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Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by olipee(m): 7:52pm On Feb 04, 2015
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Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by femi4: 7:55pm On Feb 04, 2015
seedord247:
I keep asking them the same thing... Where in the bible did they talk about premarital sex ?...

If i'm a product i need to test it and see how efficient it will work if i decided to take it home.. grin
Pre marital sex = fornication = sin

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Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 7:55pm On Feb 04, 2015
gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol
your pics though wink i was force to quote you. If only that could really be you kiss.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by pobosky20(m): 8:00pm On Feb 04, 2015
gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

Motor engine different from TOTO. You better abstain or rot in hell.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by mickstique(f): 8:52pm On Feb 04, 2015
Dont want to say much .trt to study the following scriptures 1cor 6:12-18, gal 5:16 ,1jn1:8-9 ,Rom6:1-2, phil 3:18-19 ,phil4:8. i pray that God wil enlighten us
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Arbiola(f): 8:57pm On Feb 04, 2015
90% of people reading this thread had sex before marriage, so u guys should shut d Bleep up.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by callmebeauty(f): 8:59pm On Feb 04, 2015
@op;dis is a msg from d pit of hell....u wanna mislead pple abi?
Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by miketayo(m): 9:27pm On Feb 04, 2015
AZeD1:

Stop buying used cars, buy quality. People who buy brand new cars don't open the bonnet for a year.

even new cars r tested before they r put out for sale cheesy cheesy
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by 1miccza: 9:29pm On Feb 04, 2015
Ishilove:
The Op's post is what Dr Olukoya will call 'satanic logic'.

And I agree totally.

You agree with satanic logic??
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by GOOOGLE504(m): 9:31pm On Feb 04, 2015
gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol

evidence stands that u are a male,.. pls prove otherwise
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by fromnigeria(m): 9:35pm On Feb 04, 2015
as far as keeping oneself till then is difficult, these reasoning are unconvincing and inadequate. If you ask me
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by miketayo(m): 9:37pm On Feb 04, 2015
deebrain:
It depends...........

Try these,

Have a girl friend.

Have sex.

Produce a girl child.

Raise up the child to be someone in life.

Note the people toasting your daughter.

Have a relationship with the one you think is the most responsible.

One day, enter your house and see the "responsible" toaster, banging the daylight off your daughter.

If you feel cool with it and merely switch off the TV they left on and leave, then it is acceptable. All these abstainists are just jokers.

If you however have a heart attack, or the house turns into Gaza, then i think you know that it is morally wrong.

Many that bring these questions mostly only consider themselves.

even if the daughter is married to d guy in question, wat ll be ur reaction.. who wants to see his daughter being banged married or not?
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Temmy278: 9:41pm On Feb 04, 2015
kayciano:
My man you have hit some points.....
FOR everything GOD made...was wonderfully made..
We HUMANS decided to put up Laws ,restrictions, tests and these have rather made things worse..may be becos they were not managed well...

GOD gave us SEX ORGANS for a purpose, else he wouldn't have done such...
He also made it possible for our mind and these organs to attain MATURITY alongside.
He also made it possible for humans to enjoy sex, alongside 2 other mammals in this world.
That's Y u rarely find kids talk about dating.

I always believe that ONE is a product of his/her surrounding....
That's is Y u find some people NEAT while others DIRTY.
some families are built on unity while another seeks for it...
Most men who BEAT up their wives today,grew up learning such from either parents or TV reality shows .
That's y our cultures differ...

In koma hills(Adamawa) ,u find men & women moving about unclad, marry many wives ,yet they look happier than us..
Christianity is yet to strike there with a force.
When they die will they inherit hell...?

In native america, people still walk unclad.Children are born into such tribes take up diz adamic qualities and move on...
Yet they seem happy and comfortable.

I feel that GOD created us to procreate ,serve him and fill this earth...,but something happened along the line.
This has to do with the struggle to have a sustainable livelihood before getting married..and it has made many to remain unmarried and lose hope in humanity.

