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14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Trending(m): 4:55pm On Feb 10, 2015
1. You Act Jealous/Insane When He Looks At Or
Talks To Other Women
Playboy Bunnies
As a man, I can confidently say that it’s in our
nature to look at attractive women. If you just act
jealous and flip out when we do, it shows us that
you’re insecure. Being insecure is a very big turn
off for guys. If you find that you’re constantly
jealous when he’s around other women, you need
to reevaluate some issues in this relationship. First,
you need to build up your self-esteem. No man
will want to cheat on a woman who’s confident in
herself and secure in the relationship. Second, you
need to evaluate the trust issues found in this
relationship. More so, do you trust him or not?
And finally, you need to see if he’s trying to make
you jealous on purpose (or that he is actually
trying to cheat). If a man is trying to cheat, he
WILL NEVER try to do it in front of you (at least no
smart man will). That being said, if he’s talking to
a woman in front of you, know that he’s probably
just talking.
Jealousy is an unnecessary emotion, an
unnecessary strain that people put on their minds.
At the end of the day, if one wants to cheat, he will
cheat regardless of the fact that you’re jealous or
not. Acting jealous will only destroy a relationship,
regardless of what the other person is doing. With
that in mind, what’s the point of wasting precious
energy on something like jealousy when you could
be doing a LOT more productive things in that
time?
You need to believe in yourself, you need to be
sure that the person you’re with has absolutely no
reason to cheat on you and if he does do it, then
he’s the ONLY one losing out. If any guy cheats on
you, it’s a sign telling you that the relationship
was headed down the wrong path from the start,
anyway. It wasn’t meant to be. The first thing on
your mind should be, “Thank God this happened
now!”
2. You’re Not Giving Him His Space
If a man is in a bad mood or does not feel like
talking, it’s always best to leave him alone. Men
are not women; we do not share the same
emotions and wants. Men often do not enjoy
talking about their issues in the same way women
do. They would much rather hold it in and sort it
out internally. Trying to get him to open up when
he just wants to deal with his issues personally
could backfire and could result in serious fights
breaking out.
3. You’re Letting Yourself Go
The Gloss
I would say this is the number one reason why
most men leave relationships and also why many
men feel inclined to cheat within a relationship. It’s
just a shame to see the incredible amount of
women that think once they’re in relationships it’s
just ok to let go and stop shaving their legs, fixing
their hair, etc. If anything, these women should feel
more motivated to make an effort to look sexy and
attractive for their men in order to keep that sexual
energy buzzing. If you were ever in a relationship
and felt like “your sex life died,” this is probably
the reason.
4. You Have No Life Outside The Relationship
Online Courting Site
Do your best to NOT become one of those women
that focuses her entire life on the relationship.
Don’t be that woman that forgets her friends and
remembers about them only when there are
problems in the relationship. This not only
suffocates the man, but it also makes you look
needy, another major turn off for any man.
5. You’re Being Passive Aggressive
This is probably the number once skill that women
have, and it also makes men crazy. If he asks you
what’s wrong and you say nothing and then just
mope around waiting for him to press you further,
you’ll just cause building anger and resentment.
He will do it for a while; he will KNOW that you’re
actually upset, but if you constantly do this, it will
reach a point in which he’ll just stop caring, and
that’s when the fights start to happen.
All of this can be avoided if you’re just
straightforward with him whenever you have an
issue.
6. You’re Nagging Him
Annoying People
Nobody is perfect, and that includes the guy you’re
dating. Constantly telling him what he’s not doing
right is never the way to let a man know that
there’s something he could be doing differently. If
you actually want to see a change, tell him, “I just
love it when you do ___.”
7. You’re Not Appreciating Him For What He Does
Again, you need to stop looking at the things he
isn’t doing and try to focus more on what he is
actually doing. Acknowledge and appreciate him
for the good that he does. The more appreciation
he receives from you, the more he’ll try to please
you in return.
8. You’ve Got Grouchy Girlfriend Syndrome
This is probably the biggest turn off in my
relationships. I’m a positive person and just hate it
when the person next to me is being grouchy/
bitter/whiny 24/7. We, as men, understand that
you’re having bad days, but seriously? Every day?
Believe me, nobody wants to hang around a
negative person. Try to see the good in your life
and your relationship. This mentality will not only
help you in your relationships, but it will also help
your life in the long run.
Whilst on the subject, the only thing worse than
being grouchy 24/7 is blaming the guy for your
negative mood. Let’s say he makes a silly mistake
when you’re already feeling grouchy. When he
makes this mistake, you get in a worse mood and
take it out on him, and you justify being grouchy
as a result. Believe me, this is worse than acting
negative all the time.
I’ve had male friends that constantly complained
about how they hadn’t done anything wrong, and
their girlfriends were upset for a week. By the time
the women were able to lift their moods up,
something new always came up and they were
upset again. In the end, they all broke up with
these girls. I can assure you, if you’re doing this,
he will eventually break up with you.
9. You’re Trying To Change Him
Many women go relationships seeing a guy’s flaws
but thinking that, eventually, they’ll be able to
change him. That mentality is wrong and the main
reason why those relationships eventually fail.
When you start a relationship, you need to take
that person for exactly who he is, not who you
want him to be.
With regards to minor things like picking the wrong
shoes, you can be gentle and encouraging.
There’s no need to criticize him or make him feel
stupid. Say it in a way that will make him feel
good and inspired to change on his own. For
example, “You look really sexy in that outfit, but I
think you’d look even sexier with those other
shoes.” Make him value your opinion, not hate it.
10. You’re Not Loving Him In the Way That He
Wants
Every single person feels love differently. Many
women feel loved when their partner is supportive,
or when he brings her a bouquet of flowers. These
gestures might mean nothing to a man. Guys have
their own way of feeling loved and that way is
often, VERY DIFFERENT from the way women feel
love. If you just give him the kind of love you hope
to receive, he will almost never feel loved.
You need to pay attention to how he responds to
various things in order to work out what makes
him feel truly loved. Once you know what it is,
keep doing it as often as you can. To give you
some examples: personally, I liked to be kissed
and hugged a lot, other guys would like a hot meal
at the end of the day (which I love too), others a
cup of tea, others might want a massage, or sex,
or even just sticking with him through the hard
times. Whatever it is, you need to find it and
replicate it as often as you can.
11. You see dating him as a doing him a favour - most Nigerian girls thinks dating a guy is doing him one big favour,they have so much pride in them, if you think so,then why did you accept him at first
12. They see him as a money bag - Most Nigerian girls sees their boyfriends as their father (sorry to say),they ask for every single ask able thing from him ranging from money,phones etc, and when the man starts seeing sex as his right in the relationship, they begin to say he just wants sex from them,well the truth is,no matter how a man loves you,if you begin to demand much from him without adequately compensating him,he has no option than to take sex as his compensation. relationship is a give and take stuff not a one sided stuff.
13. They are confused - girls wants to have a taste of everything, most are not contented with their partner even tho they say they are,they want to see what the guy next door has to offer.
14. They see the flaws in him - They see the flaws in him and are not ready to accept it. A perfect relationship does not exist, what makes it perfect is knowing his flaws,accepting them,and ready to overlook them..
criticism is accepted folks..this is just my 2 cents

