There is a good side to the concept. In Igbo land you all would have noticed that their divorce rate is lower than the country average. Secondly the men marry some what later when they are financially and emotionally matured. Not for some idiot to take in a responsible girl and mess up her life when he is neither financially nor emotionally matured

I know of a tribe where the groom has to build a house for the brides Father. What will u say about that Brideprice is more like you appreciating your future inlaws for taking care of your wife to be from her day of birth till date, and a lot of parents will want to use that avenue to reap the poor man of his hard earned money without really thinking of how the newly weds will fare when they get married. Maybe some feel the newly weds will feed on sand and stones for breakfast, lunch and dinner  

Pennywise:

There is a good side to the concept. In Igbo land you all would have noticed that their divorce rate is lower than the country average. Secondly the men marry some what later when they are financially and emotionally matured. Not for some idiot to take in a responsible girl and mess up her life when he is neither financially nor emotionally matured

He paid 6 million for Bride Price things?? I find that very difficult to beleive.

Anyway, I dont support outrageous expliotations in the name of Bride Price. But I still dont see enything wrong in paying a reasonable bride price.

In my place, the bride's family usually request for some money. Maybe like 10k and the they write a list of things for tyhe groom to buy, that wont exceed 5k. At the end of the day, the girl's father takes N10 and returns N9,990 to the groom and his family. Its just to say, 'I'm not rejecting your gift, but I'm not selling my daughter either'. Thats a beautiful tradition and it often brings tears to my eyes.

Pennywise:

There is a good side to the concept. In Igbo land you all would have noticed that their divorce rate is lower than the country average. Secondly the men marry some what later when they are financially and emotionally matured. Not for some idiot to take in a responsible girl and mess up her life when he is neither financially nor emotionally matured

i think that is largely due to the fact they marry very young girls who thay can train and mold to suit them. . .

Mgbejume:

I know of a tribe where the groom has to build a house for the brides Father. What will u say about that Brideprice is more like you appreciating your future inlaws for taking care of your wife to be from her day of birth till date, and a lot of parents will want to use that avenue to reap the poor man of his hard earned money without really thinking of how the newly weds will fare when they get married. Maybe some feel the newly weds will feed on sand and stones for breakfast, lunch and dinner  

No doubt bride price like anything concieved by human is subject to abuse. But this is an aspect of our culture worth emulating by the west so that any TD&H with prick doesnt become a nuisance to the larger society in the name of marriage

he did not pay it as a whole like dat,things he bought ,and the money he gave to them was getting to that range

im an igbo girl too,but seriously abeg ,its too much in d igbo culture,d anambarians are not realy like d ohter tribes wen it comes to dis bride price of a thing

igbos demand too much ,and dats d simple truth

Ujujoan:

He paid 6 million for Bride Price things?? I find that very difficult to beleive.

Anyway, I don't support outrageous expliotations in the name of Bride Price. But I still don't see enything wrong in paying a reasonable bride price.

In my place, the bride's family usually request for some money. Maybe like 10k and the they write a list of things for tyhe groom to buy, that wont exceed 5k. At the end of the day, the girl's father takes N10 and returns N9,990 to the groom and his family. Its just to say, 'I'm not rejecting your gift, but I'm not selling my daughter either'. Thats a beautiful tradition and it often brings tears to my eyes.

I've never seen that done, but it makes a lot of sense

why cant the groom bringing drinks and gifts for the ceremony be enough. . . bearing in mind he has to do this twice

HR.hotness:

i think that is largely due to the fact they marry very young girls who thay can train and mold to suit them. . .

Or more likely, the men who can afford to pay the B/P have done well for themselves and would have the wisdom and maturity to keep a home

Pennywise:

Or more likely, the men who can afford to pay the B/P have done well for themselves and would have the wisdom and maturity to keep a home

affording ridiculous prices deosnt necessarily mean u r blessed with wisdom and maturity. . for all u knw thay may see it as another chance to throw money around and show off, like buying a really pricey car. . . which makes it worse because the woman is just another acquisition

I've never seen that done, but it makes a lot of sense

why can't the groom bringing drinks and gifts for the ceremony be enough. . . bearing in mind he has to do this twice

The guys doesent pay for anything. In my place and in most places, the guy just pays the bride price and buys the things on the 'list'. The feeding and drinks for the ceremony is usally the bride's family's responsibiltiy. They see it that the groom and his family came to marry their daughter, so its their reponsibility to take care of their guests.

