This is to Oil Rig workers, those in diaspora, Sea, Out of the state etc...and this makes him visit home like once a month to spend just a few days.

I snow many young wives whose husbands left for work a day or a week after their wedding. I know them.

Someone once told me she hasn't seen the husband in 8 years. He works in South Africa. They communicate on phone. He sends money often. Their son was One when he left.


I know the money is good.

But does the women want just the money?


This is an Opinion Poll and so many ladies and guys have a thing or two to say.

Please contribute meaningfully.


Besides, How Have You Been Coping?

Maintaining a long-distance relationship/marriage requires a lot of discipline. The loneliness that they experience is a formidable force to be reckoned with, and not everyone can withstand it. A physical entity is always more powerful than a voice distorted by cray service, more so when they encounter problems and want to share them with their partner in real time. In such cases, they usually turn to a third party, and that’s when the relationship fall apart like a house of cards.

They myt love each other o but distance can do strange things to people.

When the desirable isn't available, then the available becomes desirable...

I know some married peeps will come here and gush self-righteously about faithfulness, perseverance and similar stuff. But the truth is that most distanced couples satisfy their Konji externally on a coded level .... After all, marital vows don't cure konji fever.. joysticks and vaginas do..

Even when spouses are around, peeps still find a way to cheat. .. talk less of when spouse has been away for long... The men might even start raising another family in their location, while the women might become professional penis samplers, or the ones with a bit of God's fear in them might acquire just one penis to be managing in the meantime

From the stories I've heard, this situation has led to so many breakups as a result of unfaithfulness ( mostly on the part of some wives, because the men may cheat too while away) ... It's rather a difficult one, in my opinion. I would prefer the two weeks in two weeks out kind of work (at most), anything outside this, naaaaaaaah! It's not just the money that's important, I need my man around too..

Marriage is for matured minds and it is not all about s*x.it is either you are in or out.

kika23:
From the stories I've heard, this situation has led to so many breakups as a result of unfaithfulness ( mostly on the part of some wives, because the men may cheat too while away) ... It's rather a difficult one, in my opinion. I would prefer the two weeks in two weeks out kind of work (at most), anything outside this, naaaaaaaah! It's not just the money that's important, I need my man around too..

2 weeks, OK. Anything more than that could be harmful.

kika23:
From the stories I've heard, this situation has led to so many breakups as a result of unfaithfulness ( mostly on the part of some wives, because the men may cheat too while away) ... It's rather a difficult one, in my opinion. I would prefer the two weeks in two weeks out kind of work (at most), anything outside this, naaaaaaaah! It's not just the money that's important, I need my man around too..

It gets boring too when the money isn't coming around anytime soon.I guess this causes infidelity too abi?
A cheat will always be a cheat though I agree that too much distance will only fastrack the events.

utytill:
Marriage is for matured minds and it is not all about s*x.it is either you are in or out.

What's this one saying?

Do you know how many relationships are threatened on sex grounds?

utytill:
Marriage is for matured minds and it is not all about s*x.it is either you are in or out.

You're right to an extent but fact remains that marriage is all about licenced sex and anyhow sex.

ALKARULEZZ:
Maintaining a long-distance relationship/marriage requires a lot of discipline. The loneliness that they experience is a formidable force to be reckoned with, and not everyone can withstand it. A physical entity is always more powerful than a voice distorted by cray service, more so when they encounter problems and want to share them with their partner in real time. In such cases, they usually turn to a third party, and that’s when the relationship fall apart like a house of cards.

They myt love each other o but distance can do strange things to people.

So True bro.
A mature thinking...

Truckpusher:
It gets boring too when the money isn't coming around anytime soon.I guess this causes infidelity too abi?
A cheat will always be a cheat though I agree that too much distance will only fastrack the events.

Mo, imagine the husband works for more than a month or two or even three and then comes for a week break.... Money is good no doubt, but what's the use of money when loneliness gets to it's peak? Then she may buy companionship with that same money.... Moderation is the key ooo....

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emusmith:


2 weeks, OK. Anything more than that could be harmful.

Preach it for me biko

Emusmith!

kika23:


Preach it for me biko

I have gotten so close to some of them and all of a sudden feelings starts coming up.

I sense they're struggling and I back off.

It's not easy joor

Herzumpther:
Emusmith!

Hi there

kika23:


Mo, imagine the husband works for more than a month or two or even three and then comes for a week break.... Money is good no doubt, but what's the use of money when loneliness gets to it's peak? Then she may buy companionship with that same money.... Moderation is the key ooo....

