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@ topic no ! theres something called independence and knowing your own mind

I really think thats just wack, cos a woman also has the right to decide what she wants 2 do and doesn't need the help of a man. Except, if she wants his opinion and not him forcing her into what she doesn't want.

hell nah she got a mind of her own 2

kiki:

hell nah she got a mind of her own 2

There is no mind of your own in marriage, both couples have to agree in every decision or it won't work.
A career is one of that important decision that need compromise.

Hol on a sec, i want to get something straight. Is it after they are married he wants to 'dictate' her career? What was she doing before they got married? In marriage, both are one! Whatever decision should be taken unanimously and not 'dictated'

well i know in marriage u got to discuss things togethe but like domino said is it befor or after?

Yes, he can ask her. No. he can't pressure her into it

Is it after they are married he wants to 'dictate' to his wife? What was she doing before they got married? Haba!

u know some guys sponsore their wives-2-be bf marriage.so, ans my questn

I didn't get your statement clearly olunifemi, but i guess you're refering to if the guys sponsors the lady's education, well in that case, he still hasn't got the ultimate right to 'dictate' to her unless of course he's doing all of that for selfish reasons, there aint no real love!

Well from my own view, It's not fair to dictate one's carreer simply because you want to marry her.

omonozozo:



There is no mind of your own in marriage, both couples have to agree in every decision or it won't work.
A career is one of that important decision that need compromise.

Good point.


Well, lets look at it this way. It is not dictation but preference. Some careers are not really good for the home. For instance work that involve night shift, or too much closeness with the opposite sex, or the one that takes all of her time. Take for instance jobs like that of a Nurse, A P.A, or secretary, a banker, etc

A man may not be comfortable with it may be because of the children's welfare or because of the father himself. So if he insists that the wife should not take up any of these types of job, it may look like dictating but it may be for the good of the home.

He can only dictate for me if hes the one that paid my school fees .
However,carreer and working hours for both couple is an important issue that should be dealt with and sorted during courtship.

@ topic,

No he mustn't, instead he should support and encourage her on whatever her decision is. , . . .

Let the two of them reason together and agree.

Why should he dictate. Let her choose whatever she wants/likes. Lest she holds the guy responsible for her failed future.

jkpretty:

Why should he dictate. Let her choose whatever she wants/likes. Lest she holds the guy responsible for her failed future.

Thou hast well said twinny.

can a wife dictate when and where her husband goes out?

No way, ones carreer is a passion that eats one up until something is done about it , how then can my husband tell me what to or not, this thing call career is spiritual cos it connect to ur being, so in this case no dictation one needs to follow ones heart

NOPE cuz wen I decided 2 read what I read, I didnt know him and even if I did, he knew wat I was studying and what it entails