Its only the white wedding that the groom pays for.

he did not pay it as a whole like that,things he bought ,and the money he gave to them was getting to that range

I'm an igbo girl too,but seriously abeg ,its too much in d igbo culture,d anambarians are not realy like d ohter tribes when it comes to this bride price of a thing

igbos demand too much ,and that is d simple truth

Your brother was just trying to show off but spending big. Its not a requirement. If he dosent have the money to do those things, he'll still marry the girl.

My elder sisters are married to people from Imo, and Enugu and I've never heard of such exorbitant criteria for marriage.

Ujujoan:

The guys doesent pay for anything. In my place and in most places, the guy just pays the bride price and buys the things on the 'list'. The feeding and drinks for the ceremony is usally the bride's family's responsibiltiy. They see it that the groom and his family came to marry their daughter, so its their reponsibility to take care of their guests.

Its only the white wedding that the groom pays for.

i knw the brides family cater for d traditional wedding. . . but doesnt d groom get to bring gifts and drinks during d introduction and the traditional wedding?

in western cultures d brides family pays for the white wedding, i see it fit as it is her day anyways

Ujujoan:

The guys doesent pay for anything. In my place and in most places, the guy just pays the bride price and buys the things on the 'list'. The feeding and drinks for the ceremony is usally the bride's family's responsibiltiy. They see it that the groom and his family came to marry their daughter, so its their reponsibility to take care of their guests.

Its only the white wedding that the groom pays for.

Well thats in your place sha, not in all of iboland
Ordinary knock on the door is bloody expensive, talk less of what else is there to be done. Even the ceremonials are done by the groom, the shaks and chops are provided by the groom, the bride's family do nothing but collect the cash.
I had to pity the guy that came to marry my sis, i was feeling for him but thats the culture, we didnt create it, we wont be stopping it. I'm probably gonna face the same thing when the time comes so, tough luck!

HR.hotness:

affording ridiculous prices deosnt necessarily mean u r blessed with wisdom and maturity.  . for all u knw thay may see it as another chance to throw money around and show off, like buying a really pricey car. . . which makes it worse because the woman is just another acquisition

Lets face it. Woven deep in the concept of marriage from proposal by the man to the actual marriage is acquisition. Not like buying a commodity but acquisition by being worthy to be her husband more than any other man. If throwing money around makes you happy, do it.

@ Ujujoan,

Chick, u are right, i have a friend who is the 1st male child of the family and the first child also, he was the one to give his younger sister away, his family told him that no matter the amount his future inlaw brings, he should collect it, take only N10 and give them the remaining. They re same Igbos you all are complaining that they collect outrageous amounts.  

H.RHotness, sorry but you are going to be acquired real soon. Yes you are facing acquisition without knowing it.

soon parents ll start quarrelling over their inability to have female children n the dad ll be like:

darling, I've told u i need just one son n 9 female children, u know they r like investments in the London Stock Exchange

Pennywise:

Lets face it. Woven deep in the concept of marriage from proposal by the man to the actual marriage is acquisition. Not like buying a commodity but acquisition by being worthy to be her husband more than any other man. If throwing money around makes you happy, do it.

i see that sa the basis for the lack of respect and equality in marriages, which in turn is the basis for women being subverted and demeaned in modern society. . . when ur husband doesnt see u as a partner but as an acquisition. . . almost slave like, , , u hav no real rights and basically u loose ur individuality

i say d tradition of bride prices r evil!!!

walttt:

soon parents ll start quarrelling over their inability to have female children n the dad ll be like:

darling, I've told u i need just one son n 9 female children, u know they r like investments in the London Stock Exchange

Aren't you very funny, dear!

Pennywise:

H.RHotness, sorry but you are going to be acquired real soon. Yes you are facing acquisition without knowing it.

