Should the Lord give you the good gift of a husband or
wife, and I hope He does, there are a few things I want
you to know. Things that you may not hear from anyone
else, and certainly not on TV or other media. Sadly,… your
church may not even tell you.
Marriage, sweet little people, is not for the purpose of
your happiness. Happy as I want you to be and hope you
will be, you must yet understand that marriage is God’s
design and His purposes must be pursued in order for you
to be truly happy. His end is holiness and He will use all
things in a life devoted to Him to fulfill that end.
To my girls:
Marry a man whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, he is
not hard to please. Admire him, cheer him on and show
gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please
you. Smile often, speak well of him always, and do
whatever necessary to try and maintain a pleasant mood
about you so that it transfers to your home, making it a
place where he and your children love to be.
You’ll have bad days of course, crying days even, and
that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor
and beg the Lord to carry you. Then get up, get a fresh
perspective (crayons will come off the wall), and try
again. Above all else, make a home.
To my boys:
Marry a woman whose first pursuit is Christ. After that,
she may be hard to please only if you don’t know “the
secret”. What is that? I’m glad you asked. The secret to
pleasing your wife is to make her feel safe and treasured.
You may have to move out of your comfort zone to do this
at times. She won’t always readily translate the oil change
to love, though it means that. But let me give you a “secret
question”–a question you need to ask her often. It’s not just
in the asking, though. Be sure to focus your eyes on hers,
maybe even touch her shoulder or face, and then ask:
“What’s on your mind these days? “ And then be ready to
listen. She wants you to draw her out. She will perceive
this as your protection over the matters of her heart.
Tenderness, listening, protection. That’s what she wants.
To you all:
If your wife or husband does something really silly,
forgive. If they do it again, forgive again. Forgiveness must
be the propelling force in your lives each day. Dwell on
the strengths, push out thoughts of their weaknesses. Take
every thought captive–choose to love.
Here’s that part you are not going to hear often:
If you find yourself “not happy”, having lost attraction,
disinterested, etc., you are not permitted to even think
about a divorce. If you find yourselves arguing more and
more, don’t think for a minute that “the children will be
better off out of this”, because they won’t.
The vows you took on your wedding day were not
suggestions. They were covenant vows, before a Holy God,
family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of
your life, even if you don’t feel like it. You swore a
solemn oath and if you can’t live up to it, don’t get
married. Decide up front that your marriage is
irrevocable. There is far more motivation for getting along
if your “marriage house” has no door.
Do not share intimate thoughts or feelings with anyone of
the opposite sex. Do not find yourself alone for any length
of time with such either.
Divorce is not a “private option”. It will affect multiple
families for many generations. When you “separate what
God has joined” you permanently injure far more than
just yourself.
Guard your marriage as fiercely as you would guard your
own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh,
just as God sees you. Treat your spouse like other family
members. You know, “you gotta love ‘em, they’re the only
family you’ve got”.
I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for
you to be holy.
Proverbs 19:14 – “Houses and wealth are inherited from
parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.”
Proverbs 20:6-7 – “Many a man claims to have unfailing
love, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man
leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him.” add ur own

I am touched...

Like the opp said if divorce is not an option in your marriage, then u will do everything possible to make sure the marriage works.

Wow... This is inspiring. Great advice from a great mother.

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wow! dat must be a great and wonderful mum...

Cool mum