OlamiB:
You are daft

No. You are selfish

Am guessing you are beautiful either physically or in character,or both,if u are nt am sure u wouldn't ave a boyfriend,guys do nt date out of pity or first considering others dey are always first,d problem is nt suffering with him,d problem is he might just b dating u cos u are one of d few girls who he can date due to his financial situation,let little moni trickle in,u think it will b beta(I laugh) he will realise dere are beta structures dan u or play away many tymes cos even girls will b running afta himfighting ova hundred naira,a guy dat will make sense will make sense,lack of moni or surplus moni will only accentuate it.If u are him and him u would he date himself,dating is nt by force ooo.-f u decide to suffer make sure he deserves ur suffering,many of dem simply don't

prettythicksme: so you are telling our man should not take care of us if they have the money or whateven though a lady is working a man should also give I can never go into a relationship whereby my husband will not give me money even though I have mine. what you saying is not right okay

Oloriburuku ni e jare. Oloshi, Arungun. I make women like u suffer. Fvxking leech! Get outta here!

Vessi:
may the gods bless you.
Say ise.

Ise oo

QuiverBox:

That's their Choice not yours as a woman, as you said they don't allow them to work and they take care of them.

Prettythicksme, is a secondary school dropout... or furthest an OND holder. Can u not tell from her reasoning?

prettythicksme: chaii broke guys they can bleep heaven yet they don't have money to take care of the thing they bleep.I have friend that date them so annoying

''Take care of the thing that they bleep''
Hold Ms, when did u degenerate to this level? Only cheap ho.es talk/think like this.

Wisdom suggests u suffer with
1.Ur legally married husband(nt cohabiting,dat ur family does nt know ooo)
2.A gd man(a gd and sensible man does nt misbehave,insult u,drink around and do all stuffs blaming it on his financial position)
A good man is dependable,a shoulder u can lean on,maybe broke in pocket but rich in ideas,vision,assurance of a beta tmrw and carry himself as such,a man with great values,principles and chracter.He might nt always b strong but dat is where u come in as his cheer leader.A gd man does nt carry himself or live his life as broke,he is sure it is just a matter of tyme.rememba 2 heads are beta dan one(emphasis on two gd heads)so which one are u and which one is he?

How did this topic make the front page??

QuiverBox:

That's their Choice not yours as a woman, as you said they don't allow them to work and they take care of them.

Prettythicksme is a secondary school dropout... or furthest an OND holder. Can u not tell from her reasoning? I've read your comments and I'm very certain a woman like you is the point of reference when they say "Behind a successful man... ". May you live long to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Don't waste your time trying to educate a gold-digging nincompoop like this Bleeper-pay-Bleepee philosopher. Unfortunately her type is what abounds nowadays. But boys know better.

[quote author=prettythicksme][/quote] some of us want more than taking care of a girlfriend/wife. i mean its a basic thing to do in a relationship and nothin a guy should boast about.

DiamonJ: girls are depending on guy, just a little suport and gift ginger d relationship, like me my guy know what am what, but atleast when coming back from outside even if is groundnut buy for me ooooo, if u don't i'll start losting feeling for u, i'm a romantic person, even if u are getting d money from me atleast use 10 or 5 percent of it to make me feel like a women that i am

that's true.

sorry to say. a guy that can't take of his Lady ain't come of age mehnnn.

DiamonJ: girls are depending on guy, just a little suport and gift ginger d relationship, like me my guy know what am what, but atleast when coming back from outside even if is groundnut buy for me ooooo, if u don't i'll start losting feeling for u, i'm a romantic person, even if u are getting d money from me atleast use 10 or 5 percent of it to make me feel like a women that i am

Choi! English don suffer true true from the hands of many naija women. Op do her own; now see the combo above.

DiamonJ: girls are depending on guy, just a little suport and gift ginger d relationship, like me my guy know what am what, but atleast when coming back from outside even if is groundnut buy for me ooooo, if u don't i'll start losting feeling for u, i'm a romantic person, even if u are getting d money from me atleast use 10 or 5 percent of it to make me feel like a women that i am

Choi! English don suffer true true from the hands of many naija women. Op do her own; now see the combo above.

DiamonJ: girls are depending on guy, just a little suport and gift ginger d relationship, like me my guy know what am what, but atleast when coming back from outside even if is groundnut buy for me ooooo, if u don't i'll start losting feeling for u, i'm a romantic person, even if u are getting d money from me atleast use 10 or 5 percent of it to make me feel like a women that i am

Choi! English don suffer true true from the hands of many naija women. Op do her own; now see the combo above.

prettythicksme: hey who are you don't you dare talk to me anyhow I am married and I am not jobless neither my husband is despite I am working my husband takes care of me even before we married I gat a good job and that doesn't mean he should not give me money I am just allergic to broke guys okay

By their face you shall know them. Money hungry Ugly Marafuckers

Gooci:

i like this question...........

second 2 like ur question till death take me.
Buying provision 4 her female friends 2 impress them?who does dt shit again

sameer1212: ops it seems u dnt love dis ur bf anymore dats y u r sayn oll dis stuffs here. r u dating him for ur frends or to ursef gal money is nt everytin.

