doesn't seem right? A suspicion nags at the back
of your mind, but you keep denying it even
though your mate is suddenly leaving earlier than
usual, or keeps coming home late. It's easier to
be in denial than to admit that you might be a
victim of betrayal, but you will eventually have to
deal with the possibility.
Here are signs that your lover is cheating:
Your lover loses sexual interest in you.
He gets defensive when questioned about behavior
or activities.
Your partner seems guilt ridden – goes overboard
in being attentive to you.
He often refers to a certain someone as a "friend."
Your mate looks uncomfortable when the phone
rings.
He suddenly becomes cruel and says mean things
to you.
Your man makes odd calls late at night, mostly
after you go to bed.
He has strange numbers on his pager or cell
phone.
Your mate comes home way too late at night or
not at all.
He looks away and can't make eye contact when
confronted on the issue.
The relationship suddenly becomes too good to be
true (he takes you out more often, brings flowers,
etc.)
Your mate opens new email accounts that are off
limits to you.
It can be easier to run from a betrayal than to
deal with it. However, it is important to
understand and confront the issues if you want
the relationship to survive, and to preserve your
own personal well-being.
A mate may get caught up in the game of
cheating and the feeling of excitement that
accompanies it, but there might be a more
serious issue behind the infidelity. An unfaithful
partner doesn't necessarily go out and cheat on a
whim. Well … sometimes that's the case, but
many times the cause has more emotional roots.
So, what is this person seeking that is lacking
between you two? Asking this question is not the
same as excusing the betrayal or blaming the
victim. However, as Dr. Phil McGraw says, "there
are no victims, just volunteers." Before you play
the role of the innocent bystander, you need to
look deeper into what's really missing in the
relationship.
Now, if you are the perfect mate who has given
everything possible to the relationship, the factor
behind your mate's cheating could be the
"challenge."
The temptation to stray can be motivated by the
challenge to conquer a desired person. Soon the
challenge will be over, but the problems are just
beginning. If you have discovered that your man
is being untrue, you may have given him an
ultimatum. If he is like most unfaithful men, he
will probably stay with you (especially if you have
a long-term relationship), rather than go with the
other lover. Why? It's more comfortable to stay,
especially if there are children or financial
reasons.
However, if your mate feels trapped by these
responsibilities, you may get the feeling that he
will stray again. This will only make you feel
anxious and insecure. Don't avoid the issues;
seek professional help if necessary. It takes both
of you to work on the relationship – one person
can't do it alone. And if your mate doesn't stay
or if you choose to end your partnership, your
own emotional health depends on dealing with
the betrayal and its aftermath.
Perhaps you are on the other end of a cheating
relationship and suspect that your lover is
married or living with someone else. Confronting
denial and dealing with the dishonesty is
essential in this situation as well.
Here are signs that your lover is already in a
relationship:
You are only allowed to call at certain times of the
day.
You are only given a pager or cell phone number.
Your mate controls when you have contact with
each other.
Your mate has a "roommate" that you have never
been introduced to.
You are not allowed to go to your lover's place –
there is always an excuse like, "It's too messy."
Your mate seems to always call you from work.
If you find out that you are seeing someone who
is already in a committed relationship, consider
what you can realistically expect. A cheater
doesn't always say what he means, or mean what
he says. If your lover says, "I'm going to leave
my wife," chances are this person is lying. If your
lover accuses his mate of being mean and says
derogatory things about her, this is his way to
keep you on his hook – don't fall for the bait.
Don't let cheaters have their cake and eat it too.

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