Just as you embellish your resumé to impress
potential employers, you also fudge some
personal details on a first date to boost your
odds of scoring a second. Your girlfriend
probably did this, too—and chances are, she's
kept a few ruses going ever since. Here are
some of the fibs she still drops daily, and what
she really means instead.


1. “I’m a Huge Sports Fan”
There are plenty of genuine female sports
fanatics, but many women are a bit more
“meh” on the subject. Problem is, they’ll still
spend countless hours perched in front of a
big screen with you and your friends,
pretending to have fun but secretly wanting to
escape by any means necessary. “Some
women believe that to keep a guy interested,
she must love what he loves,” says behavioral
scientist and dating expert Christie Hartman,
Ph.D., author of Changing Your Game: A
Man's Guide to Success with Women . Not true.
While it’s great to support each other's
passions, if she keeps watching ESPN to make
you happy, it will foster resentment.




Get the truth: Don’t make a big deal of it.
Just give her an out—and let her know it’s
okay to take it, Hartman advises. Say, “Hey,
we're going to watch the game. You’re
welcome to come, but if you’re sick of
baseball, I totally understand.”



2. “I Like My Independence”
Of course she values her freedom, but she'll
pretend she likes to take things slower than
she really does to avoid coming off as
desperate. “When given too much ‘space,’
women feel unattended to,” says clinical
psychologist Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D.
Basically, she tells you to go out with your
buddies, and then gets upset that you aren’t
hanging out with her.



Get the truth: Let her know you’re into her.
The more secure she feels in you bond, the
more likely she is to tell you what she really
wants from the relationship, Greenberg says.
You don't need to have a capital-T "Talk"—
just make some small gestures. Randomly text
her, “just thinking about you," or pick her up
her favorite snack because, hey, you were
listening.



3. “I’m Always in the Mood”
She couldn't keep her hands off you in the
early stages of your relationship, but now it's
a precedent she worries about keeping up,
says Jane Greer, Ph.D., a New York-based
marriage and sex therapist and author of What
About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining
Your Relationship. “Women are very much
aware of their partner’s sensitivity in this area
and don’t want to do anything to bruise their
egos,” Greenberg says. But obligatory sex
doesn’t make for orgasms or an emotional
connection.



Get the truth: If you’re not sure she wants you
to make a move, Greer suggests saying
something along the lines of, “Want to have a
little fun? If you’re too tired, that’s okay. We
can rest up for tomorrow.” (Wink.) It’s all
about letting her know that if she says “not
tonight,” you aren’t going to roll over mad.



4. “It’s Cool You Have So Many Friends Who
Are Girls”
In theory, ladies love men with platonic pals.
(“Finally, a guy who understands women!”) But
in reality, guy-girl friendships can cause a lot
of jealously. “There is such a bad connotation
to the word ‘jealous,’” Greenberg says, "but
it’s natural to have some degree of jealousy
when you care about someone. It’s instinct.”



Get the truth: You don’t have to ditch your
female friends. Just let her know that
sometimes you get jealous, too. Whether it’s
from her hanging out with her “work husband”
or accepting free drinks at the bar, tell her
when the feeling crops up, suggests
Greenberg. It will help her see that jealously is
perfectly normal. Plus, by showing her that
you care about her enough to be jealous, she
might be less worried about you straying.



5. “I’m Low-Maintenance”
A low-maintenance girl has never felt the need
to utter this phrase. But if your partner
doesn't lay down any rules and always says
she’s “cool” with whatever, something could
be up. She could be afraid of coming off as
difficult, demanding, or, yes, high-
maintenance, says Hartman. And while no
woman is going to kick off a first date with a
list of demands, if you’re getting serious and
still haven’t heard them, that’s a problem.



Get the truth: Watch your words, Hartman
says. If you find yourself complaining about a
difficult ex or talking about how you “just hate
drama,” you might be giving her the
impression she needs to put on a super laid-
back show.



6. “I’m Fine”
Despite what it seems, she’s not trying to be
passive-aggressive. She’s genuinely trying to
hide that she’s upset. “Saying ‘I’m fine’ can be
easier than telling the truth, because she
knows telling the truth risks making you
defensive or angry. Or that you won’t
understand,” Hartman says. But bottling in her
feelings—even if they're less than logical—can
spell more trouble down the road. And
honestly, if you drop the issue after she says,
“I’m fine,” you’re probably in trouble.



Get the truth: Instead of “What’s wrong?" try
“You seem upset. Tell me what’s on your
mind.” It lets her know you're all ears. “As
hard as it is, just listen,” Hartman says. “Let
her share her feelings, knowing it isn't your
responsibility to fix her.”

Not bad.

This "get the truth" is as easy as getting 370 in Jamb

Elparaiso:
This "get the truth" is as easy as getting 370 in Jamb

Wow! & Yet you didn't score up to 200 in J.A.M.B?? Even with all the runs?

Sometimes those things are true.

elantraceey:
Sometimes those things are true.

No, it is true only on the surface.

rexkexmilan:
Wow! & Yet you didn't score up to 200 in J.A.M.B?? Even with all the runs?

For your info....
I am a student at uniben....
So you know I scored more than 200

I was on the merit list
So you know I scored way more than 200

I don't know if you are a student....
Meaning you might not have scored uo to 180.....






BTW....
Ma take e personal

Elparaiso:

For your info....
I am a student at uniben....
So you know I scored more than 200

I was on the merit list
So you know I scored way more than 200

I don't know if you are a student....
Meaning you might not have scored uo to 180.....






BTW....
Ma take e personal

You are telling him not to take it personal but yet you took it personal, bragging about your achievements like seriously, who cares? You two need to grow up!

Elparaiso:

For your info....
I am a student at uniben....
So you know I scored more than 200

I was on the merit list
So you know I scored way more than 200

I don't know if you are a student....
Meaning you might not have scored uo to 180.....






BTW....
Ma take e personal

You took it seriously..... Just as expected.

Karleb:


You are telling him not to take it personal but yet you took it personal, bragging about your achievements like seriously, who cares? You two need to grow up!

Okay! So you have grown up?
Good to know!

there's no need for me to know o. thats life. there are lots of things you don't voice out too that u aint ok with as the guy.