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Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by jorlons(m): 10:12am On Jan 15, 2015 |
cococandy:Babe na God go bless.....infact thinking wuh kill me even though I never come see ur parents buh now my mind don hold ground... |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 10:12am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Seun: I upvoted you but laughed at the unfortunate part. Doesn't the bridegroom have sisters? |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by cococandy(f): 10:17am On Jan 15, 2015 |
jorlons: 1 Like |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by ttmacoy: 10:18am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Personally I think bride price should be abolished. It is archaic and puts down women by suggesting the man is buying them. In my opinion a young man and woman get married to move forward together as one, not to impress the girls family with outrageous demands especially where he has to borrow for it. They then start their married life with debt just to please uncles and aunties in the village. in this situation, if they are unable to bring down the bride price cost, then I see no reason why she cannot help him as they both know what they are working towards. I see it more as pride and mentality when people say they cannot allow. How then do you explain in India where it is the woman who pays bride or should I say groom price to the man? Does that mean the man paying is right in Nigeria and wrong in India? No it's just culture and mentality holding people in bondage. 5 Likes |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by GOFON(m): 10:18am On Jan 15, 2015 |
@BreezyRita, I think the wife to be can assist based on mutual understanding between them. Afterall the bible says two are better than one. Also how do you judge a situation where the couple move into the wife's apartment after the wedding since she had a better apartment than the Husband to be. Understanding and mutual consent is key in this scenario. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by cjoy4life: 10:19am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Hence the list have been given let the man do what he has the money to do. You will only help talk to your people, one thing is sure with experience if he want to spend #50k ,#100k,#200k or more there are all welcome in the list.you can only support in reception(RSVP) |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by justwise(m): 10:22am On Jan 15, 2015 |
BreezyRita:No. 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by safarigirl(f): 10:22am On Jan 15, 2015 |
listenersky:...this is in the events that pre-marital sex is being practiced.... Even at that, this is a low blow for a woman you claim to love so much that you want to marry her. If the bride price is too exorbitant either plead for a reduction or put it on hold....in fact, you can pay the bride price and the chic will fund the trad proper |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 10:25am On Jan 15, 2015 |
safarigirl: Don't mind him. Idi.iIt's who objectify women. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by safarigirl(f): 10:28am On Jan 15, 2015 |
ttmacoy:shey you know they pay groom price in India, is that also 'belittling' of men? Nobody should scrap bride price, how you go just waka enter pesin house, carry wife comot, for wetin? Her parents must be sure that they're giving their daughter to someone who can take care of her in their absence. Guys just keep abusing the fact that women work and contribute to the family, in normal climes this your suggestion should not even be brought up and the OP's question as well |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by nkkystel(f): 10:28am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Watched this on YOUR VIEW this morning. I am not in support of a woman paying or supporting her husband in paying her bride price. The man should. I am Ibo from Imo State, got married last yr, my father never collected a token (Bride price) from my husband. All my hubby did was to buy the things that was on the list given to him and he paid for the ones he couldn't buy, suming up to about 200+ . Though I was able to suport my hubby during our traditional and church cos I couldn't wait and watch him to do everything. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by JOKLEVIZ(m): 10:30am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Ix juz lik borrowin monei 4rm a car dealer to buy a car 4rm him... |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by justwise(m): 10:31am On Jan 15, 2015 |
listenersky: So a woman carrying your baby has lose her value as a human being? So she is now buy-one-get -one free? Pathetic. 1 Like |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Defcon1(m): 10:39am On Jan 15, 2015 |
elantraceey:EOD |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 10:40am On Jan 15, 2015 |
I won't if I could. My family should take him as he is And he better not ask me cos I advocate a low-key ''ish'' . So, if he wanna ''impress'', that's on him and I better not know about it too |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by adukenimi(f): 10:41am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Yes of cox,it will definitely b between d two of dem.d only essential thing is love which encompasses all other things sotherefore there isn't big deal @ all |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Thinkr(m): 10:42am On Jan 15, 2015 |
machi25:ori e daru |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by tartar9(m): 10:44am On Jan 15, 2015 |
for bride price again that is 20naira in my village.or did the igbo father-in-law give you his account number. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Thinkr(m): 10:44am On Jan 15, 2015 |
crazyinlove:all those men wey dey beat them wife for house who pay bride price? Be talking trash ehn |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by ttmacoy: 10:46am On Jan 15, 2015 |
I totally disagree with you. Yes I agree that Men should not abuse women who work, but I disagree that paying bride proce is the way to ensure men do not abuse women because they work. We all know of situations where after marriage a man becomes unbearable with the attitude of I paid your bride price. For a matured couple who understand each other and communicate effectively (which is something Nigerian men do not get) bride price is not what makes their marriage successful or brings mutual respect in the marriage, its their maturity, open communication and mutual respect so bride price is not relevant and should be scrapped not especially when people start using it to make outrageous demands. You mentioned dowry in India. Please read this article and come back and tell me dowry is right. In India even though its women who pay, its a form of slavery when outrageous demands are made on the woman and her family and they end up indebted to the grooms family which results in debt and violence. Dowry/Bride price is wrong, archaic and has nothing to do with respect or happiness in a marriage. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/10280802/Woman-killed-over-dowry-every-hour-in-India.html safarigirl: |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by BigVeinyDick: 10:53am On Jan 15, 2015 |
There can't be any woman that dumb in 2015.A man who cannot afford bride price should not be allowed to marry.Na who daughter e wan carry go dey suffer? |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by satowind(m): 10:55am On Jan 15, 2015 |
BreezyRita:Were in calabar are u |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by eyinjuege: 10:56am On Jan 15, 2015 |
listenersky: My guy, that your formula might not work o.. There are some cultures that once the lady is pregnant before marriage, the expenses are doubled because now the groom wants to take away two people. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 10:57am On Jan 15, 2015 |
sandiyke:Traditional wedding was not part of it...white wedding wasn't either. Bride Price is not the problem but all other things...women and men add up when they believe you have. A poor man doesn't worry...knock her up and go home with ur woman. The real issue here is survival after the spending spree...most brides don't work and can't support the young union. This action has alienated son-in-laws from their wives' families. Seriously instead of allowing your woman to pitch in noticeably, do the ones you can and still leave with her. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:00am On Jan 15, 2015 |
BreezyRita: |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:00am On Jan 15, 2015 |
listenersky:So you bad like this I go tell fada |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:02am On Jan 15, 2015 |
BreezyRita:. No, no, no, a thousand times NO! If u must help ur man, support him in reaching HIS dreams and goals. So he can be a Man and do wat men do. No think am two times. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:02am On Jan 15, 2015 |
BigVeinyDick:But they want to marry |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by manutdadex(m): 11:02am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Karleb:yes she shud tell her folks to wat her hubby can afford..instead of offerin to pay d bride price |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:05am On Jan 15, 2015 |
BreezyRita:it is not proper buh coz of love i thnk is ok and mind u ,she is goin to use ths against him one day..if conflict arise between them. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:06am On Jan 15, 2015 |
Seun:. Even if she doesn't mention it, he'll never forget it, ever. A woman who has to, should support a man in his goals, and dreams, biz or job. So he can cater for the people he loves. Except op isn't sure her man is hers. |
Re: Should A Woman Help Her Fiancé To Pay Her Bride Price? by Nobody: 11:09am On Jan 15, 2015 |
No no no.it is not adviseable. |
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