zeemoore: Everyone knows there's a clear distinction between discipline and child abuse
Corporal punishment (physical punishment) is child abuse, plain and simple
Flogging has made many Nigerians aggressive and left many without a purpose.
Many victims later in life don't understand the need to do things without been 'caned'
Corporal punishment teaches that violence is an appropriate response to problems or frustrations with people and that can lead to a cycle of violence and victimization in the child's future relationships.
It puts children at risk for depression and anger management problems.

texanomaly:

Bless you.

What type of alternatives can you offer. As another comment aptly put it, it is the only thing many know.

LarrySun: The topic has once been argued here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1814779/corporal-punishment-significant-part-african

zeemoore:
You can discipline a child by witholding rewards and things they are entitled to as children
You tell him "you can't watch TV if you don't do what I asked you to do"
A swat on the bo.tt.om is also a mild way to discipline a child
Parents usually spank when they angry so giving the child a time-out gives you time to cool off and also gives the child time to think about his bad behaviour
You can also take away something he likes
You can take away a favourite toy or snack for a time or prevent him from playing with friends for a particular period.
*You set limits..... Set some rules but you have to acknowledge his perspective because kids accepts our limits when they feel we truly understand them
When it's past his bedtime and he doesn't want to go to bed, you tell him to go to his room in a mild way
"I know you still want to play but It's past your bedtime, darling. Go to bed so you won't be late for school tomorrow"
When you get a child involved in deciding what is and is not acceptable and what should be done when the rules are broken, he feels loved/important and not a 'kunta kinte' you can flex muscle on when you feel like

zeemoore:
You can discipline a child by witholding rewards and things they are entitled to as children
You tell him "you can't watch TV if you don't do what I asked you to do"
A swat on the bo.tt.om is also a mild way to discipline a child
Parents usually spank when they angry so giving the child a time-out gives you time to cool off and also gives the child time to think about his bad behaviour
You can also take away something he likes
You can take away a favourite toy or snack for a time or prevent him from playing with friends for a particular period.
*You set limits..... Set some rules but you have to acknowledge his perspective because kids accepts our limits when they feel we truly understand them
When it's past his bedtime and he doesn't want to go to bed, you tell him to go to his room in a mild way
"I know you still want to play but It's past your bedtime, darling. Go to bed so you won't be late for school tomorrow"
When you get a child involved in deciding what is and is not acceptable and what should be done when the rules are broken, he feels loved/important and not a 'kunta kinte' you can flex muscle on when you feel like

Preciousone4ril: In recent years,corporal punishment seems to hv reduced in comparison to the olden days. This is probally cos of modernization and a greater sense of awareness among parents. Soon it wld b faced out.

Ishilove:
I agree with you, but not in most. You should tell a child mildly to go to their rooms because its past their bedtime? Well, I think it depends on the temperament of the child.

Tell young Master Uche, my godson to go to his bedroom and he will do the exact opposite. He'll huff, and he'll puff, and IGNORE you thereafter! Not until you yell and shake your fist will he obey any order.

My sweet Mam spanked me thoroughly, and I'll carry on the legacy.

zeemoore:
You can discipline a child by witholding rewards and things they are entitled to as children
You tell him "you can't watch TV if you don't do what I asked you to do"
A swat on the bo.tt.om is also a mild way to discipline a child
Parents usually spank when they angry so giving the child a time-out gives you time to cool off and also gives the child time to think about his bad behaviour
You can also take away something he likes
You can take away a favourite toy or snack for a time or prevent him from playing with friends for a particular period.
*You set limits..... Set some rules but you have to acknowledge his perspective because kids accepts our limits when they feel we truly understand them
When it's past his bedtime and he doesn't want to go to bed, you tell him to go to his room in a mild way
"I know you still want to play but It's past your bedtime, darling. Go to bed so you won't be late for school tomorrow"
When you get a child involved in deciding what is and is not acceptable and what should be done when the rules are broken, he feels loved/important and not a 'kunta kinte' you can flex muscle on when you feel like

Kay17:

You are assuming kids are rational beings with adequate control over their emotions, and that they naturally respect others. I think spanking in a reasonable manner is always ideal. And the kids have to be aware of your authority.

carefreewannabe:

Some parents / teachers have enough authority without spanking. Just saying.

Kay17:

Different strokes for different strokes. .

texanomaly:

This is worth quoting. If you are not a mom now, you will one day be a great one.

Ishilove:
I agree with you, but not in most. You should tell a child mildly to go to their rooms because its past their bedtime? Well, I think it depends on the temperament of the child.

Tell young Master Uche, my godson to go to his bedroom and he will do the exact opposite. He'll huff, and he'll puff, and IGNORE you thereafter! Not until you yell and shake your fist will he obey any order.

My sweet Mam spanked me thoroughly, and I'll carry on the legacy.

Kay17:

You are assuming kids are rational beings with adequate control over their emotions, and that they naturally respect others. I think spanking in a reasonable manner is always ideal. And the kids have to be aware of your authority.

zeemoore:
Not one yet
Thanks

zeemoore:
Spanking makes the child aware of your authority?
Whatever rocks your keke napep, man

Kay17:

You are assuming kids are rational beings with adequate control over their emotions, and that they naturally respect others. I think spanking in a reasonable manner is always ideal. And the kids have to be aware of your authority.

Kay17:

Someone once said that we are more conscious of the origin of our pains than the source of our pleasures, and attempt to conform/avoid it.

Kay17:

Someone once said that we are more conscious of the origin of our pains than the source of our pleasures, and attempt to conform/avoid it.

zeemoore:
Spanking/hitting (even when it appears to work) can produce only superficially good behavior based on fear, which can only take place until the child is old enough to resist while cooperation based on respect lasts permanently, bringing many years of mutual happiness as the child and parent grow older.
Hitting is hitting, it's not love, neither is it discipline/teaching
Being a 'tiger mom/dad' doesn't make a child change his behavior, it only teaches him to avoid getting caught
I guess you are one of the people who see their children as someone lesser than them and therefore they should be 'controlled'

I just want you to know children learn attitudes and behaviors through observation and imitation of their parents' actions, for good or ill.
The violent teenagers you see everyday didn't fall from the sky

Kay17:

The child traces the pain to you and sees the attachment between your satisfaction and zero pain. Hence easily conforms to your modelling. See African parents for example, they are the most respected. You have to consider the child's immaturity and inability to reciprocate gratitude or endearment.

texanomaly:
Fear is not respect or love.