Dating him for her friends

OlamiB: I Just don't know why broke guys wants to have a girlfriend too, before you start complaning let me quickly tell you am actually dating one

Guys jump into conclusion that girls don't want to date a broke guy simply because he has nothing to offer financially, but this is not true in all cases, a girl that loves you sees you in her future like her husband. She wants the best for you cos she sees you in her future, a girl can date a broke guy but no girl will intentionally marry a broke man.

I love my broke boyfriend because firstly am not dating him for financial reason and 2ndly because I see a bright future in him, but one thing remain, I can't marry him if he continues being broke.

I have stopped condemning girls that doesn't settle for less, there are so many disadvantages of dating a broke guy namely:

*talk about a boring relationship; when your female friends are going places with their rich bf, you are just there lying on his bed staring at each other's faces in his heated room.

*your friends will not respect him; by the time your female friends get to know about his brokeness the respect will just not be there anymore, girls love each other and they want the best for each other.

*he will always disgrace you; yes! This is most annoying, a little amount of money will cause fight between you two, imagine asking your broke boyfriend to at least present himself in a wealthy way to impress your female friends by buying provision or something for them will make him tear you apart.

*he commands too much respect; this is funny, even rich guys that can afford to buy expensive things for their woman doesn't command as much as him, I guess this is done so you won't disregard him.

*he will naturally look stingy to you ; imagine asking your broke boyfriend to help you with #500 when he himself already has a plan for the only #1000 left with him, this is ridiculous because by the time he decides to impress you with 2000# you won't just be feeling him anymore.

This is just a few of what I can remember now, guys should note that their being financially okay brings a kind of hapiness to their girlfriend/fiancé not only because of what they will enjoy from you but because they see their dream being fufilled through you, you live in the best house, drive the best car and all tell me if ur partner won't be proud to show you off.

I love my baby very much but as little as 100# can cause a misunderstanding btw us. God knows the kind of joy that will fill my heart the day he will be financially ok.

'it takes a real woman to date a broke guy and help him fufil his dream'

All this is written from the sadness of my heart.

I guess some guys don't understand me, I am only asking the guys to be rich for their own good not because of a leech girlfriend/fiance. Nigerian men are quick to insult any girl that comes here to talk about money in a relationship. I am not after my Boyfriend's money or anything, his happiness is mine also and I know he will be happy by the time he is financially ok to cater for all his own needs and beyond.

If you become financially successful it is your name that will be known not your wife's name talkless of a girlfriend, that is why I used Dangote and ADenuga as example...how often do you guys hear of Mrs dangote or Mrs adenuga? Is it as often as both men? NO! And in case the woman is as sucessful as the likes of omotola jalade, ngozi iweala their man is as successful as them.

Narrow minded, shallow and lame. All I see are ''my friends my friends''. Are you dating him for your friends??

If you need money, go get yourself a job. He is not your father.

Everyone has actually made known to me the different kind of mindset we have in the world and it has made me wiser.
I have learnt a lot from this thread. Quite awesome.

The only problem with this thread is that should your boyfriend see this (Its on the front page already so he might have seen it), OlamiB, all your comments may get him depressed and serve as a "killer dream juice". It may serve as a demotivating factor and make him lose the little self worth remaining.
That the girl he trusts has exposed him (Though if he loves you he may not take it to the extreme).

You have tried staying for three years and just be careful where the relationship is going.

I am also of the opinion that bf/ gf relationship is purely emotional, friendly etc. Moral decadence (Sex) is what makes girls think they need to be catered for. He is not your father.

Most of this mindset from our girls is as a result of what they saw in their mothers. Sitting at home, getting fat and doing nothing or perhaps because of poverty.

Yes gifts and all on special days or as he deemed fit is not bad but its not a right. If you dont want in then step out.

You have potentials girl and you can ride higher than you can imagine.

I'm a generous person but after reading the comments on this thread any girl that thinks she deserves my hard earned money because we're "dating" is going to be discarded so fast she'll get whiplash.

valdes00: What's the similarity btw this type of girls n prostitutes?
.... They all want money after sex....

am sure u broke n tz affecting ur brain too dats y u made dat kinda statement....

Lily4star: Now everyone knows your bf is broke , why you dey fall em hand for public nah.

You weren't forced into the relationship and you sef know he doesn't ve, as long as you both understand eachother, and you sound like a babe that cares about what friends say about your relationshipn infact you listen to advice from friends a lot, stop comparing jor. Since you say he has a bright future e go better, support him, encourage him and pray for him as well too. Stop bringing your relationship in public for people to ve something to talk about. Now get ready for the rest things others ll say, I trust Nl
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This is pure mockery ooo I swear, now Imagine your bf sees this, he ll be like

Lily baby.... i hail you.
I 've said it before, your parent must be proud of you.
God bless the sperm and the egg that forms you.
Nna m gozie gi oo.
The Op is the kind of woman that can not keep what we called family secret.

