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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Brugo(m): 8:16am On Feb 12, 2015
Why did the kids not report you to their parents after the punishment? Cos they know the gravity of the situation.

You know their parents so you can guess if they would handle the situation properly. I just don't feel it's comfortable to keep such a terrible secret from them.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Jaydeebaba(m): 8:16am On Feb 12, 2015
@ OP: by now I'm sure you'd be more confused than ever before on what you should do, going by all the contributions so far. What if after a while, these kids wise up and decide to frame you up as the molester. The besst thing to do under this circumstance is to tell their parents immediately.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Nobody: 8:16am On Feb 12, 2015
soulglo:


Why do you feel that you could put your hands on someone else's kid? Not only could you go to jail for that, you might end up with your own ass whooping before you go to jail
My friend stop saying nonsense.

OP Nice one, I hope say you give them serious flogging?

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by jnrbayano(m): 8:17am On Feb 12, 2015
If I'm the one caught in that act by an adult and flogged, when he/she narrates to my mum how I was cautioned, my mum will be so happy and will even dash him/her something.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by harffie(m): 8:18am On Feb 12, 2015
Bebetter:
[size=14pt]10 and 13! forget, these ones don spoil finish...

possible causes: Natural naughtiness, someone forgot bluefilm in the dvd, careless parents having sex, houseboy/housegirl teach them, school and friends house they go to, too much protection/seclution not allowing them to mix with their peers, stupid homevideos especially the ghana ones.... the list is endless. parents need to be careful. [/size]
. Pls what's bluefilm??

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Purehuman(m): 8:18am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:


How I wish I could be a kid again grin
You would need to spend the whole night and more turning back the hands of time.

He has no right to flog them because they are not his kid`s. The kid`s are not under his care. He is not related to them in any way.

No matter what they did there is no justification.

This jungle justice approach is barbaric.
Abeg drink zobo and sleep.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by bettingbad(m): 8:19am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:


How I wish I could be a kid again grin
You would need to spend the whole night and more turning back the hands of time.

He has no right to flog them because they are not his kid`s. The kid`s are not under his care. He is not related to them in any way.

No matter what they did there is no justification.

This jungle justice approach is barbaric.

It's like you don't know the meaning of 'jungle justice'

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Frankiss44(m): 8:21am On Feb 12, 2015
Toktee:
what do you me by "he has no right to flog them?
With that statement i knw that you are a teanager,grow up

My brother that person was so right... the right thing is to report to the parents... just imagine if one of the child collapses in the process of flogging..... matter don carry belle be that oh

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Aikayy: 8:24am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:

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How I wish I could be a kid again grin
You would need to spend the whole night and more turning back the hands of time.

He has no right to flog them because they are not his kid`s. The kid`s are not under his care. He is not related to them in any way.

No matter what they did there is no justification.

This jungle justice approach is barbaric.

Madam, this is Africa where the community collectively raise kids. He had every right to flogg them. My take, he shouldn't tell their parent. Rather, he should council them.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Kimmo(f): 8:25am On Feb 12, 2015
chidyhels:
Who are these 'You shouldnt have flooged them' people

Op...Go ahead and involve their parents

I was part of a bible club holiday teaching for children of primary school age
It baffled me when these children started dropping condoms, pornography, etc after different sections of counselling.
The confessions were shocked

