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Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Obiwannn: 3:44pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
faithugo64: That in fact is true love |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Obiwannn: 3:44pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
eph12: Give this man a beeer!! |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by beyonDskygirl(f): 4:10pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Lol....I do fink everi1 shud b sincere here....its absoluteli impossible 2 b in a relatnshp wif sum1 n luv d person( nt agape luv as indicated abv) n nt v d desire 2 b intimate wif such person.....d filin is a natural fin as far as u'v gat blood flowin tru ur veins n nt orange juice...dn its nw a choice 2 succumb or nt ( now @ dis point, it depends on individual principle) PS: even d most holy pastors had d@ same urge wn dy wr courtin wif deir partner....cos it's natural n a normal fin 2 v such urge 4 sum1 u luv(n abnormal nt 2 v such urge). A writer once said.."It's normal 2 v an erection buh neva let ur erectn gv u directn". Minin u own d body, u shud control it, it shudnt control u 1 Like |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 4:57pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
abm2pistle:am not disputing your facts but when true love is involve true,Sex won't be a priority or an issue. Except if u were attracted by her shape,boobs,booty etc but when they love is genuine the story is different with respect 2 our human nature |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 5:05pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Centrifuge4:hey don't misunderstand me. Am nt talking from a religious point of view am talking from the emotional and psychological aspect.take for instance wen u are very happy or sad u won't have the appetite 2 eat so its in the same development when the love is from ur heart it controls ir feelings n urges. The reason why u had se with her probably u were very intimate with her n u couldn't control ur urges |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 5:08pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
olami100:. It actually depends I dnt know from what pespertive u are looking from wat I meant is wen u genuinely love her I mean GENUINELY love her nt because of her shape,boobs,booty or tins like dat den sex isn't an issue |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 5:10pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
oloworulz:lol! Every one has his motives for been in a relationship from wat am seeing urs happen 2 be sex. Mine is beyond dat weda left over or not NOTE: we all have stories 2 tell (past) |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Natasha2(f): 5:12pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
My humble opinion IT IS IMPOSSIBLE. There is no way you wont desire the person you love, no damn way its like this, you cant stop a bed from flying over your head but you can surely stop it from making a nest on your head. When you love someone it comes with the whole package, how can you even love someone I mean someone you want as a wife and not desire to kiss her or hold her not even once? The issue here is to desire and not to carry out the action. So it will be deceit to deny it. Abstaining doesn't mean you don't have a desire to do whatever, its just part of self control. Guys please visit this thread and help save a life. https://www.nairaland.com/1995601/sos-please-hamed-djdola 1 Like |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 5:13pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Tbright:yes ofcos the problem is dat dudes of our generation are after sex only. Lust is the oda of the day |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 5:14pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
datguru:na u get ur mouth |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 5:18pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
50calibre:that's ur opinion! Even when u have urges, self control amd abstinence counts |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by olami100(m): 5:22pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Rhapsodi: Then the question is dis! Is genuine love move by emotions, and feelings! Am just trying to paint a fact that love is beyond those two tins! Am not saying it is not possible not to have sex wif uf gf until marriage! But emotions and feeling can't be dat reason! Ur decision and determination as a man shud be that reason! |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Natasha2(f): 5:32pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Lemme get something straight. The poster is not talking about if its possible not to be intimate with who you love rather its about if its possible not to have the "desire" to have sex or blah blah blah. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by oloworulz(m): 6:31pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Rhapsodi:u watch too much of nollywood and Bollywood . It's not all about sex. Atimes u ve to use d negative way to to make it straight |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 9:32pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
oloworulz:lol |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Rhapsodi(m): 9:34pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
olami100:u've said it all |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Cue(m): 9:35pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