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Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by abdulhadi101(m): 5:17pm On Feb 10, 2015
A counter-thread, welcome!! I have been waiting for you
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:21pm On Feb 10, 2015
who cares...
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:58pm On Feb 10, 2015
Frontpage, lala come do ur work
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Trending(m): 7:02pm On Feb 10, 2015
abdulhadi101:
A counter-thread, welcome!! I have been waiting for you
lol
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Nobody: 9:51pm On Feb 10, 2015
all women like that. if u don't like it - live in a tree alone with your gf " right" or "left" (i don't know which one u prefer)
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Genea(f): 10:04pm On Feb 10, 2015
Its nt our fault joor
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Edwardhead(m): 10:19pm On Feb 10, 2015
You're not good in bed also
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Trending(m): 8:36am On Feb 11, 2015
Blebleswag:

And wat does dat has to do wit mentioning of names?
Pls dnt mention my name 4 irrelevant reasons.
how old are u?
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Nobody: 11:57am On Feb 11, 2015
Trending:
how old are u?
Go ask d gods of ur land that.
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by ritababe(f): 6:03pm On Feb 11, 2015
Ok
Re: 14 Major Mistakes Nigerian Women Make In A Relationship by Randerl: 6:55pm On Feb 11, 2015
OP with your nice points, you need to arrange your post properly. The points and paragraphs should be in order.

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