Thank you oh. . . I was wondering what their reason for not flogging them was. That's how children grow up to become criminals and terrorists. Raising a child is a communal effort.
Holywizard, after flogging, you should ask them where they learned that, and explain how it's wrong for them to do it. Then reach one of each child's parents and tell them what you saw.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Chrisaali(f): 8:25am On Feb 12, 2015
Last year August my neighbour caught her husband's nephew (7) who came for holidays, and another neighbour's daughter (5) having sex. The girl was on top of the boy, whinning and grinding and sucking her tongue. They were flogged and questioned separately. The boy said the girl initiated the act and when he accepted to do it,she told him that he doesn't know how to do it "very well" and so will teach him. So they were in middle of that lecture when they were caught. They admitted that it was the 5th time that was happening! When asked, she said its a lady in her school that taught her how to do "it". Then the real shock was that the girl's mother fought this neighbour and accussed her of lying. She said her daughter can never do such a thing. The lady was too shocked to even remember to use her phone to cover the ugly incident. Till date, both women are sworn enemies, including their kids. We couldn't follow up the matter 'cos the girls mum wasn't cooperating. So my advice to the OP is that u shuold tell their parents. It won't stop them from do doing it cos them don sabi the pleasure inside the thing. Fufill all righteosness and clear ur conscience. However their parents takes it, just know u did the right thing before God and man.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by kentochi(m): 8:26am On Feb 12, 2015
After reading most comment here i ask myself are we still in Africa. Where we hard the belive that one person can't bring up a child.
@op you did well by flogging them, i hope you advise them not to do such again.
No need of telling there parents at this stage.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Philadelphia: 8:31am On Feb 12, 2015
S/HE THAT IS WITHOUT SIN SHOULD CAST THE FIRST STONE.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by andyanders: 8:32am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:


Please stop getting emotional and read what I wrote properly.

I said not sex and at a much younger age.

Children are curious. They see they have different body parts and might even try touching. It is then the duty of the parents to clear them up.

For instance a little girl, say the age of 4 sees her baby brother naked and notices he is different. She might even try touching him there. That is not an abomination but the child just needs to be cleared up.
I was just making the point that a natural curiosity in early childhood was not observed and controlled by the parents thus it led to this abominable act.
It is the work of parents to clear their children up. Do not touch, do not allow to touch etc.

I hope you now understand what I mean.

Reasonable contribution and on point. From most responses here, you can see that most of them were been made by what I can call infants who parade themselves herein as adults.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by duni04(m): 8:33am On Feb 12, 2015
OP report them to their parents, its none of ur business

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by castiello(m): 8:34am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:


How I wish I could be a kid again grin
You would need to spend the whole night and more turning back the hands of time.

He has no right to flog them because they are not his kid`s. The kid`s are not under his care. He is not related to them in any way.

No matter what they did there is no justification.

This jungle justice approach is barbaric.

Oyinbo children.... when they offend you scold at them or threaten them with limitation to having fun, and i bet you they will get the message and change for the better



African children.... when they offend you flog them with koboko or pankere better still ask them to kneel down and put molter on their head i bet you they will get the message, but in the case of those brat beat them again and again after that beat their parent join cos what they did was as of the result of what the parent practice in there presence
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by duni04(m): 8:36am On Feb 12, 2015
kentochi:
After reading most comment here i ask myself are we still in Africa. Where we hard the belive that one person can't bring up a child.
@op you did well by flogging them, i hope you advise them not to do such again.
No need of telling there parents at this stage.
Is this stupîdîty or what? undecided

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Tjosh97: 8:37am On Feb 12, 2015
Wen shall we learn our 2 send our kids into their rums wen a film is rated even PG 13 nd also stop dem 4rm operating the television alone? Moreso, most of d cartoons our kids watch diz days r dangerous 2 deir little minds......... Well, their parents need 2 know.. They will b in d best position to advise d kids. But b4 u do that, advice dem 1st den make sure that they r aware of d fact that u are telling dere parents... In short, the kids need 2 know the how serious their offence is...
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Kurpu60: 8:37am On Feb 12, 2015
You did well by punishing them, i'm also of the opinion that you tell thier parents so that they will take up from there by admonishing and praying for them.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Toktee(m): 8:37am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:


How I wish I could be a kid again grin
You would need to spend the whole night and more turning back the hands of time.

He has no right to flog them because they are not his kid`s. The kid`s are not under his care. He is not related to them in any way.

No matter what they did there is no justification.

This jungle justice approach is barbaric.
and that is why i said you are a teanager,go ask your parents about it,you will get better education on have to deal with a situation like that.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by kosovo(m): 8:38am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:
You had no right to flog them.

You should report them to their parents immediately. They are responsible for the children and need to know.
If they believe it or not is no longer your problem.

