Ujujoan:


Most of the time, when we meet people who really love us, we take them for granted. It’s not intentional of course, but the selfishness in us usually overcomes us.

Ujujoan:

@ Post,

Yes, I think it’s just a part of the selfish and challenging nature of human beings.

Most of the time, when we meet people who really love us, we take them for granted. It’s not intentional of course, but the selfishness in us usually overcomes us.

On the other hand, when we meet a guy/girl who doesn’t give a damn about us. We become challenged. Our subconscious tells us we love him/her when all we are actually trying to do is to prove that we can get his/her love.

So yes, I think its human nature.

okpunor:

Love should be a "Two Way Affair" both couples involved should be willing and struggling to fine tune the relationship and make it work better.Love shouldn't be one sided.When it occurs,you can be sure that the relationship will definitely not work out.A time will definetly come that one of the parties involved will work out of the relationship for good.

whitelexi:

True, True

smooooooth:

this your post makes love sound so complicated

Monicaa:



so this is human nature?

busybein:

nope,its foolishness and stupidity

love is not blind,love is wise and smart

Monicaa:

What is foolishness? If love is smart n wise, I don't think there would be anything called heart break, lost love n all. No one is saying here that love is foolish? Maybe if u read my post n some other replies, you would understand where I'm coming from

busybein:

nope,its foolishness and stupidity

love is not blind,love is wise and smart

sheyee:

this one na theory, d love thing is kind of funny u can just explain it
I believe its human nature

busybein:

answer me this qstion,if a man cheats on his girlfriend a couple of times,infact stores a girls naked pics on his phone,tells a girl hes no longer interested,walks in and out of d relationship anyhow,tells a girl the feelings he has for her has faded away,hardly apologises but d babe apologises even when he offends her,tells a girl he no longer loves her and wants or has smone else

and d girl keeps following him around,begging him to take her back,same feelings still there

please tell me,is that love?must we all be stupid all in d name of "blind" infatuation?

busybein:

answer me this qstion,if a man cheats on his girlfriend a couple of times,infact stores a girls naked pics on his phone,tells a girl hes no longer interested,walks in and out of d relationship anyhow,tells a girl the feelings he has for her has faded away,hardly apologises but d babe apologises even when he offends her,tells a girl he no longer loves her and wants or has smone else

and d girl keeps following him around,begging him to take her back,same feelings still there

please tell me,is that love?must we all be stupid all in d name of "blind" infatuation?

Monicaa:





My dear u all got it wrong n twisted n this doesn't relate to the post/topic, I gave an example

busybein:

olanajim thank u thank u uve said it all

love ko,human nature ni,d people r just blind jare

Monicaa:

busybein:



its stupid to be inlove wt someone that does not love u

whoever is inlove wt smone that does not lover her or him,is blind

i called it blind infatuation before

all this blind inlust people sef


Ok

olanajim:

I don't think it can be generalised that it is human nature to love someone who does not love you. If that is so, why do we hate our enemies instead of loving them, even though scriptures told us to love our enemies?

Monica, what I think is that it is emotional blindness. Often, if you bother to look at it deeply, you will find that the person who loves someone that didn't reciprocate him/her would, have a reason (whether it is good or bad) for loving the stone-hearted fellow.

If the object of obsession is taken away, love will evaporate quickly. The object of obsession, can be: wealth, beauty, power, fame, etc. It could also be a result of fear. Fear of criticism, fear of not finding another partner, fear of being on the losing side. It can also be a result of cultural or religious prejudice.

Whatever it is, I don't think it is human nature to love those who don't love them. Humans are selfish by nature. They only venture into relationship when they know there is something in it for them.

If a lady stay in a relationship where her man is using her as a cushion or punch bag, it is not because she love him so deep, but because she know there is something in the relationship for her.