doris4u: Thnks friends, i dnt knw hw i let him av his way

doris4u: Am a graduate of one of the Nigerian Universities.i dated my ex for4yrs.Early dis yr he contacted me bt i refusedto travel to see him.Recently he persuaded me dat we need to reconcile. I travelle to see him,on getting there around 8pm,he told me dat i wld leave d nxt day due to d fact dat he was told to travel for something important.During dat nite he was busy wit his fone instead ,2 gals kept calling him nd he claimed dat he had nothing wit them,one kept calling till 11pm dat nite.He said dat we shld reconcile cos he doesnt want to hold grudges wit me bt she become friends first. i told him dis could be discussed on fone without me coming ti spend a nite for someone he hasnt seen for 2yrs. I left d nxt morning nd he didnt even help me wit one naira for my tfare,d most painful part is dat he had his way wit me nd didnt call me as i was on my journey,wen i got home i calld him to say i av gotten home.Later dat nite i called him nd didnt pick bt tried his no 15min later only to have met him on 20 min call. out of annoyance i sent him a bad text nd he blocked me on bbm nd whatsapp nd told me neva ti call him again dat he sees dat i will neva change.Nairalanders did i do anything in trying to forgive dis guy

2sExy1: you are a fool... a big fool. It's girls like you that give others bad name and reputation among the male folks, technically making them look cheap. As much as you would not want to accept this fact, you just acted cheap and making other girls look cheap too.

2sExy1: you are a fool... a big fool. It's girls like you that give others bad name and reputation among the male folks, technically making them look cheap. As much as you would not want to accept this fact, you just acted cheap and making other girls look cheap too.

Please, how does your cursing, your tone and your post in general help the OP become a better person?

She knows she's a fool already, she knows she's the biggest one ever liveth.
In fact, her mistaken actions are playing before her like a Nollywood production.

Why Don't You Tell Her What She Doesn't Know At This Moment.
Or you probably get some high off shaming people for their mistakes, which you know (or probably don't) causes them to feel scarred, browbeaten and quivering with fear in a puddle of tears.


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Is it Thoughtful, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, KIND!

MizMyColi:

Please, how does your cursing, your tone and your post in general help the OP become a better person?

She knows she's a fool already, she knows she's the biggest one ever liveth.
In fact, her mistaken actions are playing before her like a Nollywood production.

Why Don't You Tell Her What She Doesn't Know At This Moment.
Or you probably get some high off shaming people for their mistakes, which you know (or probably don't) causes them to feel scarred, browbeaten and quivering with fear in a puddle of tears.


Please before you comment on sensitive matters like this; [size=14pt]THINK![/size]

Is it Thoughtful, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, KIND!

Godmother:

Jeez , you are harsh o. The OP did no wrong. She just followed her heart instead of her head . Cut her some slack pls. She's too emotionally wrecked to be receiving your lashings. I'm sure she's doing enough of that on her own.

@OP
We all make mistakes. Like it has been said, learn from yours and move on. As painful as it may be, zero this guy from ur mind. Just see him as a teacher that taught you to be strong and move on. Be careful next time and learn to zip up. If you can't do that, then dnt be so quick to jump into bed the next time. Too many players out there.

2sExy1:

It's annoying jor. when guys say girls have fish brain, it because people like this one. what if she had an accident? did she bother to think about that, considering it had to do with reconciliation?

well, I have said my words and I owe her no apologies.

2sExy1: you are a fool... a big fool. It's girls like you that give others bad name and reputation among the male folks, technically making them look cheap. As much as you would not want to accept this fact, you just acted cheap and making other girls look cheap too.

2sExy1:

It's annoying jor. when guys say girls have fish brain, it because people like this one. what if she had an accident? did she bother to think about that, considering it had to do with reconciliation?

well, I have said my words and I owe her no apologies.

TRADELYN:
My guy, you do!

naah your comment make me follow you come here.

Trust me, I never expected this from you.
You lost your cool today on this.

You could have made your points in love!!!

doris4u: y r u so pained,do u av to insult me b4 u pass ur message? its nt by force to comment on my thread.u just showed ur nt civilized. i dnt knw y u always contribute aggressively in most threads.

doris4u: y r u so pained,do u av to insult me b4 u pass ur message? its nt by force to comment on my thread.u just showed ur nt civilized. i dnt knw y u always contribute aggressively in most threads.

2sExy1: na my trademark if you follow my comments here... you go jam rock.

