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|Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by rafmike(m): 11:51pm On Dec 08, 2014|
Interracial dating has been one of the biggest
conversations within the black community. Black
men have made it no secret their liking to white
women. Regina King recently raised the argument
that we as black women still have not become
completely comfortable dating outside our race. I
recently did a survey on a group of black women
regarding their reasons for not dating men who are
not of color. Through my findings it seems as
though black women aren’t actually opposef to
dating outside of their race. Part of the dilemma
lies in women of color thinking that men outside of
their race won’t be attracted to them. Below are
the 5 top reasons black women are apprehensive
about going there with a white guy.
1. Body image
Black women are known to be naturally
curvaceous. We are praised for our assests by the
black men who love us. It has been known that the
bigger the backside the better. The rounder the
breast the better. The thicker the legs the more
beautiful. In the white community this has been the
complete opposite. The bigger the butt, the less
attractive. If your hips are too wide you’re
considered fat. Thinner is usually all around better
within the white community. This is naturally
engrained in both African American and Caucasian
people’s subconscious. Many studies show that
black men prefer woman with curves and white
men prefer women who are thin. After speaking to
6 black women between the ages of 25-40 most
state that they believe a white man would not be
attracted to them because of their voluptuous
Black women have been ridiculed for their hair for
many many years. Chris Rock made the movie
“Good Hair” that touched on many areas of what
black women go through regarding their hair. If we
wear it natural it’s consider nappy. If we perm it
we’re considered “white washed”. If we have a
weave, we aren’t happy with who we are and
would really like to be a white woman. Regarding
hair we just can’t seem to win. Since this is
already a touchy subject in the black community,
it’s obvious as to why a black woman would rather
avoid the whole “hair conversation” when dating a
white man. Sure most black men hate weaves but
the women I surveyed expressed how a black man
would understand more because he was raised by
a black woman. Because of this, a black man
knows all the changes his mother may have went
through maintaining her hair. He is no stranger to
fake hair or a pressing comb. A white man on the
other hand is used to naturally unenhanced straight
hair that he gets to run his fingers through. The
women I surveyed said they were naturally
intimidated when it came to dating a white man
because of their hair.
Statistics show that Caucasians have more money,
better education, better jobs and more
opportunities. In the black community, we naturally
have to work twice as hard and be 3 times smarter
to achieve the level of success deemed to be
successful. White men that are very successful
will usually date a woman who is as successful or
at least in the same class as himself. At least then
he feels as if he has something in common with
her. Because the black community doesn’t have as
many advantages this leaves desirable black
women to a minimum.
4. They are never approached by white men.
We as black women are constantly criticized for
being the ones not open to dating outside of our
race but what happens if white men just do not
approach us? When I surveyed these women, 4
out of the 6 said they were never even approached
by a white guy. Unfortunately black women have
the smallest pool to choose from. We are naturally
attracted to black men but the majority of black
men now and days marry outside of their race.
Statistics show that white men usually date within
their race and if they don’t, they are more likely to
date a Hispanic, Asian or pacific islander. The
percentage of white men and black women that
date is a very low one.
5. Just not attracted to white men
We are also guilty of just not feeling it. 4 out of
6 women also said they were simply not
attracted to white men. They felt as if they
lacked good looks that they were used to, as
well as confidence (swag) and sex appeal.
Because of this it was hard for most of them to
really become serious about potentially being
able to have a serious relationship with a white
As you see there are many reasons that stop
black women from dating white men.
Unfortunately many of the reasons stem from
insecurity. I think it’s important for us as black
women to not miss out on opportunities just
because of insecurities. Insecurity stems from
fear and fear can stop you from attaining your
blessings. At the same time, we are beautiful
creatures who deserve the very best. We
should also be able to get exactly what we
want. If that happens to be a strong, successful
black man, so be it. The sky should be the limit
for us. If we truly believe we can and do
deserve the very best, that is what will come to
us. But it is also important to be open to
anything life may have to offer. Life isn’t about
being closed minded. Life is about taking
chances and enjoying whatever challenges and
changes may come our way. If a good looking
white guy comes up to you and is interested in
you, don’t be so quick to judge or feel you may
not measure up in his eyes. If he approached
you, that means he’s attracted to you. Love can
come in all shades and sizes. Let’s not ever
allow stereotypes and judgments determine
who we can fall in love with.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by sam4(m): 12:00am On Dec 09, 2014|
i dey find my charger abeg
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Missmossy(f): 12:04am On Dec 09, 2014|
The first on the list is on point I concur.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by seyideco(m): 12:06am On Dec 09, 2014|
black women rocks
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by tzoracle: 12:10am On Dec 09, 2014|
Yet 9ja girls go still wan go on a long tin
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by rafmike(m): 12:17am On Dec 09, 2014|
1 absolutely rocks
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by LewisO: 12:21am On Dec 09, 2014|
sam4:Go checkam for dat barbing salon we u barb, na so i dey tell u make u no 4get am, but sleep weh u dey sleep for the barber chair no let u remember...
