cococandy:

#RespectsMa'am
But
Something about this post doesn't sit right with me.

I just learnt recently that belief affects a person's DNA and maybe that's why I'm of the belief that ---

Nothing in this world would ever make me comfortable that another woman or man has turned my husband's private chef.
I mean Nothing. Even if I'm decapitated, incapacitated, inter alia......God knows there'll be this longing to be the one who satisfies him in the area of food and sex. If I don't know how to, if I'm inexperienced........I will go and learn, of course, within acceptable ethical bounds.


While this sounds old fashion even to me who's typing ATM, I honestly don't see a need to discard the tradition --- I will pass it down to my kids too.

coogar:

you were still a prepubescent girl when the incident happened. you wouldn't have had access to the internet then.

majority of them have the emotional make up of a 9-year-old girl. they are easily impressed.

the nigga cleaned out....
money, gadgets, several invitation letters to UK/USA from the gullible desperate women you see around here.

you wanna know what rhymes with annawhite? the loff of my life.

where have you been? merry christmas in advance. i might pay you a visit before the new year so keep my beers chilled.

chaircover:


Lets think about things deeply.
If your hubby starts making comments that he enjoys this cooks meals and starts inviting his collegues home to come and enjoy the taste of this cooks meals, you wont be very happy.
If he starts to ask the cook to pack take away for him to eat at lunch at work you wont be very happy
Everyone wants to be the one that will provide things for our loved ones that they like
I want to be the one that will buy my husbands favorite shirt or cook his favourite meal.
Many women have housemaids but they still insist on cooking and serving their husbands meals.
At parties I prefer to get up and pick my husbands food for him . . .yes he has hands but it gives me pleasure.

ladygogo:



Medal of honour sef.


Nice to see you here dear.

Happy holidays to you and yours.


It is well with our souls in the family section.

MizMyColi:





#RespectsMa'am
But
Something about this post doesn't sit right with me.

I just learnt recently that belief affects a person's DNA and maybe that's why I'm of the belief that ---

Nothing in this world would ever make me comfortable that another woman or man has turned my husband's private chef.
I mean Nothing. Even if I'm decapitated, incapacitated, inter alia......God knows there'll be this longing to be the one who satisfies him in the area of food and sex. If I don't know how to, if I'm inexperienced........I will go and learn, of course, within acceptable ethical bounds.


While this sounds old fashion even to me who's typing ATM, I honestly don't see a need to discard the tradition --- I will pass it down to my kids too.

carefreewannabe:


Chaircover, I really appreciate your diplomatic approach and sorry for replying a comment that wasn't directed at me BUT if a wife cannot cook, then it would be extremely selfish of her to expect her husband to eat it and then to pretend that it's yummy. So as long as she doesn't figure out how to cook in a way that her husband will enjoy it, he should not be forced to eat it or at least be free to eat elsewhere too.

Back to the topic, a father got his daughter a car and it should be not an issue at all. It's ridiculous, even if FIL and SIL have issues. It's just a car.

chaircover:


Lets think about things deeply and honestly
If your hubby starts making comments that he enjoys this cooks meals and starts inviting his collegues home to come and enjoy the taste of this cooks meals, you wont be very happy.
If he starts to ask the cook to pack take away for him to eat at lunch at work you wont be very happy
Everyone wants to be the one that will provide the important things for our loved ones that they like
I want to be the one that will buy my husbands favorite shirt or cook his favourite meal.
Many women have housemaids but they still insist on cooking and serving their husbands meals.
At parties I prefer to get up and pick my husbands food for him . . .yes he has hands but it gives me pleasure.

cococandy:
The onus then would be on me to improve my cooking not so?
But as long as I'm making potty inedible food,I shouldn't complicate his life further by insisting he keeps eating it.

After all if I could cook to start with he wouldn't need the services of a cook in our home in the first place.

That said, not every woman is like the other . Some may not mind at all.
Some can even cook but hire cooks as well because of their kind of schedule.


My own be say gift Na gift.

I won't let my pride stand in the way of my husband's comfort when I know all I will offer him is pride and no improvement in the area of concern. what is he supposed to do.
Bear it?

chaircover:


thats okay babes, we are all having a discussion so you are free to quote me.

Its just a car . . metal, rubber and paint etc

However this is marriage and both partys must do everything to protect the marriage.

My concern is where does it stop? and it opens doors for other things.
Thers is always someone richer, better dressed, sexier, a better cook, makes love better, finer, fitter than our husband/wife . . .where does one draw the line

I know the daddy bought the car cos hubby couldnt afford it but money is not the only thing that is important in the marriage
Nothing wrong in daddy buying the car if he can afford it but he should have presented it as a gift to the couple . . . not to his daughter.

cococandy:
The onus then would be on me to improve my cooking not so?
But as long as I'm making potty inedible food,I shouldn't complicate his life further by insisting he keeps eating it.

After all if I could cook to start with he wouldn't need the services of a cook in our home in the first place.

That said, not every woman is like the other . Some may not mind at all.
Some can even cook but hire cooks as well because of their kind of schedule.


My own be say gift Na gift.

I won't let my pride stand in the way of my husband's comfort when I know all I will offer him is pride and no improvement in the area of concern. what is he supposed to do.
Bear it?

ileobatojo:


Except that 99% of these arguments especially since the influx of trolls several months ago break multiple NL rules. Let the mods address those and leave the 1% that are civil. The place will still be sanitized.

carefreewannabe:



Exactly and such stories can only take place in a poverty stricken country. No offense, just saying the truth.
Yes, and in this case the husband should swallow his pride and be happy for his wife instead of creating problems for her because of HER FATHER.
This is up to each and every couple.
Why? I thought the husband already had a car. Why can't his wife have a car of her own? What's the big deal?
Apart from that, we don't even know how the FIL presented the car but I have a problem with people telling an elderly man how to present a gift to his daughter that the husband should be NOTHING but happy about.

chillis1:


Even when you try to be civil, they keep jumping on your throat like dehydrated frogs.