LOL. . . i reject u in Jesus name

like i said earlier, my mum shares my opinion on thsi ridiculous practise. . . no man can afford my brideprice; anyman who wants to acquire me will hav to pay alot more than money. . . but any guy who wants to marry me only has to win my heart

walttt:

soon parents ll start quarrelling over their inability to have female children n the dad ll be like:

darling, I've told u i need just one son n 9 female children, u know they r like investments in the London Stock Exchange

Thats really funny

Pennywise:

H.RHotness, sorry but you are going to be acquired real soon. Yes you are facing acquisition without knowing it.

U wont be only facing acquisition but merging

Mgbejume:


U wont be only facing acquisition but merging

a merger is a more acceptable option

Exstar:

Aren't you very funny, dear!

_{(like a calabar dude)} u mean me?!10ks

yeah it might be funny, but soon it'll be obtainable, u'll see.
U know da LSE dont crash always like da NYSE,
n igbo gurls, hmmm

I wonder how it feels like, being acquired, no matter the cost, no matter the competition to win the heart, somebody still won your hand in the end, DAMN!
Its so good to be a guy

this exorbitant bride price is really crazy.in kalabari (rivers state),its
equally as high as that of the east, if not higher.but in this case they are categorised,in that the most expensive
is the most complete marriage,giving full ownership of the wife to the husband.when she dies she is not taken to her people, but buried in the husbands compound.

whitelexi:

I wonder how it feels like, being acquired, no matter the cost, no matter the competition to win the heart, somebody still won your hand in the end, DAMN!
Its so good to be a guy

i wonder how it feels like,paying though your ass,andbegging like mad to care,protect and provide for somebody,who at trhe end of the day may not even be worth it.
its so good to be a woman.

tamai:

i wonder how it feels like,paying though your ass,andbegging like mad to care,protect and provide for somebody,who at trhe end of the day may not even be worth it.
its so good to be a woman.

You so wish!

tamai:

this exorbitant bride price is really crazy.in kalabari (rivers state),its
equally as high as that of the east, if not higher.but in this case they are categorised,in that the most expensive
is the most complete marriage,giving full ownership of the wife to the husband.when she dies she is not taken to her people, but buried in the husbands compound.

Then wahala go de gas for this kain situation oh!  in that the most expensive
is the most complete marriage ODIKWA EGWU

HR.hotness:


LOL. . . i reject u in Jesus name  

like i said earlier, my mum shares my opinion on thsi ridiculous practise. . . no man can afford my brideprice; anyman who wants to acquire me will hav to pay alot more than money. . .  but any guy who wants to marry me only has to win my heart    

You be Ibo girl abi? Your reaction under certain circumstances is fortunately quite familiar and very predictable. Believe me I know how far. The stages in a relationship with an ibo girl are 1-"I hate the bastard", 2-"Maybe he is not too bad afterall", 3 "I think I like him", 4 "I just love him",5" I would love him to marry him".

Now stages 2-4 can be short-circuited depending on the motivation of the man. don't tempt me

Well, as an igbo boy who has swore to marry either a ghanaian[s](not, well, maybe cos of their big booty ), [/s] a Jamaican, an afri american or an Igbo girl, i'll say, i'm saving up for the bride price, hell, i already started an account with my bankers (Umuchinemereihediegwu Community Bank)- Dowry Easy Payment Plan DEPP, _{more like Johnny D} n i know before d next 3 yrs when i'll be 27 n ready for marriage, my DEPP would pay off.
So igbo guys in the House, i suggest u take a cue,

tamai:

i wonder how it feels like,paying though your ass,andbegging like mad to care,protect and provide for somebody,who at trhe end of the day may not even be worth it.
its so good to be a woman.

LOL  

tamai:

this exorbitant bride price is really crazy.in kalabari (rivers state),its
equally as high as that of the east, if not higher.but in this case they are categorised,in that the most expensive
is the most complete marriage,giving full ownership of the wife to the husband.when she dies she is not taken to her people, but buried in the husbands compound.

What's wrong with that?