Even when it is explicit this is a sensitive issue?
And the OP knows neither you nor your "trademark" as far as God's green Nairaland is concerned? even if she did?
So it has to be your "trademark" over the feelings of the Human being who is actually behind that moniker?
Do you not know that even in your "trademarking"; wisdom is profitable to direct?







For some reason, apart from my diary and chat room, this is the only thread I've followed this keenly on NL in eons.
As is my tradition, when I say "Okay. Noted". I never reply nor quote that moniker on the thread.
I took this exception, hoping to bring to your attention, how flawed you "trademark" reason is



Come up with a better "trademark" reason seeing as you've tried one already

MizMyColi:
Even when it is explicit this is a sensitive issue?
And the OP knows neither you nor your "trademark" as far as God's green Nairaland is concerned? even if she did?
So it has to be your "trademark" over the feelings of the Human being who is actually behind that moniker?
Do you not know that even in your "trademarking"; wisdom is profitable to direct?







For some reason, apart from my diary and chat room, this is the only thread I've followed this keenly on NL in eons.
As is my tradition, when I say "Okay. Noted". I never reply nor quote that moniker on the thread.
I took this exception, hoping to bring to your attention, how flawed you "trademark" reason is

2sExy1: and why must you want to pet a full blown adult who couldn't reason properly... does life afford anyone such luxury?

I've encountered two TPs on this thread.

No provoke me o.

*laughing hysterically*

This is the point where I should get scared and Chicken off, ey? Seeing as you're about to unleash your "trademark"?

TRADELYN:
I commend your sense of maturity.

I believe this hard lesson learnt will only make you better, wiser, stronger.


It's well!!!

MizMyColi:

I've encountered two TPs on this thread.






*laughing hysterically*

This is the point where I should get scared and Chicken off, ey? Seeing as you're about to unleash your "trademark"?

2sExy1:

Goodnight.

MizMyColi:


Goodnight.

MizMyColi:


You can't ask her to forgive the guy and expect God to keep punishing him.
That God must be a devil.

vincent561: Mehn! This is really pathetic!. I feel ur pain sis.

All i have to say is 'MOVE ON!'. Don't waste ur tym on dat ingrate(sorry to say). But u really made a hell of a mistake by getting in bed with him after a long while and i believe u've learnt ur lesson. Well,it only shows u re deeply in love with the said guy,i understand.

I'll like u to know that u never did any thing wrong by forgiving him. Pick up ur pieces nd get on with ur life. Bear no grudge against him. No guy is worth stressing ur lacrimal gland!. U re an angel and there re a phalanx of gud guys out there willing to love nd cherish u forever.

Go with these and enjoy the more palatable life that lies ahead of u.

Driven: You did nothing wrong by forgiving. Infact, 'forgiving' is one thing that could NEVER go wrong. But hey, you did a lot of other things wrong.


There's a scripture in Proverbs that says ''a good man guards his affairs with discretion'', and another says ''wisdom'' is profitable to direct''. In your attempt at being good by forgiving, you threw discretion and wisdom into the trashcan. And such things usually come with consequences as you're experiencing now.


For Christ's sake, your ex wanted you to reconcile, yet you had to be the one to travel! Why couldnt he come for you? Why did you think you had to travel for your forgiveness to get to him? From the little you've written, I can boldly say he has no respect for you, and must have let you know in no subtle way while the relationship was on, yet you let him disrespect you again. The average person in your life would usually 'poke' you to find your boundaries, and when they find out you have none, you are done for. This is exactly what has happened here.


'He had his way with me': can you please take some responsibility? He didnt force you, so why speak like that? Your body is the temple of God; you dont give gold to swines.


All said and done, we all make mistakes, but I'll like to tell you to leave that guy alone. Learn from this episode and put it behind you. You can forgive him without having him in your life. He who needs a friend should prove himself friendly. If he cant, then he should shift. Build your self esteem too and make some new rules to abide by. For starters, decide to act more respectably; refuse to be treated like a yoyo by anyone. Lastly, keep your body to yourself till after marriage.


All the best.

2sExy1: and why must you want to pet a full blown adult who couldn't reason properly... does life afford anyone such luxury ? No provoke me o.

aflyingbird: wanted 2 stop reading when i got 2 d part where u said u were d one who traveled to c him! . wat's wrong with u? . u deserve a big wake up slap for doing dis 2 urself.

chidyhels: 2sexy1
Are we progressing or retrogressing?

wallflower:
Do you understand what mistake means, stop looking for a reason (Trademark) to be rude, there's a difference between being blunt or direct and being rude. And stop acting as if you're above reproach.