Today is smelling kitty Kat
Tomorrow, is nairaland women can you marry cripple.

Next is .. feminism is from the devil.

Bunch of low life's .


Pls, don't forget, when you are in Rome behave like the Roman. This place is just like Nigeria. No civility here.

Were your coveralls and dance galele

chillis1:


Even when you try to be civil, they keep jumping on your throat like dehydrated frogs.

Today is smelling kitty Kat
Tomorrow, is nairaland women can you marry cripple.

Next is .. feminism is from the devil.

Bunch of low life's .


Pls, don't forget, when you are in Rome behave like the Roman. This place is just like Nigeria. No civility here.

Wear your coveralls and dance galele

chaircover:


coco its easier for you to learn how to cook that it is for a man to suddenly make enough money to buy his wife a car
I can learn how to cook any new dish in 30 minutes thanks to youtube.
By the time I practise it 3 times, I will become a expert
I learnt how to cook nkwobi on youtube

SirShymex:


Lol, So basically LadyReed was trying to create a reincarnation of the real, no? Fake it, till he makes loool.

The real needs to come back lol.

This section is toxic with crazy and unculture women. And it will be a thing of pleasure to crack up at a proper dream seller giving them the dream shake like Hakeem Olajuwon lol.

ileobatojo:


Chilli no go kee person o!

Why is Chillisauce banned? I hope it's not a mod from this section that banned you.

chillis1:


I don't know the mod that did that . They said I'm wishing nairaland death. So they banned me as enemy of progress

When the site do yaphuka finish.

chaircover:


Depending on the culture . . . .
In the yoruba tradtional engagement, There is a very public show of the the huband and wife leaving their seats and going to sit beween their MIL and FIL, basically you are saying that you have new parents now.

As parents we need to be wise. If the car was going to cause an issue, then dad could have used wisdom to deal with the matter

Personally I dont see why hubby is fighting his wife. Its not her fault.

Matthewbriggs:


@ bolded gift na gift.

How would you feel when you have spent your hard earned time preparing a really nice dish for your husband to eat and your mother inlaw arrives from the village one night complaining of the fact that you are feeding his son rubbish, she says look at how lean my son has become since he married you. She now tells you that the dish you just prepared is not good enough for him that you should shove your dish in the dustbin.

She steps in to the kitchen and prepares a dish for your husband and presents it to him as a gift in your presence, and your husband is like mummy thank you very much for this gift. This meal means a lot to me. [/b]

What do you think about this gift. Would you want such a gift.

Do you agree the way and matter a gift is given, goes a long way in deciding how it will be accepted ?

cococandy:
I'm not encouraging discarding the idea of cooing for one's husband. In fact I didn't even bring up the topic of cook versus car on this thread.
But since someone brought it up, we might as we'll talk about it.
But life is not black and white.
Some people actually need such services because of their kind of lifestyle.
I still think they manage to be happy and fulfilled.
It is a big wife world out there.

You do have a point @life not being black and white.

I quite understand that in our world as we know it, no truth is absolute.

However, if you could recall, I used the word "comfortable" --- I want to see the world, I want to go places, I want to get the best in education. Now this ultimately means I may not always be there for my husband, we'd have to employ the services of cooks and maids.

Except I no longer feel love for the man, God knows, that no matter where I am in the world, the thought of someone "taking" care of him for me would leave me literally uncomfy ..... I would make it so obvious to him that I wish things were different, whenever I get the chance, I will so make it up to him

Lolz

I get your point tho'

But after all is said and done, a wise woman keeps her home ..... Whatever the cost.

ileobatojo:




Bwahahaha!

Sounds like the handiwork of Seun.

chaircover:


Depending on the culture . . . .
In the yoruba tradtional engagement, There is a very public show of the the huband and wife leaving their seats and going to sit beween their MIL and FIL, basically you are saying that you have new parents now.
As parents we need to be wise. If the car was going to cause an issue, then dad could have used wisdom to deal with the matter
Personally I dont see why hubby is fighting his wife. Its not her fault.

Mondisweets:
shebi you are the perfect example of a cultured man?

SirShymex:
Lol, a real married woman has spoken.

I'm out!

njokusboy:

Dat smelly kitty cat thread has been giving some people sleepless night oh....
The shoe seems to fit

Driven:
I wont be happy if my husband ran to his mum to get packs of food just cos I couldnt cook for him one day. Moreso, when it wasnt discussed. By the same token, if I were the husband in this case, I'ld get really angry if my wife showed up at the door with this sort of surprise from her father.

It's simple, if you cant give up the goodies you got from your very rich dad, dont get married to someone who cant give them to you! Stay with him till your mum chases you out.

As a dad, if you cant respect your daughter's marriage, or respect the man in your son-in-law, dont give her out in marriage! A diplomatic dad would have called the daughter aside, told her his intention and asked her to confer with her husband first, as he would only go on to get the car if the husband was okay with it. Anything else is total disrespect of the son-in-law/their marriage.

Life is not that hard; it's simple. Cant stop eating from daddy? Dont get married. Cant stop being your daughter's head? Dont give her out in marriage. Simple.

Lastly, here I am shaking my head in total repulsion at posts like those of chillsause and carefreewannabe. May God help any woman who listens to what they/their like say about marriage on this forum.