LordReed:

Female Development.

In a female embryo, from about the sixth week, the Wolffian ducts degenerate, and the Mullerian ducts develop towards the Fallopian tubes, uterus and vagina. Meanwhile, by the twelfth week, the indifferent gonad begins to develop into an ovary.

Pray tell what are the Wolffian ducts that are degenerating in the female fetus?

joomiegirl:


Chimo!! Dis thread haf turn to biology class..
Hian!
*zooms out of thread

LordReed:

I didn't attack you, I merely pointed out that science does not support your assertion. The fetuses are androgynous until differentiation which in turn was predicted by the presence or lack of Y chromosome so there can be no grand scheme of femaleness.

pickabeau1:
But the initial blueprint is XY..

No further questions....

HFOG:
*pulls her back in*

joomiegirl:

Nwanem..leave me o ...you nor hear the technical gibberish? Don't even know whether its molecular genetics or plain obstetrics or whatsit...it all sounds almost esoteric!
Oya you sef, answer Lordreed's question; "pray tell what are the Wolffian ducts that are degenerating in the female fetus?"

joomiegirl:

Nwanem..leave me o ...you nor hear the technical gibberish? Don't even know whether its molecular genetics or plain obstetrics or whatsit...it all sounds almost esoteric!
Oya you sef, answer Lordreed's question; "pray tell what are the Wolffian ducts that are degenerating in the female fetus?"

shizzleStar:
JOOMIE! JOOMIE! JOOMIE!

How many times i call you? Wherever you are and whatever you do, may you remain blessed. Your last comment before this was a masterpiece, i had smiles of hope and fulfillment while reading it. God will give you a man that will cherish, respect and appreciate you. People like you end up being shinning examples.

Kudos to you and do keep it up.

Nuff said.

HFOG:

Do u wish to be the man? Talk true o

shizzleStar:
Lmao...you just put me on the spot, didn't you? Sharp girl

Trust me! her type will be a heavenly-made gift to any man she marries, and so i answer your question in the affirmative. So what role are you gonna play?

Btw, you seem to know her personally right?

LordReed:

LoL! My assumptions are supported by the facts of our collective experience.

1. I never said men don't panic. Women are more emotional and panic more than men.

2. I never said women are not forward thinking, fact is men who tend to be more logical in thought process have an advantage over women who tend to think intuitively.

3. The biological default positions the male as the 'shock troopers', the ones designed to bear the brunt. Even in our thought processes the males are seen to tend towards logic. Leadership is first about plotting a course which is a logical process. If the male is defaulted biologically to think logically then it stands to reason the he will pursue leadership.

HFOG:
I wud leave her to answer the last question. What role do u want me to play? For starters me think you sud remove the curse words in ur signature. That might be an instant turn off u know. :p

shizzleStar:
JOOMIE! JOOMIE! JOOMIE!

How many times i call you? Wherever you are and whatever you do, may you remain blessed. Your last comment before this was a masterpiece, i had smiles of hope and fulfillment while reading it. God will give you a man that will cherish, respect and appreciate you. People like you end up being shinning examples.

Kudos to you and do keep it up.

Nuff said.

joomiegirl:

Na 3 times you call me oo
AMEN... AMIN, l'oruko Jesu!
Many thanks sir.
Cheers.

HFOG:
My dear, no be small thing... if I hear say I answer am...totally enjoyed ur contributions...

shizzleStar:

Alright then! i talked about role outta my imagination and based on your earlier question cos i noticed you guys chatted each other up, the reason i suspect you could be e-friends or real friends. lol

Erm... my siggy, let it be for now, i know it could draw a wrong perception of my person but I'm only expressing my displeasure over certain indiscretions from some person. Its only temporal, will consider changing it at the proper time, thanks

joomiegirl:

*scratching head... My dear, with all humility I would say I am not an expert in the matter, but I do read a lot, and I watch couples-old and young; and come to my own conclusions...I make up my mind what I want to adopt and what I don't.

But basically the ting nor be rocket science like that.
1. Submission is firstly RESPECT.

RESPECT. RESPECT. RESPECT.
Its like air to a man. You don't belittle or talk down at him. A lot of women are guilty of this..I've seen some do it in public sef. I cringe.

We need to respect the man as the leader. Like it or not, that's what he is.
He gives you a simple instruction but you hiss and na d tin wey dey your mind you do...not good.

And every good leader KNOWS he cannot achieve much without the help and support of his followers.

He may be about to make a really bad decision, but there are ways to go about trying to convince him that would make him listen to you.
Yorubas have this saying "pele ni ako, o ni abo".
Literal Translation: "sorry" get male and female format.
That is to say: E get as u go tell person "sorry" wey Im mind go come down, and e get as you go say "sorry" wey the person go just vex all the more.

Meaning that mode of presentation is key!

BOTTOM-LINE:
Submission is allowing him to be the leader...of course you're his helper and you certainly have an input in the decision-making process, BUT don't make life difficult for him abeg. He has enough battles outside without coming home to an atmosphere of war, constant nagging, disagreement and insubordination.

