MrIncrediible:

I hope she doesn't forgive him for now. She works with the Military for God's sake...She should have locked the mofo up by now. Most times seeing who hurt you getting a good dose of hurt heals faster than time.

pfffttttt
It doesn't.
Trust me.

As humans, we are wired to get our greatest fulfilment from giving, and adding value to the lives of others.

Let's not forget that there were obvious signs this guy was playing on her intelligence, but for one reason or another (which I do not blame her for), she kept on.

I do my best to teach/put forth the things I practice or would love to practice and perfect in my personal life.

I have seen my self heal instantly from a vortex of saddening depression simply because the life giving spirit in me enabled me to forgive an individual.

That said, biko don't get it twisted.
I'm still capable of holding grudges and lashing out at a person sha, depending on my mood and spirit consciousness at the time

MizMyColi:


pfffttttt
It doesn't.
Trust me.

As humans, we are wired to get our greatest fulfilment from giving, and adding value to the lives of others.

Let's not forget that there were obvious signs this guy was playing on her intelligence, but for one reason or another (which I do not blame her for), she kept on.

I do my best to teach/put forth the things I practice or would love to practice and perfect in my personal life.

I have seen my self heal instantly from a vortex of saddening depression simply because the life giving spirit in me enabled me to forgive an individual.

That said, biko don't get it twisted.
I'm still capable of holding grudges and lashing out at a person sha, depending on my mood and spirit consciousness at the time

MrIncrediible:

Forgiveness doesn't work for everybody trust me.

MizMyColi:


Sadly true.
I know this because I've been a victim of the effects of an unforgiving heart.

MrIncrediible:

You've been a victim of almost everything.

MizMyColi:


Now he's making jest of me
Touche!

Either way, every experience I've shared on here are sympotmatic for guys or girls who have been in emotionally abusive relationships.

I'm happy those experiences didn't make me go under. They sharpened me, paved the way for the person I'm becoming.

MrIncrediible:

I'm not making jest of you . Personally, I've been a victim of "many" circumstances and I think it's really good we all share our experiences here so others can take a cue from them.

MizMyColi:


Okay cool, I'm glad we're on the same page.

People are particularly allergic to speaking from their deep feelings on a public forum. They don't wanna get real, because it could be quite messy; leaving one with this feeling of vulnerability/exposure.


But for me, having weighed the consequences of putting my real self out there, if it helps another person make better choices than I did, then I'm fulfilled.

Despite our cloaks of superficialness, it doesn't change the reality that our world and the people in it are hurting. We owe it to one another to help ameliorate and birth a better world in the ways we can.

Words, inspired words can go a long way.

MrIncrediible:

That's cool...I think I should be working towards being like you.

Thanks
Better still, You should work towards being your best self

MizMyColi:


Thanks
Better still, You should work towards being your best self

satope1:
Not a bit sorry for you. You deserved what you got.

You knew he had side chicks all along and still went on to continue dating him. Even warming his bed and cooking for him not minding the risk of STIs or diseases.

You just showed your lack of self respect. This is not a case of love but that of willingly walking through fire and expecting not to be burnt.

pasqal09:
When will people learn?

Never make someone who takes you as an option a priority.

The OP's heartbreak is self-inflicted.

Agybabe:
Men! Dear Lord what should we do to them?

@op I am sorry you had to get it that way. But my counsel for you is never to give up on them. Yours is soon to come. Count it as an experience. All guys aren't the same except their 3rd leg.

Kill them

prettyjo:
you really need to cry mor

satope1:
Not a bit sorry for you. You deserved what you got.

You knew he had side chicks all along and still went on to continue dating him. Even warming his bed and cooking for him not minding the risk of STIs or diseases.

You just showed your lack of self respect. This is not a case of love but that of willingly walking through fire and expecting not to be burnt.

realdee44:
Hehehehehehehe I don't even need your sorry. I cried for 5mins, was sad about the whole thing for 15mins & that was all after 20mins every thing about my life came to normal & the next day being monday i joyfully went to work happy & full of life. So u see ur sorry was't need afterall.

elantraceey:
My dear from my previous relationships i've learnt one thing , a man who doesn't spend a dine on you doesn't value you , Where a man's treasure is there his heart will be also, i'm not saying you should turn to a begger and start begging even when you have enough nope , A man who truly treasures you will want to spoil you with what he has from time to time and if he never does that then something is fishy , Don't get me wrong , i totally love and respect an independent woman but don't take it into your relationship , men love to be men and in charge , they love the feeling when they can boast to their friends this is what i got for my baby , I'm just saying this because it's what i've learnt from experience and you shouldn't go into a relationship next time with that mindset that he doesn't have to spend please he should !!!



This advice might sound awkward but don't love a man who's not yet your husband too much , keep that unreserved love for your husband . Love but love with your whole senses in check and if there's any abnormaly that you can't keep up with get out without having to let yourself go through emotional stress , it's not worth it my dear .



Now you can cry all you want , then sleep but when you wake up do so as a woman who's ready to face her world and totally let go of all that happened like nothing did , i know it won't be easy because i've been there but you can do it.


And above all you should learn from your mistakes now and try to make sure you don't make them again , that's life for you , we live and learn

satope1:


Exactly what I intended my scathing response to achieve. That you learn how insignificant he is and how you are allowing yourself cry over someone who's insignificant and adds nothing positive to your life.

At least you are done with self pity and facing reality now.

Happy for you.

passionate88:
Thank you... I was just surprised readin the comments here... She worked with the military, she knew they are mostly promiscuous yet she still went ahead... After she'd join other NL girls castigating the good guys, calling them dull

realdee44:
Did you just say self pity? Sorry self pity has never been part of my liffe even as a young child not to talk on now that am 30.

satope1:


Yeah...Everyone says that. I am strong, necer shed a tear....bla bla bla

But the truth is always different from what people make you see or believe. You aren't made of stone. A little of emotions isn't too bad.

realdee44:
"A little of emotions isn't too bad" and that is why I cried for 5mins & was sad for 15mins & also spend 5mins typing my story on NL.

satope1:


Ok. No issues.

You don collect that car back?

If tou no need am. I Don't mind y5oy borrowing it out for some few weeks. One can do with a little a car in this hot sun.

realdee44:
You seems to be more hurt than I am its like NL girls have really dealt with u. Hehehehehehehe.