| 10 Ways To Keep Your Man…or How To Score One by kateangel(f): 8:55pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
1. Sex on the Regular: Pretty Self Explanatory ladies…If he ask for it or lets you know that he wants some. Give it to him. Because more than likely you want it just as bad. So quit fronting! Also initiating sex shows that you are still sexually attracted to him. If he doesn’t get it from you then even the most committed men will get it from someone else.
2. Cook a couple times a week: A good home cooked meal by his woman will always keep him in line. A man will never cross a woman who cooks for him. It goes back to when he had his mother cooking for him. He will want nothing but yours. True story.
3. Prove to him that he is the only One, Not the important One: This does not apply to those with open relationships…and what type of woman has those anyways?…but if you ARE the one who wants him to be faithful to you, it goes both ways. Telling him he is the only one is not enough. He has to know it in his heart. You MUST really show him that he is the only person you are interested in. If he feels that he is one of a few, it doesn’t matter if he is the “main”, he will start to build a team of his own.
4. Have Discussions not Arguments: When faced with problems and differences have a discussion that includes both people speaking about the issue and both people listening. Don’t yell, cut-off, or over talk him. Same goes for him. Men hate a nagging woman. The more you do this the more he will search for someone that doesn’t do that. And there are women who know how to have discussions without arguing. So make sure YOU are one of them.
5. Take him out on a date once in a while: There are a couple of reasons that this is effective. One, it shows that you care enough for him to spend what you have on him. Two, it shows independence not dependence. It shows that you have your shit together and you don’t depend on a man to feed your ass. Its not like you have to make a habit out of it but it makes a nice surprise and keeps things interesting in your relationship.
6. Don’t Change Him: Allow progressive growth. Trying to change a man from who he is shows he is really not your ideal guy. It shows no confidence in his character and you are with him simply to mold him. In return it drives him away from the personality that you are putting out.
7. Being Honest: Even when it will hurt you or him, you have to be honest in every situation. Telling him something that you know he will not want to hear will hurt at first, but it will also build trust in you. The more you do this the more he’ll respect you.
8. Be productive: Nothing is worse than a sista who sits on facebook or myspace all day with no purpose, or who constantly has to ‘kick it” and “go out”. Step your game up hun, a man only respects a woman who handles her business and has goals and hobbies (”going out” isnt a hobby ladies). If you expect your man to have a job, car, own place, etc. you must be able to possess the same.
9. Know how to listen, not just talk: This is the most important form of communicating: listening. Not just hearing what YOU wanna hear. So when your man has something to say, hear him out. Even if he talks in novels, just hang in there. You’ll be suprised by how much you learn from your man by listening…hopefully yours has something meaningful to say, and if he dont…then why is he your man?
10. Have something to relate about: A relationship isnt possible without a bond, or “friendship”. Physical attraction, sex, financial stability, status, etc. is NOT gonna hold up your relationship sista. You have to have at least ONE thing you and him can both relate about. Or you gonna be in for a rude awakening. |
| Re: 10 Ways To Keep Your Man…or How To Score One by nana(f): 10:23pm On Nov 25, 2008 |
kate_angel:
1. Sex on the Regular: Pretty Self Explanatory ladies…If he ask for it or lets you know that he wants some. Give it to him. Because more than likely you want it just as bad. So quit fronting! Also initiating sex shows that you are still sexually attracted to him. If he doesn’t get it from you then even the most committed men will get it from someone else.
Err,'xcuse meeeeee! What sort of man are u talking about? The one u're dating or married to?
2. Cook a couple times a week: A good home cooked meal by his woman will always keep him in line. A man will never cross a woman who cooks for him. It goes back to when he had his mother cooking for him. He will want nothing but yours. True story.
3. Prove to him that he is the only One, Not the important One: This does not apply to those with open relationships…and what type of woman has those anyways?…but if you ARE the one who wants him to be faithful to you, it goes both ways. Telling him he is the only one is not enough. He has to know it in his heart. You MUST really show him that he is the only person you are interested in. If he feels that he is one of a few, it doesn’t matter if he is the “main”, he will start to build a team of his own.
4. Have Discussions not Arguments: When faced with problems and differences have a discussion that includes both people speaking about the issue and both people listening. Don’t yell, cut-off, or over talk him. Same goes for him. Men hate a nagging woman. The more you do this the more he will search for someone that doesn’t do that. And there are women who know how to have discussions without arguing. So make sure YOU are one of them.
5. Take him out on a date once in a while: There are a couple of reasons that this is effective. One, it shows that you care enough for him to spend what you have on him. Two, it shows independence not dependence. It shows that you have your shit together and you don’t depend on a man to feed your ass. Its not like you have to make a habit out of it but it makes a nice surprise and keeps things interesting in your relationship.