And truly, real men don't employ the "my way or take the highway" approach.
They would seek your counsel and ideas especially if you have shown yourself to be trustworthy, wise and reasonable, but ULTIMATELY he expects you to support him if he makes the final decision.
Truth is, there are areas in your affairs that he would also leave totally to your decisions and discretions.

SOMETIMES, ITS TRUE THAT THEY JUST WANT TO FLEX MUSCLE ...it may be annoying...but just say "yessir"... humour him and move on..you won't die! At the end of the day, we know who REALLY runs the show... . The power of a woman is influence..incredible if she is wise to know how to use it. A wise woman stoops to conquer...May God grant us that wisdom.

SUBMISSION AND THE TONGUE
If you feel he is not doing well maybe financially, the medicine for that is encouragement, NOT an acid tongue..
Let's not lie, some women dey get terrible, terrible bad mouth ...many a wife has turned a perfectly reasonable man to something else.
A submissive tongue is one that encourages, not one which tears down..

NAGGING: another act of unsubmission...you are trying to harrass him to do your will be that. You want to get your way by all means..usually its counterproductive.

You want something, but you nearly nag him to death...he naturally just balks and you will hit a brick wall. For example, you need him to be more helpful with domestic stuff, and na nagging u start... naija men?...they will just log out.

RECOGNITION OF THE ALMIGHTY MALE EGO. (TSK TSK!!)
We usually roll our eyes at the male ego thing (I do too!!), but Nne, that thing is there and apparently its not going anywhere! .
We just have to learn how to manage it ni.
Even my 4yr old nephew sometimes dey try to prove say he be boy, to his older sister. It tickles me no end

Another thing that is key in submission: APPRECIATION. APPRECIATION. APPRECIATION.
You are preggers and he manage cook indomie for you, wetin u do na to grumble about how e burn am.

Appreciate him verbally for the little things he does..he will go out of his way to do far more. EVERYBODY--(men and women) loves people who are appreciative.

A friend went to sell Ankara fabric to a man, say make e buy for him wife, he just hissed and said, "there's no point, she nor dey appreciate anything jare". He say "ah fit buy am now, she go complain about the colour or pattern. Abegi!"
And I bet that woman would probably be complaining that the guy doesn't buy her anything, not knowing say from history, na she shoot herself in the foot.
Tell me; who lose?

If you are the type who appreciates him, you give him respect, when u want something e fit nor pass to just rub his back and rub his stomach and start all those "olowo-ori mi" psyching ..he may answer with a grumpy "Ehen. what do you want now?"...but trust me at the end of the day they stress themsleves to make you happy. Because you make his life easy and beautiful!

WHAT SUBMISSION IS NOT:
Submission isn't acceptance of physical abuse and battery...capital NO. Na "till death do us part" not "till he kills you."
I would ask any woman unfortunate to be experiencing that, to separate herself from the bros. Separate yourself..till he gets help or something.

Submission does not mean you would lose yourself, your identity, your career or whatever.
It does NOT mean the man shouldn't respect you, either. We are not footmats, real men know that.

Men should not use the submission card as an excuse to abuse the woman emotionally, too.

Which is why I would say we shine our eyes well and not get hitched to an insecure caveman who would lock you up and throw away the key.
There are men like that too, unfortunately.
Be sure he supports your dreams, the things that are truly important to you.

Because sincerely; as he carry his head and his destiny come, na so you carry yours come too.
Imagine if the husbands of the likes of the late Dora Akunyili (God rest her soul) hadn't been supportive.

BUT and capital BUT: as he supports you in your dreams, career and all that, even if you are the oga-patapata-bosslady at work; when you rish ya house every evening, you go carry that title hang for your doormouth before you enter the house. You pick it up again on your way to work the following morning.

Hope that helped...that's my own sha .
I leave the rest to the more experienced and happily married folks.
cheers dear.

brilapluz:
OMG...are people reading dis lovely comment by this unique and pleasant lady?
i tot had seen the best of comments 4rm u but alas u came with some thing beta...
the truth is u cant maltreat or abuse someone you love..its not possible..God bless your mum and dad...and God bless u real Good..te amo

Kay17:

They are assumptions because you can not prove them. There is no thermometer to test if women are more panicky than men, at best stereotypes. So don't try to dress up your prejudice in logic or pragmatism.

brilapluz:
OMG...are people reading dis lovely comment by this unique and pleasant lady?
i tot had seen the best of comments 4rm u but alas u came with some thing beta...
the truth is u cant maltreat or abuse someone you love..its not possible..God bless your mum and dad...and God bless u real Good..te amo

chronique: Op is displaying one of the many symptoms of ebola. He needs to be quarantined.

TDstarr: Funny, niggas like you end up in the friendzone, a man dat can't control his family is a failed man, even if they don't admit it, women love a man in control, but a real man respects his patner

Kay17:

The keyword ought to be manage not control. Marriage and family is beyond militaristic control, it is actually a reason it fails but its with leadership a family is bond together. There should be love and charm and that is not gained through control

And you are a man, you can't say what a woman desires because you speak as a man.

brilapluz:
Control in terms of taking charge..thats being responsible 4 ur family...thats what leaders are made of and in this case a real man so to speak...but like u rightly said such leadership such be devoid of militaristic control...i hope u read @joomiegirl comment on submission...?