MzPreshie: I have this good friend, a guy, and he's the shy type - can't ask a girl out. So oneday, he and his friends were in his house doing guys' stuff. Unknown to him, one of his friends took his phone, opened his whatsapp and while chatting with one of his friends, asked her out. The girl accepted, thinking it was my friend that actually asked her out and asked to visit him later. At that point, the friend then told him of what he did and together his friends encouraged him to say yes to the girl's visit request. My friend did as his friends said, met the girl and they actually started dating. But then, my friend wasn't really into the girl, he only agreed cause he didn't want the girl knowing it was actually his friend that asked her out on his behalf, without his consent. And just three months into the 'relationship', my friend told the girl he wasn't interested anymore. The girl was really hurt by the seperation, she really did love my friend. And now, even after many months of their seperation, the girl is like she still loves him and has been asking him the reason behind his no-longer-interested decision and he keeps saying nothing. Now, together with her friend, the girl is pleading that they start again. This guy is really confused now and even tells the girl he still loves her (just so he doesn't hurt her) but just doesn't want a relationship now. Now the problem is, the girl believes he still loves her and wouldn't take no for an answer about the getting back together ish. So please, what should he do, he doesn't want to hurt her, and again, his mum doesn't really like the girl (reason witheld). I've met the girl and she's just amazing, just my friend's heart doesn't want to take her in. What should he do please?

jnrbayano:

The bold is crucial to what I will say.

MzPreshie: He really doesn't want it out.

jnrbayano:

I wonder were the piece of advice you seek will come out from..

All the best.

MzPreshie: I have this good friend, a guy, and he's the shy type - can't ask a girl out. So oneday, he and his friends were in his house doing guys' stuff. Unknown to him, one of his friends took his phone, opened his whatsapp and while chatting with one of his friends, asked her out. The girl accepted, thinking it was my friend that actually asked her out and asked to visit him later. At that point, the friend then told him of what he did and together his friends encouraged him to say yes to the girl's visit request. My friend did as his friends said, met the girl and they actually started dating. But then, my friend wasn't really into the girl, he only agreed cause he didn't want the girl knowing it was actually his friend that asked her out on his behalf, without his consent. And just three months into the 'relationship', my friend told the girl he wasn't interested anymore. The girl was really hurt by the seperation, she really did love my friend. And now, even after many months of their seperation, the girl is like she still loves him and has been asking him the reason behind his no-longer-interested decision and he keeps saying nothing. Now, together with her friend, the girl is pleading that they start again. This guy is really confused now and even tells the girl he still loves her (just so he doesn't hurt her) but just doesn't want a relationship now. Now the problem is, the girl believes he still loves her and wouldn't take no for an answer about the getting back together ish. So please, what should he do, he doesn't want to hurt her. I've met the girl and she's just amazing, just my friend's heart doesn't want to take her in. What should he do please?

unyours: Whatsapp? Means the guy has the girls number beforehand and probably they knew each other very well and were friends even before the guy's friend did the chat. Hmmm. Makes me doubt the authenticity of your story.

DigitalSignal:

There’s nothing much he can do other than coming out plain to her, instead of giving a front of something he doesn’t feel!

Pretending to be in love and at the same time leading the other person on, are things that should be avoided in a relationship!

Instead of letting her build false hope around a relationship that he knows is not leading anywhere he should be bold enough to tell her his true feelings.

It’s a pity she loves him but he can’t love her back, that’s life!
You can’t force love; it develops over time and this is possible only if your interest in your partner is strong enough to allow it to develop!

He can pretend to love her and go back into a relationship with her but that’s just what it is, pretence!
It has no roots and has very slim chances of survival.

bosun11: he needs to say the truth n stop hurting the girl's feelings...he is only dating her out of pity and that is unfair !!!!

itsIYKE: ur story story has a lotta loop holes shaa,..

MzPreshie: He feels telling her the truth will hurt more, I mean when the girl realises he didn't ever love her and was just moving with his friends' shadow.

MzPreshie: He's only trying to be polite and not hurt her but at the same time, lying to her. Told him already to tell the girl the truth, but he feels its unfair and hurtful to tell her his friend did the wooing stuff.

bosun11:


its better to hurt her with the truth than keep decieving her under the image of love

MzPreshie: Will tell him that. Thanks for the advice.

chimerase2: Friend eat frnd's frnd walk frnd cheat frnd hrt frnd frnd
Wats all dis abt frnds if it is u say it and stop frnding everi tin

Agybabe: Tell your friend to tell her how it all started.

And that she was friend-zone already.

harffie:
Tell the girl the whole truth... If the case was the other way I'm sure the girl would tell it to the guy the 2nd or 3rd date she has a bf even tho she's single! Girls ehn!
#if girls no like you them no like you!