festusfeezy: For quite 8months now we ve been in love seriously, and I met her as a Virgin. she promised to do everything to prove her love for me, but never to loose her virginity till I do the necessary things. Pls nairalanders I need advice.

festusfeezy: For quite 8months now we ve been in love seriously, and I met her as a Virgin. she promised to do everything to prove her love for me, but never to loose her virginity till I do the necessary things. Pls nairalanders I need advice.

festusfeezy: For quite 8months now we ve been in love seriously, and I met her as a Virgin. she promised to do everything to prove her love for me, but never to loose her virginity till I do the necessary things. Pls nairalanders I need advice.

Fhuck her..


Never get married to a virgin girl.. NEVER!!

MadCow1:


Fhuck her..


Never get married to a virgin girl.. NEVER!!

festusfeezy: For quite 8months now we ve been in love seriously, and I met her as a Virgin. she promised to do everything to prove her love for me, but never to loose her virginity till I do the necessary things. Pls nairalanders I need advice.

MadCow1:


Fhuck her..


Never get married to a virgin girl.. NEVER!!

MizMyColi:

MizMyColi: One way I'll know that a man loves me is if he respects my wishes, especially as it pertains my body.

I won't rule out the fact that there are ladies out there who have sinister motives when they say "I don't wanna get down just yet"

But there are also ladies who have very pure motives and only place an embargo on that area because of the values they've been raised with.
For some people, doing anything that upsets their core values could bring about a negative shift in their mental sanity.
It could cause undesirable effects to the relationship as a whole.

OP, I have described two scenarios above, which do you think suits her best?
From the tone of your post, I take it, it's the second one.

I know it's not easy, but please respect her wish.
Respect her wish because You love her.
Respect her wish because You have her best interest at heart.
I promise you this, you will not regret.

I have this feeling that you think she's a great blessing to you and ordinarily you wouldn't mind, save for other people's experiences & opinion.

If you still believe in honour and nobility, then you'll know that whether or not that is what she desires,
The right thing to do, if and when we can, is to abstain from sex until marriage.

I'm not saying this as an absolute, it's a case of different strokes for different folks.

We ought to have power and control over our bodies and emotions,
Not the other way round.
Let's treat our bodies and that of our partners with the respect that is due them.
No one has arrived or apprehended or has it all together on this matter,
But then.......
Where there is a will, there is a way.

MizMyColi: Oh,
She even said bride price.

Not the cliche "wedding night"

Either ways, OP
Do the right thing

MizMyColi: One way I'll know that a man loves me is if he respects my wishes, especially as it pertains my body.

I won't rule out the fact that there are ladies out there who have sinister motives when they say "I don't wanna get down just yet"

But there are also ladies who have very pure motives and only place an embargo on that area because of the values they've been raised with.
For some people, doing anything that upsets their core values could bring about a negative shift in their mental sanity.
It could cause undesirable effects to the relationship as a whole.

OP, I have described two scenarios above, which do you think suits her best?
From the tone of your post, I take it, it's the second one.

I know it's not easy, but please respect her wish.
Respect her wish because You love her.
Respect her wish because You have her best interest at heart.
I promise you this, you will not regret.

I have this feeling that you think she's a great blessing to you and ordinarily you wouldn't mind, save for other people's experiences & opinion.

If you still believe in honour and nobility, then you'll know that whether or not that is what she desires,
The right thing to do, if and when we can, is to abstain from sex until marriage.

I'm not saying this as an absolute, it's a case of different strokes for different folks.

We ought to have power and control over our bodies and emotions,
Not the other way round.
Let's treat our bodies and that of our partners with the respect that is due them.
No one has arrived or apprehended or has it all together on this matter,
But then.......
Where there is a will, there is a way.

MadCow1:

Lol... Double standards!!

If he respects your wishes abi... What of his wishes to get some? Ehn own wish no dey worthy of respecting abi?

Kai... Men don suffer..

OP... Na konji go break ur prick.. dey there dey form gentle jack.

Eishhhhhhh
I was accused of Multiple standards just last week, now you!

Leave him be joor.
If he's willing to abstain, then by all means, we should be encouraging him.

Y'know, even though sex is really important to a man, I refuse to believe his world should revolve around the act.
Let's not forget that the lady in question must have sacrificed alot for him too.

Madcow (No, you're not one )
Who nuh go nuh know.

Right in this case is relative.

But in his case, that'd be till she's ready.
Then they can do it anyhow, anystyle, anyweather.
Because, she'll be at peace with self.
Usually, in that kind of dance, it takes two to

I take it you already know by now that, having a fulfilling intimate moment with your partner is highly dependent on her emotional and psychological position at the time?