No ONE is ever born to hate the other...
Rather people grow up to hate or love depending on the storylines they were told.
So in a nutshell, our holy BIBLE tells us that if u can't HOLD ON , MARRY...
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by cotacttunz(m): 9:47pm On Feb 04, 2015
God! i luv ds post
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by komek(m): 9:48pm On Feb 04, 2015
CyracksMrBlogger:
to God it doesn't matter if 99% of people go to Hell and only 1% are saved. He set his standard it is either you follow it or abstain from it. Adam told God it was the wife God gave him that made him eat the forbidden fruit. Did God exornerate him? No he was still punished for his actions. God is God, He will never compromise His standard.

Mr Preacher, were u there when Àll these things happened or u just read them and believe?
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by AZeD1(m): 9:51pm On Feb 04, 2015
miketayo:


even new cars r tested before they r put out for sale cheesy cheesy
Tested by the makers!!!
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by uboma(m): 9:54pm On Feb 04, 2015
AZeD1:

That exactly is the point, if it can go bad anytime even though you "test", whats the point of testing? Why not take word of the manufacturer?


Lots of people who have sex before marriage still have sexual problems in marriage. If i am to wager a bet, it would majority of the people who have sexual problems in marriages tested before they married.


Mind you I am not of the opinion that having pre-marital sex leads to a successful marriage.
However, everyone has a choice to make in that regards and whatever choices one makes, let's learn to respect their views.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by chichriso: 9:54pm On Feb 04, 2015
Uselass post.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 9:56pm On Feb 04, 2015
Nice one at op.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 10:04pm On Feb 04, 2015
gilgal7:
FTC...
Before i buy a car i have to check the engine,the gear box is loading properly,durable on a long express ride...i hate outside runs when am committed...lol
good girl,ojasi
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by nora66(f): 10:06pm On Feb 04, 2015
Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.
please don't advice your younger ones that.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 10:09pm On Feb 04, 2015
kayciano:
My man you have hit some points.....
FOR everything GOD made...was wonderfully made..
We HUMANS decided to put up Laws ,restrictions, tests and these have rather made things worse..may be becos they were not managed well...

GOD gave us SEX ORGANS for a purpose, else he wouldn't have done such...
He also made it possible for our mind and these organs to attain MATURITY alongside.
He also made it possible for humans to enjoy sex, alongside 2 other mammals in this world.
That's Y u rarely find kids talk about dating.

I always believe that ONE is a product of his/her surrounding....
That's is Y u find some people NEAT while others DIRTY.
some families are built on unity while another seeks for it...
Most men who BEAT up their wives today,grew up learning such from either parents or TV reality shows .
That's y our cultures differ...

In koma hills(Adamawa) ,u find men & women moving about unclad, marry many wives ,yet they look happier than us..
Christianity is yet to strike there with a force.
When they die will they inherit hell...?

In native america, people still walk unclad.Children are born into such tribes take up diz adamic qualities and move on...
Yet they seem happy and comfortable.

I feel that GOD created us to procreate ,serve him and fill this earth...,but something happened along the line.
This has to do with the struggle to have a sustainable livelihood before getting married..and it has made many to remain unmarried and lose hope in humanity.

No ONE is ever born to hate the other...
Rather people grow up to hate or love depending on the storylines they were told.
So in a nutshell, our holy BIBLE tells us that if u can't HOLD ON , MARRY...
good comment from a deep thinker,gracias
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 10:18pm On Feb 04, 2015
urcutecrush:
The only reason i will abstain from premarital sex is because of STD or unwanted pregnancy
Not because some bible said so.
we can be doing it small small na abi.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 10:20pm On Feb 04, 2015
Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.
confuse ga dima te,espeakilekwe even God himself gave you his laws which he called commandments and for the rest of your writeup thats what you think,it cant change what i think and believe in.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by AZeD1(m): 10:20pm On Feb 04, 2015
uboma:



Mind you I am not of the opinion that having pre-marital sex leads to a successful marriage.
However, everyone has a choice to make in that regards and whatever choices one makes, let's learn to respect their views.
I also believe everyone should do what works for him or her
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Iamvictor(m): 10:25pm On Feb 04, 2015
ireneidiva:

Number 1, if you die without having sex, so what? What kind of dumb reason is that!
Number 2, anybody that marries because of sex is still a kid.sex before marriage will definately take you to hell adn so will other things like creating this kind of thread too. Sin is sin!
I agree with all you said save the idea that creating a kind of thread like this is a sin. The guy said is on opinion.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Ishilove: 10:30pm On Feb 04, 2015
1miccza:


You agree with satanic logic??
I agree with Dr Olukoya.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by bigbams24: 10:35pm On Feb 04, 2015
I recently read an article that expatiates on this a little bit more. - http://thenakedconvos.com/sexual-agreement-having-similar-sexy-time-interests/
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by redsun(m): 10:38pm On Feb 04, 2015
Marriage is not a task,it is a privilege for those that can afford it. Same with having children.

Meanwhile,sex is just a way of life anything that breathes and of age.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by Nobody: 10:42pm On Feb 04, 2015
Ontarget:
Some righteous or church people on this forum wouldn't stop pushing us to abstain from sex till marriage. They always give reasons like: It is a sin and the bible says so so and so. But they wouldn't tell us how to overcome the challenges that comes with abstaining till marriage these days. I agree that sex after marriage is the best solution to curb STDs and unwanted pregnancies but achieving such in the midst of some resisting factors appears to be an uphill task.

Apart from the sexual urges we have to deal with all through the period of abstaining we seem to forget to ask ourselves a certain question. And the question is: WHEN WILL YOU GET MARRIED AND FINALLY HAVE THAT SEX? Marriage in a country like Naija doesn't come cheap especially for the guys. The guys are expected to have a fat bank account first before thinking of marriage. Unfortunately some guys will be unlucky to get that kind of fat bank account at age 45 no matter how hard they have worked. Some ladies will clock 45 and still no signs of a husband coming close. If we must abstain from sex till marriage are we really going to abstain till old age if conditions are not favourable to get marriage? Is there a maximum limit to wait? What happens if you will never get married due to bad luck? Does it mean you will abstain from sex till death? If actually it was CERTAIN that everybody would be getting married at about 25 years old then it would make valid sense for people to wait till marriage.

Secondly, I think insisting on sex till marriage can cause another issue that most of us don't even think about. Due to the excitement of having sex for the first time and all that urge, someone who has been abstaining from sex can easily be tempted and decide to get married unprepared just to have sex to know how it feels. The outcome of this is that marriage crashes due to this unreadiness and kids will be brought to the world to suffer especially when the couple weren't financially ready. I have come across some folks here advising people to get married rather than have sex before marriage. Is it better to get married because of sex and the marriage crashes soon afterwards or is better to have PROTECTED sex before marriage and avoid the suffering a collapsed marriage? If you feel sex before marriage will take you to hell then it means everyone on this planet will end up in hell cos we are all sinning in different ways.

Contributions please.
Re: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by sppeter: 10:50pm On Feb 04, 2015
Please read on, if you would find rest unto your soul. You might not want to read it at first, but the end you should have seen something.

If you think marriage is the answer to your quest for sex, you've got it all wrong! Sex is good, it's experience cannot be equalled by anything but it is reserved... It is exclusively for ''the marriage bed.'' Most of what I've read on this thread were but the results of minds that have been perversed (sorry, i don't mean to insult), young fellows that have never experienced Jesus (and if you are one, what an opportunity it is for you to experience Him NOW!). The reason young people cannot ''abstain'' as it were, is because they have never carried this burden (sexual desire) of theirs to the Cross of Christ. It will interest you to know that no one who ever came there with his burden(s) left the same. It is he who bears his cross daily that is free from idle thoughts (idle, because the strength of his youthful age is wasted in search of a passion that does not last a second in eternity) like this. If I may advise you reader, God has a purpose for your existence on this side eternity; a purpose that will definitely overwhelm you if only you discover it. Have you scratched the tip of it, and are you thinking of sex? The men God permited to do it in scriptures lived on purpose, with a single eye.
We once thought like this until the light of Christ shined in our hearts... He want to come in NOW, will you reject the offer again?

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