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by AfricanApple(f): 12:56am On Dec 09, 2014|
op I'm suspecting u are a white guy or lady
in as far as I'm concerned, none of those things u listed up there are facts: if white men likes it thinner, why are their women spending millions to get all those curves, are they doing it for decoration
did u say most black men hate weaves all the men I know actually likes it. opposite is d case here bro
that survey that showed Caucasians have more money, more education... tell me how, where and when the survey was carried out. oyinbo drop lies gbam! u too swallows it like it
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by rafmike(m): 1:07am On Dec 09, 2014|
Well, you can check out the source hommie. And for the record, I'm an English (England ) thou black.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 2:08am On Dec 09, 2014|
I kinda disagree with this premise. I am not denying that these reasons are not legitimate.
I find white men are really attracted to me. I didnt really notice till my girlfriends started pointing out to me that white guys check me out alot.
I must admit ( tho somehat ashammed) that most my serious man friends, relationship, flings and one night stands have been caucasians ( or not dark skin brothers)
Iguess maybe I do have " white girl" physical features and less black girl " attitude".
I am pure african as far as I know. But I frequently do get asked if I am mixed-of indian mix that is.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by kandiikane(m): 5:03am On Dec 09, 2014|
rafmike:how are you English and black? Are your ancestors anglo saxons, germanic? It is like an indian person saying they are yoruba.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by marieolae(f): 5:55am On Dec 09, 2014|
Chiadanin:and what exactly do you mean by a "black girl" attitude?
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by AfricanApple(f): 8:46am On Dec 09, 2014|
rafmike:I don't have the means to clarify its authentication, so I will just pass this
I thought as much. a true African wouldn't post such a thing
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by AfricanApple(f): 8:48am On Dec 09, 2014|
kandiikane:my dear, when he said it, I just had to visit my Google sharpaly, there, u are gonna get the answer
never knew there are black british
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 9:01am On Dec 09, 2014|
rafmike:show us your birth certificate!
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 9:07am On Dec 09, 2014|
Lets take one black man's assumptions and call them facts
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 9:55am On Dec 09, 2014|
Thank you for asking.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by lilmax(m): 10:50am On Dec 09, 2014|
What's the main reason behind "I need a tall dark man"
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by FLAWLES(f): 10:57am On Dec 09, 2014|
Which kin lie be diz?
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 11:19am On Dec 09, 2014|
The topic should be "Why white guys don't date black girls"
I don't mean to sound offensive tho, but African girls here most especially Nigerian girls don't get hit on from neither us nor white guys. Mosta them are dramaqueens, they brought their mentality here. They thought guys would rush after them like they were in Nigeria
My best female friend told me about her encounter at the club with a Nigerian girl, the Nigerian girl called her a bit'ch, that she's going after guys (me) meant for them. I was just laughing when she told me.
I can't say for every place in general tho, but where I am now - black guys date white girls, white guys date white girls, black girls date each other only few of them are lucky to have a black boyfriend.
I love me some Nigerian girls tho, at the end of the day I wanna marry one na, just not ready for their drama now. #TeamAfricanGirlsRock
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by kandiikane(m): 1:00pm On Dec 09, 2014|
There are black British (those who were born there or were given citizenship) but there is no black English.
British=nationality-this is what he should have said.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by TahariX(f): 1:15pm On Dec 09, 2014|
Lmao! She's one of those "special snowflake" people with a serious complex.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 1:31pm On Dec 09, 2014|
Not me. "They"
He-ll, I dont even know.
Thats the garbage you learn and hear when you live in united states.
Grrrll, I am all attitude and then some.
My humble opinion.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 1:49pm On Dec 09, 2014|
Lol. Ok. I guess I deserve that.
But I bet you'd change that tune right quick if you get to know me in person.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Bleshh: 4:25pm On Dec 09, 2014|
*middle finger emoji*
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by sam4(m): 4:37pm On Dec 09, 2014|
LewisO:u mean am?
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by LewisO: 4:55pm On Dec 09, 2014|
sam4:Na now u remember, u don see am?
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by sam4(m): 5:25pm On Dec 09, 2014|
LewisO:d man no open jare.
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by LewisO: 6:02pm On Dec 09, 2014|
sam4:Wetin dey worry dat guy self in no serious wit in biznes o, now your gadget ba3 don dey low now so wetin u go do now? i know sey now na so so ch@t dey your mind now, shey u no go go Chiemena or Uchechi house go borrow charger dey go borrow u for the luv weh den get 4u, bcoz i know sey if your gadget don off now dey go miss dat sweet ch@t wey u dey shoot dem...
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by marieolae(f): 6:51pm On Dec 09, 2014|
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 6:51pm On Dec 09, 2014|
these facts r copied from website i don't remember which, but I've read this before. however u r blabla how its not true, but research showed that black women get least attention in mixed public dating sites among other races
|Re: Reasons Why Black Women Don’t Date Whitemen by Nobody: 7:02pm On Dec 09, 2014|
ok cupid did a research about choice and race. somebody mentioned above that its white guys not choosing black girls (not other way around) which is true according research.
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