Morals.. if she talks bad about your relatives maybe after watching a movie or other bad stuffs, correcting in a "Loving Manner" would do and not just watch like Mumu because you Don't want her angry; it'll only make you explode in anger. She should be free to Correct me too and I should be ready to accept and change.

zboyd:

lol...I miss school!

Those Nigerian professors (and other foreign professors) are very demanding.

Is it THAT obvious?

21
Don't ask him or are to suck or lick your cork of kitty kat

Number 5, 11, 12 and 16.

GentleMimi: Unfortunately,some of us ladies reading this have such low self esteem and no sense of ''self'',and would allow a single man carry out the above and still smile in the name of love.. Some men are really good at using psychological manipulation,and the lady is so happy to have a husband that she will do any and everything.
Beautiful writeup too. But some ladieswill take that shiit just to keep a man. Talk of desperate.....

Thank God you said some not all, if I do that for a man without getting married to him wetin I go come do for my husband?

Kachisbarbie: She better learn how to perform that exotic s*x act... inshort she should strip dance for the nigg@ , @ a pt marriage could start becoming boring esp that s*xual aspect...she might be needing stunts like that.

shey u sabi strip dance??

Only some of these make real sense.

Never ask? Even if those 'morals' are extreme and garnished with lack of consideration? Seriously? We'd soon have more spreadsheet-compiling husbands.

These might make sense for a gf, not a wife. Both of them should be considerate and ready to make sacrifices jare.

Please, these threads about dos and don'ts in a relationship is becoming boring. This one will come with "8 ways to do this" another will come with "9 ways to do that". Next we will see "1000 ways to die in a relationship".

@OP,

I AM DEEPLY CONCERNED ABOUT POINT 14. IF SHE HAS STRONG MORALS, NO PROBLEMS, ON THE CONTRARY, IF SHE HAS LOW MORALS AND YOU IGNORE AND CONDONE THEM, SUCH WILL DEFINITELY PULL DOWN YOUR HOME SOMEDAY.

REMEMBER BOTH OF YOU HAVE THE DUTY OF BRINGING OUT THE BEST IN EACH OTHER.

MY THOUGHT THOUGH!

A man that cannot boldly tell his wife to change a bad moral, or influence her style to a taste that he fantasizes about (that motivates his cheating), is a bad friend-not to talk of husband.

A woman that will feel insulted rather than lucky, at the above corrections should never marry. She is too proud and selfish to deserve a home.

selah.

Mehn! i don tire with all dis una long epistle for nairaland.

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Well If my partner starts paying little or no attention to her body, like becoming unnecessarily chubby, having shaggy hair and becoming squalid & sordid , it's my duty to alter it? Right** and if her morals is generally unacceptable she needs to change it, I'd bark orders at her till she damn changes, oui!!

12. Sacrifice Time Spent With Her Family/Friends. It is the height of selfishness to ask your GF/Wife to give up spending time with her family and friends. Do you expect her to spend all her free time with you? What if she asked you to do the same? How would you like it? Careful. This is a major sign of a control freak.

The hypocrisy of girls... They will want their guy's to spend less time with his friends but want him not to intrude on their own time with friends. Thunder

11. Change Her Religious Beliefs. Religion is a very personal thing. If you wanted someone who would be 'equally yoked' to you, then you should have informed your GF of that fact, from the very beginning - not after a year or two, after she's fallen in love with you or married you. That's wrong, especially if you've given her the ultimatum of either changing over to your religion or going your separate ways.

yer this should be done before the union, if not done at all then what will the kids believe?

Na childish ppl dey do dis kind tn, especially d one dat ar new in a relationship... 1,3,4,6,8,,nd 9... Lolz

D@ 3sum own dey somehow o.

My girlfriend is guilty of majority of these things. So the advice should be to her, can u believe she wants a sex tape with me

Elo, am a beginer, i dnt undastand wht is goin on here[i]Elo, am a beginer, i dnt undastand wht is goin on here[/i]Elo, am a beginer, i dnt undastand wht is goin on here

I can't give up a dream for myself not to talk of giving it up for a GF

Once, i conceive it, I am all out, i can only give it up when it is been overwhelmed by a better and superior dream.

Make naija men catch you. All these donts for them? If say na women you dey tell dont do this, dont do that nairaland men for clap for you. And chant yes you right "bitxhes aint loyal" but this one wey you tell men what not to do, hian its not a normal ihian here o. Here in Naija, men dont have what they cant do o. Each man chooses what he cant do ie I cant marry, I cant bang a girl 3 months straight, I cant wash my clothes, I can never baby sit my kids when I have a wife, I cant ever help my wife with chores, I cant feed ma wife o, why tge hell did women ask for freedom of education? Ehn she don go school with me na, so she should work and feed the family, I cant bathe my kids o, I cant eat eba o, she must pound yam every day,etc etc.
***********Docks***********dives********hides under bed******* see? #IneverTalkFinishBulletsDonDeyFly.

Na wah oo too many issues with this relationship thing! Can't it run without hurdles

Nice write up you got there. I concur with all the points except 3. Wait for two years before the first pregnancy? No way! At least not in our Nigerian context. Infact I believe the earlier the kids start popping out the better, at least the pressures from family members will be extinquished, at the same time, the kids comes as binding force to the relationship.

LMAyedun: Pls what is BJ

. See question.... BJ means Brigadier General, @ NL, don't spoil DZ 1 4me abeg

LMAyedun: Pls what is BJ

. See question.... BJ means Best JOurnalist, @ NL, don't spoil DZ 1 4me abeg

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