6. Don’t Change Him: Allow progressive growth. Trying to change a man from who he is shows he is really not your ideal guy. It shows no confidence in his character and you are with him simply to mold him. In return it drives him away from the personality that you are putting out.
7. Being Honest: Even when it will hurt you or him, you have to be honest in every situation. Telling him something that you know he will not want to hear will hurt at first, but it will also build trust in you. The more you do this the more he’ll respect you.
Easier said o
8. Be productive: Nothing is worse than a sista who sits on facebook or myspace all day with no purpose, or who constantly has to ‘kick it” and “go out”. Step your game up hun, a man only respects a woman who handles her business and has goals and hobbies (”going out” isnt a hobby ladies). If you expect your man to have a job, car, own place, etc. you must be able to possess the same.
9. Know how to listen, not just talk: This is the most important form of communicating: listening. Not just hearing what YOU want to hear. So when your man has something to say, hear him out. Even if he talks in novels, just hang in there. You’ll be suprised by how much you learn from your man by listening…hopefully yours has something meaningful to say, and if he don't…then why is he your man?
10. Have something to relate about: A relationship isnt possible without a bond, or “friendship”. Physical attraction, sex, financial stability, status, etc. is NOT going to hold up your relationship sista. You have to have at least ONE thing you and him can both relate about. Or you going to be in for a rude awakening.
Nice points tho' |
| Re: 10 Ways To Keep Your Man…or How To Score One by Sauron1: 3:00am On Nov 26, 2008 |
kate_angel:
1. Sex on the Regular: Pretty Self Explanatory ladies…If he ask for it or lets you know that he wants some. Give it to him. Because more than likely you want it just as bad. So quit fronting! Also initiating sex shows that you are still sexually attracted to him. If he doesn’t get it from you then even the most committed men will get it from someone else.
2. Cook a couple times a week: A good home cooked meal by his woman will always keep him in line. A man will never cross a woman who cooks for him. It goes back to when he had his mother cooking for him. He will want nothing but yours. True story.
3. Prove to him that he is the only One, Not the important One: This does not apply to those with open relationships…and what type of woman has those anyways?…but if you ARE the one who wants him to be faithful to you, it goes both ways. Telling him he is the only one is not enough. He has to know it in his heart. You MUST really show him that he is the only person you are interested in. If he feels that he is one of a few, it doesn’t matter if he is the “main”, he will start to build a team of his own.
4. Have Discussions not Arguments: When faced with problems and differences have a discussion that includes both people speaking about the issue and both people listening. Don’t yell, cut-off, or over talk him. Same goes for him. Men hate a nagging woman. The more you do this the more he will search for someone that doesn’t do that. And there are women who know how to have discussions without arguing. So make sure YOU are one of them.
5. Take him out on a date once in a while: There are a couple of reasons that this is effective. One, it shows that you care enough for him to spend what you have on him. Two, it shows independence not dependence. It shows that you have your shit together and you don’t depend on a man to feed your ass. Its not like you have to make a habit out of it but it makes a nice surprise and keeps things interesting in your relationship.
6. Don’t Change Him: Allow progressive growth. Trying to change a man from who he is shows he is really not your ideal guy. It shows no confidence in his character and you are with him simply to mold him. In return it drives him away from the personality that you are putting out.
7. Being Honest: Even when it will hurt you or him, you have to be honest in every situation. Telling him something that you know he will not want to hear will hurt at first, but it will also build trust in you. The more you do this the more he’ll respect you.
8. Be productive: Nothing is worse than a sista who sits on facebook or myspace all day with no purpose, or who constantly has to ‘kick it” and “go out”. Step your game up hun, a man only respects a woman who handles her business and has goals and hobbies (”going out” isnt a hobby ladies). If you expect your man to have a job, car, own place, etc. you must be able to possess the same.
9. Know how to listen, not just talk: This is the most important form of communicating: listening. Not just hearing what YOU want to hear. So when your man has something to say, hear him out. Even if he talks in novels, just hang in there. You’ll be suprised by how much you learn from your man by listening…hopefully yours has something meaningful to say, and if he don't…then why is he your man?
10. Have something to relate about: A relationship isnt possible without a bond, or “friendship”. Physical attraction, sex, financial stability, status, etc. is NOT going to hold up your relationship sista. You have to have at least ONE thing you and him can both relate about. Or you going to be in for a rude awakening.
All these guidelines to keep a MAN?? There must be a serious shortage of MEN out there to have dreamt of this. |