For God`s sake don`t go asking their teacher or anyone else. That is wrong because the kid`s are not in your care.
You know I was just trying to imagine you catching them and flogging them there. It is a perverse picture,

This kind of thinks happens among siblings, it actually occurs at a much younger age- not sex but the curiosity about each others bodies.

That it developed into this is because there was neglect and lack of parental care.

He was a complete mog to flog them..

Who gave him that right?

I pity any thug that will lay his immoral hands on my kids..

This is jungle justice and I have no sympathy for anyone who practice or encourage it.

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Toktee(m): 8:38am On Feb 12, 2015
soulglo:


Why do you feel that you could put your hands on someone else's kid? Not only could you go to jail for that, you might end up with your own ass whooping before you go to jail
many kids here
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by bbjummy: 8:39am On Feb 12, 2015
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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Impulse80(m): 8:43am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:
You had no right to flog them.

You should report them to their parents immediately. They are responsible for the children and need to know.
If they believe it or not is no longer your problem.

For God`s sake don`t go asking their teacher or anyone else. That is wrong because the kid`s are not in your care.
You know I was just trying to imagine you catching them and flogging them there. It is a perverse picture,

This kind of thinks happens among siblings, it actually occurs at a much younger age- not sex but the curiosity about each others bodies.

That it developed into this is because there was neglect and lack of parental care.
undecided

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Cmfrt001(f): 8:44am On Feb 12, 2015
Video them when they are in the act and show their parents.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by ligopedro: 8:44am On Feb 12, 2015
baby124:
Separate them and ask each of them who taught who to do it. Ask the teacher where they learn't it from before you tell their parents. You need to get to the root of who the abuser is so that they can get the person arrested. Someone abused one of those kids, or they saw their parents doing it.
Internet & Tv tot dem...

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Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by andyanders: 8:46am On Feb 12, 2015
As a matter of fact,note that here in Nigeria,most 13 yr old children are in secondary school and most 10yr olds too are equally in the secondary school here in Nigeria.

They are no more kids as they are fully aware of what they are doing either from their parents or what they learnt at school. Most of these kinds of kids come from most parents that stay in one room and their parents cannot control their s3xual urge in the presence of their kids and make love while their kids are awake and watching them. They would love to replicate same with their age mates.

Most of these kids no more of s3x than adults these days. They have access to their fone where they get connected to porn sites and watch without hindrance.So expect more such acts these days whereby kids can afford to buy phones that are more expensive than thier parents.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by jnrbayano(m): 8:46am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:
You had no right to flog them.

You should report them to their parents immediately. They are responsible for the children and need to know.
If they believe it or not is no longer your problem.

For God`s sake don`t go asking their teacher or anyone else. That is wrong because the kid`s are not in your care.
You know I was just trying to imagine you catching them and flogging them there. It is a perverse picture,

This kind of thinks happens among siblings, it actually occurs at a much younger age- not sex but the curiosity about each others bodies.

That it developed into this is because there was neglect and lack of parental care.

Perhaps in Obodo Oyibo.

In the part I grew up, the flogger will get an award for such a righteous act.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by galapazygalarba: 8:46am On Feb 12, 2015
It is gud u discipline dem cos he DAT take care of some 1 children some 1 wil definitely take care of his
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by Skoopy(m): 8:47am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:
You had no right to flog them.

You should report them to their parents immediately. They are responsible for the children and need to know.
If they believe it or not is no longer your problem.


A proverb in my local dialect when translated says, " a child in the worm is owned only by his parents, after birth, the same child belongs to the entire society. So it's every one's responsibility to discipline a child but with CAUTION though.

Just my thought.
Re: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by jude33084(m): 8:47am On Feb 12, 2015
From the picture the OP has painted about their parents, he should have dragged them pant down to their parents.


Such parents should be taught a lesson tongue


This was why a girl back then filmed 2 kids(girl 13yrs and boy 5yrs) doing it and posted it on youtube just to get to their parents that sees no fault in their kids no matter how the neighbours complains. cheesy

Parents should always listen to the complains of neighbourS about their kids and apply WISDOM in dealing with it. cool

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