It is a well-known fact that humans live most of their lives married. That is, you share most of your live with someone else, usually from a different cultural, religional or linguistical background. This makes marriage very important and something you shouldn't just undertake passively. Before getting married, you need to discuss with your spouse on how the journey will begin, how it will suit the both of you, what your priorities are, and what you have to offer. You need to put in a lot of communication to get something out of it, or at least get the ball rolling because it will eventually to be a longer and challenging journey than you expected. Today, I'll be highlighting 15 important questions you need to ask your spouse-to-be(and you must get answers to them) if you want to build a marriage that is clear of misunderstandings. So, let the questions begin.

#1. How many children do you plan to have and support?

#2. If the both of you are from different tribes, how do you handle your different food preferences? Can one be allowed to eat outside without irritating the other?

3#. Are there any social activities or habits that may cause disagreements? Must one give up those social activities or habits?

4#. If she's still schooling, will you help in footing her educational expenses?

#5. If you're both working in different cities and earning well, who will resign to join the other person?

#6. If she wants to postpone childbearing for career reasons, will you allow it? For how many years?

#7. Will the both of you operate separate bank accounts or a joint family account after marriage?

#8. If the husband has an unmarried sister or brother and the husband's family is not bouyant enough to cater for them, will they be allowed to live in your home?

#9. Who's to do what, if you're both pursuing careers? Will the both of you do the house chores together or is it the woman's responsibilty alone?

#10. Is there a physical disability you can live with? Or are there any conditions for managing such disabilities?

#11. Do you see education as a must? Will any of you be forced to further their education?

#12. How will the both of you handle family issues and in-laws? Will you allow court wedding?

#13. If the both of you are of different religions, will either of you be forced to convert? Will there be any exceptions?

#14. Do your s*x moods or moments align? Do any of you need to adjust their s*x needs to fit in with the other?

#15. Have the both of you discussed your pasts in detail? Do you both agree to let go of past mistakes and embrace the challenges of marriage?

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Aprime:
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You can always say that again and again. In the meanwhile, if you have any issues on love, romance and s*x, you can always reach me here for advice. Thanks buddy.

Not all are advisable

Cool list. Number 8, 10, and 14 are critical to most people.

Maybe jamb should help set up questions on marriage then each couple can print it online and mark themselves, anything below 60% would mean they both arent compactible. Meanwhile, there are somethings that cant and shouldnt be asked but discovered. Even 50 years of marriage still has its surprises.

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I couldn't read all that....the mere thought of reading it is too much in itself...
Anyways,make i rest small here

Pervert1:
I couldn't read all that....the mere thought of reading it is too much in itself...
Anyways,make i rest small here

just take your time and read up the list one after the other.

egopersonified:
Maybe jamb should help set up questions on marriage then each couple can print it online and mark themselves, anything below 60% would mean they both arent compactible. Meanwhile, there are somethings that cant and shouldnt be asked but discovered. Even 50 years of marriage still has its surprises.

yes, that's right. Somethings may not be discovered. But don't you think there should be an agreement on the little obvious and unique differences both partners have? If they can agree on the little things that are obvious for everyone to see, they'll be more prepared to handle other subtle things, going into the marriage.

All the points you raised are important,but life is not that easy...you can't jst read a good write up and ...boom...it's all good.

Pervert1:
All the points you raised are important,but life is not that easy...you can't jst read a good write up and ...boom...it's all good.

You're not asking the questions to get a miracle for your marriage. Asking and getting answers to the questions will only clarify things and help you make better plans for the future. For your marriage to work, it will all depend on the workability of the plans you undertake afterwards.

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