damiso:

You are right sha guess everyone has preferences. But this thing is just time and chance and God's timing for us cos it could go the other way if we are talking about children's ages and doing stuff with them..I know someone who had her first child at 37 so yeah she will be still going to secondary school PTA at 50 too when at that age some women's children have all graduated university so its not necessarily a gender biased thing.I even have a friend who is 3years older than her husband so it could even go the other way too.

beeevan: 10 years isn't that bad but I prefer someone closer to my age, 5 years difference is perfect for me.


This women age faster than men talk doesn't hold water anymore, it's been long I saw a woman that looks older than her husband, some men even looks so old that you wonder how that pretty young thing accepted to marry them,oh..the pocket I guess.

Odilafta: Personally,I dig older guys lets say from 4 to 10 years older...For a person of my kind,I wouldn't tolerate my age mate because I know the kinda shows "they" run at the supposed age...



The thing is,I like someone with experience,someone I can learn from (I'm not saying there's ntin to learn from my mates but I want more) and not the regular "xkuagtdagmtjpa" we see these days.

Abrilla: Travel more and you go see

beeevan:


Nope, i prefer to stay where I see something worthy.

bellong: Efe and Jenny will always find a way to bring in kpekus to discussion....

moca: Na lie oh!
Who said younger guys don't know how to rock a woman in bed?
Some lv it hot and steamy(only virile young dudes can meet up to that challenge)
When his energy don dey deplete, mine go join too and we will slow down.
Abi don't we know that d older the man gets, bedmatics will reduce?
Nashville be prepared oh!(Don't say I didn't tell u)
Some will even start using drugs.
And the fear of heart attack abounds also.
Shepke I discovered dey go market well for older guys here. Heard it helps a lot.

bukatyne:

Lol!

See no evil; hear no evil

@Abrilla: do you think it is just the age diffrrence or other factors?

mako007: you're married?? Wat kinda place is NL, I'm not hitting on nobody again. It's done

ileobatojo:



Efe and Jk, what have ye to say for yourselves?

jennykadry:
I said nothing,. Efemenaxy is the culprit here . I have since repented. I am a new being Sir. I only said that older men are more experienced in the bedimatics business. The older men get, the more sexually satisfied they are...i.e. it changes from quantity to quality but some young gals and boys know this not.

jennykadry:
Nothing to say ma. I will let Efemena do the talking the minute she comes up for air after explaining the number of thread counts in the sheets to Mr EfemenaXY . Intel has it that she finds the sheets very comfy while her oga finds it very uncomfy, so Efe being the good wife that she is has decided to take Mr Efe on a 'lying' ride under the sheets for him to feel the smooth 100% cotton sheets. Don't be surprised if she speaks in parables...some of us understand. It's either she's helping her children with home work or she is taking the last baby to school.....all na the same...she is away for a period of time and knowing the kind person she is......no delay goes unrewarded
She will be here soon.

chineloSA: Having dated a guy way older than myself, I would NOT advice any young girl to date a very senior guy. I worked for him after University and he gave me a headstart in life, BUT in hindsight, I feel my life could have turned out differently if I dated my age mate.

Yes I did not experience any abuse, but OLDER MAN come with an amount of challenges. Just to name a few:

1. He has lived his life way before you met him, so he has been there done that and knows it all. Which can be challenging when you are still young and have not experienced life.
2. He possibly has children from previous relationships ( Unless you have no problem being a step mom ).
3. Your developmental stages are likely not gonna be in sync. ( thereby experiencing boredom, being caged, decisions being made for you ( whether by choice or not) etc.
4. Less 'US TIME' especially when he is in business, as he is busy pursuing businesses and trying to bring stability to you ( imagine marrying someone like Dangote, he is a billionare but still pursuing his business interests and have less time
5. Older people automatically baby younger ones. So he is likely to baby you in a lot of ways that you will see and cant see.
TOO MANY TO MENTION

The advantages are
1. Financial security
2. Safer and calculated decisions being made for you through his constant financial advice etc.

bukatyne:
Lol!
You have one beautiful job description of a hardworking husband
That migh be one reason why women age drastically more than their hubbys.
Happy sunday

cococandy: Forehead of life.

