| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by Nobody: 8:10am On Oct 22, 2014 |
finditng:
Every society has its own deductions from the globalised perceptions and definitions of Institutions, or ways of life...a break down to culture, norms etc. You'll be a fool not to recognise the local deductions of your own people, thus hi-jackn the global lay-down. A contrast that'll always give you problems yet you'll say you were right...infact you'll be but just not in that society..
Letme give you a practical example..In the western world, marriage is between individuals...persons do not particularly owe eachother's families that clear gratification of being a part of their marriage...that's why a white English guy can marry in Sweden before coming home and they all be like wow....he married some girl.or the mother inlaw calls to come and the wife can politely say it's not a good time and it won't mean anything. Etc..try it nigeria......same way in your society....here in Africa...children and continuity are key to marriage...and it is considered primary...infact families often pull down marriages with no children in them...
Point is...acculturalization, globalization and all these uniting phenomenons are good, but for your sanity and total avoidance of societal clashes, understand where to draw the bother line on stringent norms that still require numerous generations to eliminate the grass root believes that brought about them...it'll be like trying to cut a tree from its branch.....foolishness, pain and stress. Wow! What a very very very very very very sensible post  |
| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by Nobody: 8:15am On Oct 22, 2014 |
happyjuliet:
My friend as d same problem, where by d guy his telling her she must get pregnant before marrying her. She said never will dat happen y d guy said no pregnancies no marriage. Undo dey have gone 4 check an both of dem are ok. I am not sure d guy is marrying her 4 love, he is just getting marriage coz all is Frd are oing so, But d guy is till insisting on it, y are men like dat? Here's what your friend need know........ 
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| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by Nobody: 11:55am On Oct 22, 2014 |
finditng:
How about a case where d lady decides to abort despite all plea by the guy....this happened to a friend...he begd and begd...she took it out on the excuse that he wasn't boxed enough...he was serving then...and with the family he came from..I was sure fixing-up a father to be wouldn't be a prob....she took it out still.....some girls are funny trust me.....hw do you blame the man for such? this is clearly an exception, but i'm very sure that the percentage of guys who reject pregnancy is higher than those who accept |
| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by Nobody: 12:04pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
finditng:
Every society has its own deductions from the globalised perceptions and definitions of Institutions, or ways of life...a break down to culture, norms etc. You'll be a fool not to recognise the local deductions of your own people, thus hi-jackn the global lay-down. A contrast that'll always give you problems yet you'll say you were right...infact you'll be but just not in that society..
Letme give you a practical example..In the western world, marriage is between individuals...persons do not particularly owe eachother's families that clear gratification of being a part of their marriage...that's why a white English guy can marry in Sweden before coming home and they all be like wow....he married some girl.or the mother inlaw calls to come and the wife can politely say it's not a good time and it won't mean anything. Etc..try it nigeria......same way in your society....here in Africa...children and continuity are key to marriage...and it is considered primary...infact families often pull down marriages with no children in them...
Point is...acculturalization, globalization and all these uniting phenomenons are good, but for your sanity and total avoidance of societal clashes, understand where to draw the bother line on stringent norms that still require numerous generations to eliminate the grass root believes that brought about them...it'll be like trying to cut a tree from its branch.....foolishness, pain and stress. hmm prof finditng u get mouth |
| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by finditng: 10:47pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
firstEVA:
hmm prof finditng u get mouth Prof for where now?...lol.......firsteva tryn to whyne me up like them leister generators back den.....nawti u. |
| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by Nobody: 11:45pm On Oct 22, 2014 |
finditng:
Prof for where now?...lol.......firsteva tryn to whyne me up like them leister generators back den.....nawti u. hahaha, which one is leister generator?  |
| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by finditng: 2:07pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
firstEVA:
hahaha, which one is leister generator? Lmao...those generators bck in. Year 2000 there about...that ish wasn't funny...generators were still a big-deal in naija den...u had to whyne d stuff, time it before placing on the choker / gear...lmao....wf its two big water drums....lol...jeez....time flies...@ least it helped @ home then.......mandatory every night exercise then...lwrotf |
| Re: Pregnancy Before Marriage: Why Are Most Men Particular About It? by Nobody: 2:14pm On Oct 23, 2014 |
finditng:
Lmao...those generators bck in. Year 2000 there about...that ish wasn't funny...generators were still a big-deal in naija den...u had to whyne d stuff, time it before placing on the choker / gear...lmao....wf its two big water drums....lol...jeez....time flies...@ least it helped @ home then.......mandatory every night exercise then...lwrotf hahaha. but i'm not wyning u o, just stating the obvious... u sabi yarn |
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