Apatheist:
What's the "right" thing?

festusfeezy: For quite 8months now we ve been in love seriously, and I met her as a Virgin. she promised to do everything to prove her love for me, but never to loose her virginity till I do the necessary things. Pls nairalanders I need advice.

MizMyColi:
Right in this case is relative.

But in his case, that'd be till she's ready.
Then they can do it anyhow, anystyle, anyweather.
Because, she'll be at peace with self.
Usually, in that kind of dance, it takes two to

I take it you already know by now that, having a fulfilling intimate moment with your partner is highly dependent on her emotional and psychological position at the time?

MizMyColi: One way I'll know that a man loves me is if he respects my wishes, especially as it pertains my body.

I won't rule out the fact that there are ladies out there who have sinister motives when they say "I don't wanna get down just yet"

But there are also ladies who have very pure motives and only place an embargo on that area because of the values they've been raised with.
For some people, doing anything that upsets their core values could bring about a negative shift in their mental sanity.
It could cause undesirable effects to the relationship as a whole.

OP, I have described two scenarios above, which do you think suits her best?
From the tone of your post, I take it, it's the second one.

I know it's not easy, but please respect her wish.
i just quoted u because of the way u presented your case,it's special from my angle,,,anyway.
Respect her wish because You love her.
Respect her wish because You have her best interest at heart.
I promise you this, you will not regret.

I have this feeling that you think she's a great blessing to you and ordinarily you wouldn't mind, save for other people's experiences & opinion.

If you still believe in honour and nobility, then you'll know that whether or not that is what she desires,
The right thing to do, if and when we can, is to abstain from sex until marriage.

I'm not saying this as an absolute, it's a case of different strokes for different folks.

We ought to have power and control over our bodies and emotions,
Not the other way round.
Let's treat our bodies and that of our partners with the respect that is due them.
No one has arrived or apprehended or has it all together on this matter,
But then.......
Where there is a will, there is a way.

MizMyColi: One way I'll know that a man loves me is if he respects my wishes, especially as it pertains my body.

I won't rule out the fact that there are ladies out there who have sinister motives when they say "I don't wanna get down just yet"

But there are also ladies who have very pure motives and only place an embargo on that area because of the values they've been raised with.
For some people, doing anything that upsets their core values could bring about a negative shift in their mental sanity.
It could cause undesirable effects to the relationship as a whole.

OP, I have described two scenarios above, which do you think suits her best?
From the tone of your post, I take it, it's the second one.

I know it's not easy, but please respect her wish.
i just quoted u because of the way u presented your case,it's special from my angle,,,anyway.
Respect her wish because You love her.
Respect her wish because You have her best interest at heart.
I promise you this, you will not regret.

I have this feeling that you think she's a great blessing to you and ordinarily you wouldn't mind, save for other people's experiences & opinion.

If you still believe in honour and nobility, then you'll know that whether or not that is what she desires,
The right thing to do, if and when we can, is to abstain from sex until marriage.

I'm not saying this as an absolute, it's a case of different strokes for different folks.

We ought to have power and control over our bodies and emotions,
Not the other way round.
Let's treat our bodies and that of our partners with the respect that is due them.
No one has arrived or apprehended or has it all together on this matter,
But then.......
Where there is a will, there is a way.

Hmmmmph
That's where we're missing the point!
So those who are not virgins should keep phucking away their lives until they land Mr Right, huh?

So, this young girl, due to misinformation and other societal woes causes her to loose her virginity.
Somewhere along the line, she sobers up.
She genuinely decides to zip up, because she is convinced it's the right thing to do.

Now all things being equal in this case,
Any guy who still decides to coerce that girl into doing such (afterall he will marry her), having seen through her sincerity, has no love for her and is at best, what I'd describe as a master manipulator.

Quote me anywhere.

Virgin or not, let her be the one who gives you the dance, because you requested or she to'ally felt like it.
Not because you subtly threatened, coerced or manipulated her into it (Oh yeah, I'm that old fashioned).
Give everyone grace, especially those who are trying to make something good out of the remainder of their lives.

Apatheist:
What if she's not really a virgin and is "using" him?
Happened to one of my mates in campus.
The girl was forming Virgin, saying they should wait till marriage. The mumu guy dey use her dey brag, say e go marry virgin.
E no know say a lot of her course mates don phuck the girl finish.
The guy hear am, phuck the girl by force, call off the marriage.


My advice: OP should check if she's really a virgin.

achinaboy:
i love the way u present ur case,u could be future chinue achebe,,das a compliment