I don't just know y people won't face reality. Relaying and Repeating religious rhetoric posited by People they look up to, who most times cant tell u d whole truth about what practically goes on behind closed doors.No one is asking whether ur gonna act on it, they are asking if its possible to be in love with someone and not have sexual desire for them. They are not asking if ur gonna sleep with them, they are asking about the desire and feeling being present.Its impossible! Except some extraneous psychological factors are @ play. With Agape, or Natal, as per family,its possible,but not when ur in love! If so it ultimately means that U'd likely take sexual satisfaction elsewhere, where u have d sexual attraction. Controlling it though, isn't what's being discussed. Many who don't have sex, are controlling and managing the desire. If its assent...run! Else ur setting urself up for extra curricular activities in ur marriage, if u get there...lol! |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Phoenixfrank(m): 10:06pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Love is not selfish. When u truly love someone u would want to see them come up higher. u want to see their good and u know sex is in not way going to bring no good. I love my girlfriend for five years, never touched her. I didnt feel sexually attracted to her, but when she finally got admission, she dumped me. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 11:00pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Funny! Only possible when u re nt sexually attracted to d pesin or wen u jst like d person formally...but if u do love d lady or guy the urges to b intimate wit him ll definitely arise!!..gbam!! |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by SenatorJames(m): 11:01pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
izaray:Thank you brother. when God connects you with a true christian, it will be easy to love without sex in mind. though the thought will be flying through your mind as a result of some sexual hormones, but Holy spirit will help you. I do tell people that to live a holy life is very easy in Christ. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 5:41pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Rhapsodi: You couldn't agree with me more that alotaf ppl have sexx with people they don't even "LIKE"... How much more with the person you love? SEXXX is more like a reflex action and it's involuntary! Its always hard to resist it when the thoughts set in! More importantly, people like to express their feelings via LOVE-MAKING. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ratatis(m): 9:59pm On Nov 17, 2014 |
kandiikane: "not having the desire to sleep with a person " is not the same as "not finding the person sexually desirable" |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by kandiikane(m): 11:53pm On Nov 17, 2014 |
ratatis:If you love someone and don't have the desire to sleep with them, it means that you don't find them sexually desirable. Na friendzone things be that. if you are attracted to someone your loins and mind naturally gets to work. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ratatis(m): 4:49pm On Nov 18, 2014 |
kandiikane: You're entitled to your opinion, Sir! Personally, I feel not having the desire to eat, doesn't necessarily mean I don't find eating desirerable. Some people can only experience lust, to them love does'nt exist. Others can only experience a mixture of love & lust. For them no one can experience love in solo. Still, others, like me, can & do experience love independent of lust & vice versa & sometimes the two overlap, in a demi-sexual mode. It all depends on the individual. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ratatis(m): 5:16pm On Nov 18, 2014 |
firstEVA: exactly! |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 11:53pm On Nov 18, 2014 |
ratatis: You're saying the same thing bro! ""Not having a desire for something""... And.. ""Not having something desirable"" Is literally the same thing! If you don't have the desire to eat... In other words. You don't have that food desirable! Note.. Desirable/Desire is define as """"Wanted or wished for as being an attractive, useful, or necessary course of action"""" |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ratatis(m): 8:09am On Nov 19, 2014 |
foxxynik: take your time & read our original sentences carefully. You've replaced your own words, without realizing. You're only focused on the word "desirable". But a change of a single word in a sentence can change the entire meaning. If I do not experience the desire to have sex with a woman, it does not necessarily mean, I do not FIND the woman SEXUALLY DESIRABLE. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 8:38am On Nov 19, 2014 |
ratatis:how are you? |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ratatis(m): 5:18pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 7:17pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
ratatis:it's strange you have no single thread to your credit. |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by Nobody: 11:33pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
ratatis: Am not laying off my focus on "desirable" My focus is on the reiterated statement! You're saying the same thing! A person not sexually desirable to you...is the same thing as Not having the desire to have sex with that person! Its English tho... If you don't get my point... I'll have to cross my fingers! |
Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by ratatis(m): 8:14am On Nov 20, 2014 |
firstEVA: Didn't feel like opening one. Would do so when the need arises. Thanx for bothering to know. |
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