OlamiB:
It is your type that will discourage his sisters to stay away from broke guys. Tell me, can you allow ur dear sister date a broke guy? And to answer ur question on the bolded part, we girls know how it rolls. Take for instance my roomie's BF comes with goodies at each visit and same goes for all my female frnds, I won't even be bothered if my BF comes visiting with nothing, but do Ɣ☺u know that feeling when your frnds keeps telling you to remind ur 'broke' BF to buy something for them while coming? It doesn't feel good

You didn't answer his question...... Truly it seems you have some very bad friends, please be careful of them before they lead you to sin. I also noticed that you have avoided all the questions you are been asked......

OlamiB:
It is your type that will discourage his sisters to stay away from broke guys. Tell me, can you allow ur dear sister date a broke guy? And to answer ur question on the bolded part, we girls know how it rolls. Take for instance my roomie's BF comes with goodies at each visit and same goes for all my female frnds, I won't even be bothered if my BF comes visiting with nothing, but do Ɣ☺u know that feeling when your frnds keeps telling you to remind ur 'broke' BF to buy something for them while coming? It doesn't feel good

Clap for yourself.

I would like to thank you for summoning up the balls to respond. Alot of people on here write bullshit and just disappear.

Now for someone who is still very much in school, it surprising that you figured that i was that sort of person. funny.

To respond to your question, YES!!! you read that right, i would discourage my sister against broke guys but if you were that

bright, you will notice that in my very first response, i never ever touched on that.

I problem with your bullshit is that its bad enough that you classify your bf as broke who can barely spend on you. Then why o why

would you complain that he doesnt get anything for your friends?? are you for real?? You honestly think that those friends of yours

have best interest in mind?? I dont know who your friends are. but here is rule of thumb, the only person whos opinion matters is yours and

not your friends. Anyways, am done.

prettythicksme: how?

Dis gal na runs gal .... Ask hw again!
#iti

OlamiB:
Your God is seeing me, lie for what? I wasn't brought up with the mentality of dating guys for money.

You seems sincere, but you are trying to impress some friends. If i am correct you are less than 25yrs of age.

These friends might cost you your future. A wild guess you meet them in school

authe911: @OlamiB I really love your write up, sincerely you would be a great woman/ wife. Keep it believing and don't stop praying for your boo also include in your prayers that his head doesn't reset when he is financially Ok.

True talk, but she is trying to impress her friends

; this is indeed a classic Nairaland's thread.

wallflower: I'm a generous person but after reading the comments on this thread any girl that thinks she deserves my hard earned money because we're "dating" is going to be discarded so fast she'll get whiplash.

If u think she doesn't deserve ur monii,then she doesn't.Ave come to realize a man who luvs u, trusts u and knows dat u are different from others will appreciate u.maybe nt with cash but in oda wonderful ways like listening,caring e.t.c Frm experience a man dat luvs u spend on u according to his capability,to insist on wat he does nt ave is where d problem lies.

gede7744: op l like u. u are too factual.

but have u considered d fact that some ladies/women are created to be richer than their husbands/ (or in ur case bf)

if u are born to be richer than ur husband and u refuse to maximize ur potential all because u believed that men are born to be a sole provider u are cheating on urself and u will definitely be miserable


my advice- maximize ur potential. don't wait for any man to complete u. be a complete entity. any other jara is appreciated

shalom

GBAM!

My sister u don heat the nail on d head.

The OP is a demented Nigerian fellow who feels Men are the only sole contributor in any relationship.

Good to know we still have Nigerian girls like u who think outside the box.

Abeg pardon my asking; are u married?

I would love to have a girl like u as my wife.

OlamiB:
Who is this one? That ur gf is dating Ɣ☺u for money doesn't mean every girl is like her ok? I have been with my bf for close to 3years now nd I haven't spent his 10k, if the relationship is based on money, I would have left even before the first 3months.

3yrs? Hmmm,,,,,wah ar yhhu guys waitn for?

ancashy:
If u think she doesn't deserve ur monii,then she doesn't.Ave come to realize a man who luvs u, trusts u and knows dat u are different from others will appreciate u.maybe nt with cash but in oda wonderful ways like listening,caring e.t.c Frm experience a man dat luvs u spend on u according to his capability,to insist on wat he does nt ave is where d problem lies.

Thank you! I enjoy spending money on my friends and significant other but it's on my own recognizance, but I draw the line when some freeloader feels they have a right to the fruits of my labor.

Please can somebody ask the OP if she hears the name of the Husband of Mrs Alakija the richest woman in africa. Also, relationship should be a mutual concept not a mugu guy man thing. Both involved should compliment each other. That's why the oyibo people respect themselves o. Mai dey observe sha.