Enough prosencephalon.(Cerebrum)

bukatyne: Like I said earlier, this is just on a natural level.

I know God give spouses, kids, and of course preferences.

But again, He knows the best

EfemenaXY:

When we say older men, we aren't referring to men old enough to be our fathers or grandfathers...which seems to be what you've described here...



Oh that!

Ah, but that was describing how it was a couple of generations ago naw...all that grinding, fetching, carrying, cooking, farming, et al...

If I was born then, I most certainly would advocate for a couple more co-wives to help ease the burden sef. (that's where Cococandy and Carefreewannabe go come in handy... ) I probably would have been into pottery / mat making or even been a successful fish seller. Infact, anything to beat farm work.

And yes, older man again it would have been for me too

bukatyne:

When you say older, by how many years?

If the wifey is 24 & hubby 29, the hubby is older while techncially her age mate/grade

I saw someone mention 4yrs diff as older men

@what age do you think a lady can marry to put very thing in perspective.

EfemenaXY:

Impossible to say as it really depends on a lot of factors such as the environment in which they find themselves, culture, attitudes, and even the perspectives of the couple involved.

What I can say though is that I'll be hard pressed to believe a lady marrying a man (for the first time), old enough to be her father or grandfather, would be doing so out of 'love'. It just has to be based on finance. My opinion.

bukatyne:

Ok,

When you say older men personally, what age range were you looking at?

EfemenaXY:

When we say older men, we aren't referring to men old enough to be our fathers or grandfathers...which seems to be what you've described here...



Oh that!

Ah, but that was describing how it was a couple of generations ago naw...all that grinding, fetching, carrying, cooking, farming, et al...

If I was born then, I most certainly would advocate for a couple more co-wives to help ease the burden sef. (that's where Cococandy and Carefreewannabe go come in handy... ) I probably would have been into pottery / mat making or even been a successful fish seller. Infact, anything to beat farm work.

And yes, older man again it would have been for me too

Ruthia: i meant 2 say i apprec8 ur response, i'm having d challenge dats y i asked, ur comment was wat i needed.

Ovaiegbe:
Haba, is it wrong to eat overnight soup? Some like it hot, some like it cold, some like it in a pot six days old.
Na your choice.

njokusboy:

Yes, women prefer older men....


But it depends on boys your age you meet... maybe boys your age in your neighbourhood are certified jerks.. my cousin is 26, women his age and younger feel intimidated around him...

I for one, all the ladies I have been with recently are older, funny thing, they don't know my age, they don't bother to ask...

Another thing,most women my Age I know are too needy, talk to them today, tomorrow they start saying "I love you" and thinking marriage...

The reason why women Basically marry older men is because older men are invariably more successful especially financially...
Funny thing is, once you are established and responsible, they assume you are more matured...

Dis age thing is funny, I'd agree with the man who said it is just a number....

Women generally date/marry more successful men , more successful men are invariably older than they....

Tymax: Honestly, I think 10 years is quite a stretch. The lady in this kind of relationship/marriage is easily manipulated because age difference is a big deal in this part of the world.

For ladies who cannot accept leadership from their peers, this is often the preferred choice. But if you want a husband who shares some memories associated with growing up in your "era"; someone with whom your friends are at ease; someone who would share a joke that takes you down memory lane and doesn't leave you lost in the humour; then by all means go with a man who is (loosely) your peer.

I would not allow my daughter marry someone older who is at least 10 years her senior.

Just my opinion.

McWhillion: Why not, my wife to be is still in junior secondary school

Ruthia: Is it wrong for a lady to marry a man 10 years older than her? If yes or no please explain.

It may not be objectively wrong - in actuality, it's not. But subjectively, it is.

No matter how old both parties are, I'll still think - somewhere in my freaky head that this old man is child-abusing this young lady. Long sentence short, I can't deal. Still subjectively, I'd prefer getting married to my peer, more like my age mate or...