I got your drift perfectly but again you have to acknowledge the fact that some jobs initially didn't start that way but as operations demands keep coming your way with genuine reasons for one to do the needful after all that was what you signed up for will you then leave the job or divorce your wife to avoid infidelity?

If individuals respects the feelings of their partners cases of cheating would be left to those that has lost.

I'll prefer for any woman to walk out my life than cheat on me because I have no idea how I will react if faced with such dilemma - That could be the end of everyone involved including me.

emusmith:


Hi there

I just dey hail you.
My husband doesn't stay in far Australia so I don't know how they cope

It's not easy o. It takes a lot a lot of inner strength to hold back. On this issue, self-will will work but to an extent. When that elastic limit is reached, it's going to take some inner strength to remain faithful. Some call it grace.

emusmith:


I have gotten so close to some of them and all of a sudden feelings starts coming up.

I sense they're struggling and I back off.

It's not easy joor

It's not easy at all, some women are stronger than some , so also are some men stronger than others but there is a limit to what a certain person can take. OK! The person you know that has stayed out for about 8 years.... She has just one kid. Yea? So for 8 years the husband has been faithful and has stayed without sexual intercourse? Or the wife? Well, impossible is nothing but it's difficult. I doubt it!

Truckpusher:
I got your drift perfectly but again you have to acknowledge the fact that some jobs initially didn't start that way but as operations demands keep coming your way with genuine reasons for one to do the needful after all that was what you signed up for will you then leave the job or divorce your wife to avoid infidelity?

If individuals respects the feelings of their partners cases of cheating would be left to those that has lost.

I'll prefer for any woman to walk out my life than cheat on me because I have no idea how I will react if faced with such dilemma - That could be the end of everyone involved including me.

You see why I can't marry you?

buygala:
When the desirable isn't available, then the available becomes desirable...

I know some married peeps will come here and gush self-righteously about faithfulness, perseverance and shiit, but the truth is that most distanced couples satisfy their Konji externally on a coded level .... After all, marital vows don't cure konji fever.. Penisses and vaginas do..


Even when spouses are around, peeps still find a way to cheat. .. talk less of when spouse has been away for long... The men might even start raising another family in their location, while the women might become professional peniss samplers, or the ones with a bit of God's fear in them might acquire just one peniss to be managing in the meantime

chai!

AgapeCharis:
It's not easy o. It takes a lot a lot of inner strength to hold back. On this issue, self-will will work but to an extent. When that elastic limit is reached, it's going to take some inner strength to remain faithful. Some call it grace.

This isn't about grace ,it's about being principled as grace might just abandon you when you needed her most.

kika23:


It's not easy at all, some women are stronger than some , so also are some men stronger than others but there is a limit to what a certain person can take. OK! The person you know that has stayed out for about 8 years.... She has just one kid. Yea? So for 8 years the husband has been faithful and has stayed without sexual intercourse? Or the wife? Well, impossible is nothing but it's difficult. I doubt it!

For the man, I doubt! South African babes are way to beautiful and plumpy...

For the young lady, I can't say, even if she has related to me how hard it is.

Let's be a bit open here...
That's where self servicing becomes a temptation.

emusmith:


For the man, I doubt! South African babes are way to beautiful and plumpy...

For the young lady, I can't say, even if she has related to me how hard it is.

Let's be a bit open here...
That's where self servicing becomes a temptation.

Good point! Self servicing!!!

ALKARULEZZ:
chai!

Some elements of truth in it, yea.

we can cope

funmilayoB:
we can cope

I admire your strength!!

kika23:


Good point! Self servicing!!!

There's one I know of. She is wealthy.
Guys selling indecency CDs know her.
.She buys them and watch...

kika23:


You see why I can't marry you?

People that aren't ready for the ups and downs of marriages should sit down and ask themselves some fundamental questions before marrying just for the sake of marriage.
Some women are habitual cheats just like some men but the truth remains that I can't imagine my wife opening her legs for another man.I dun die finish be that na.

But ,c'mon ! You wouldn't cheat on me at least not when I'll be leaving my kini behind - mine is detachable .

emusmith:


Some elements of truth in it, yea.

Yea. D0pe truth

Truckpusher:

People that aren't ready for the ups and down of marriage should sit down and ask themselves some fundamental questions before marrying just for the sake of marriage.
Sone women are habitual cheats just like some men but the truth remains that I can't imagine my wife opening her legs for another man.I dun die finish be that na.

But ,c'mon ! You wouldn't cheat on me at least not when I'll be leaving my kini behind - mine is detachable .

Ehn... You'd leave it behind oooo!! But you'd be gone for just two weeks na! I can cope with a month sef... so no wahala... I'd still be thinking it