towards the end of '08, i requested for advice from nlanders abt quitting my relationship, and i got in abundance. after thinking abt it i went to beg her and reconciled. so i invited her over to my place some 10 days into 2009, there i got a shocker. we were flowing well then she received a phone call and when she was abt to hang up she said "i love also" to the caller. immediately, she looked at my face but i pretended not to hear anything or feel bad, so we continued discussing normally like nothing happened. since then i've been thinking abt the incidence. i hope she is not cheating on me cos i can't stand it. abeg, make una advice me nlanders.

Heres a thought and it just came to me all of a sudden. . . . . . . .


Y not ask her who she was talking to and what it ment?

How the hell are we supposed to know?

Maybe she is not cheating on you but cheating on him??

i no but i believe its me she's cheating on cos she plays the role of a mother, sister, lover in my life. she wouldn't be doing all these if she was playing around.

sistawoman:

Maybe she is not cheating on you but cheating on him??

LMAO, u wicked well, well ooooh! Winsh kain morale be dis naa?

yemium:

she said "i love also" to the caller. immediately, she looked at my face but i pretended not to hear anything or feel bad, so we continued discussing normally like nothing happened.

I luv this part. . .

@ Topic: Guy, u come through like u're real smart, so y u wanno start 2k9 wth someone u don't trust Albeit, u've not given enough evidence 2 really suggest she's cheating sha.

The fact that she forgave dosent mean you guys are back togerther

Hmmmm. Incomplete observation.

First, if a woman is cheating on you, she will not do something odvious like saying "I love you" to the cheatee while standing right in front of you. Women are usually more cunning than that,

she plays the role of a mother, sister, lover in my life. she wouldn't be doing all these if she was playing around.

Says who?? You'd be suprised how misleading and dishonest some women could be.

u come through like u're real smart, so y u wanno start 2k9 wth someone u don't trust

^^Yes, I agree with this comment. Trust your vibes always. And try to always live in the here-&-now instead of falling backwards to your past ways. If you do the same thing you did in the past, you will get the same result you got in the past. If you live for the present, and take control of the here-&-now, you can shape better results for your future.

Hope that helps, at least a little bit.

I say I love you to my mother, brother, sisters, friends AS WELL AS girlfriend. So it could have been anyone she was talking to. Why on earth would you pretend that you did not hear her if it bothered you so much? What the heck was the sense in that? You should have asked her immediately who it was so that at least you had an inkling as to how yu would progress. If she had said it was a relative or friend. You could have confirmed by looking at the phone (or if you are one of those paranoid ones calling the number), and if the relationship ended as a result, you would have been able to move on. There is no sense in you stewing and eating yourself up inside unnecessarily and tiptoeing on eggshells when you feel that she might have another bloke in her life. Be a bleeping man and bite the bullet instead of wimping it up and whining all over Nairaland.

sistawoman:

Heres a thought and it just came to me all of a sudden. . . . . . . .


Y not ask her who she was talking to and what it ment?

How the hell are we supposed to know?

Maybe she is not cheating on you but cheating on him??

i luv u is as common as hello
hell i say it to my girlfriends and guyfriends
it means exactly wat it sounds like: i luv ya finis!
if u think she's cheating on u,
why dont u try to find out,
moreso i have a feeling, ur just setting the wheels rolling for a major fall-out if u confron her heads-on

bluespice:

i luv u is as common as hello
hell i say it to my girlfriends [b]and guyfriends
it means exactly wat it sounds like: i luv ya finis![/b]
if u think she's cheating on u,
why dont u try to find out,
moreso i have a feeling, ur just setting the wheels rolling for a major fall-out if u confron her heads-on

Thank you o. I wonder what the poster would say if he overhead his girlfriend saying "I am in love with XYZ". Alakori.

Sapphic:

Thank you o. I wonder what the poster would say if he overhead his girlfriend saying "I am in love with XYZ". Alakori.

lmao!

I don't think it is fair to abuse the poster, just like that. It is not right.

You know what? You made a mistake of not asking her then and there who it was on the phone. Its just a standard question. Even if she didn't say "I love you" you can still ask the question just out of interest. It means nothing. However ill suggest that you don't go back and ask her now, cuz u'll just look silly. And she would think "so all this while you have been suspicious and you never bothered to talk to her about it", then she will be like "you don't trust me blah blah blah" All of a sudden u r the one apologising (Whoa flash back). Trust me women know how to turn shit around on you and in this case u'll have made it very easy.

So u'll just have to forget about this incident. I don't think its anything personally and if u trust her just move on, however if you don't then why the hell r u with her. Then if it happens again and you wanna know who it was, then don't keep schtum, just bloody ask her.

i love you also. . . . . . .that was what she said come on people

that is like saying i love you too

if you were speaking to you sibling

you wont say that

you would most likely would say

love you . . .

its in a relationship that the 'i' is emphasized

dude, she fed up you lost her

you are at best 2nd best

and i think sistawoman is right

she is cheating on him with you

You know, it is preposterous for partners to always think negative of one another at the slightest suspicio. That show sign of distrust, however small it is.

I am not saying that the possibility of the lady cheating should be completely written off. I think, you can't get the truth you seek as long as you are biased in your thinking. Give her the benefit of doubt and stop eavesdropping on her phone conversation (intentionally). She will give herself away.

But you guys are just coming together after what look like crisis time. The best way to re-enact the old good time is not by questioning her everytime she call or receive a call.

Let the dust settle first. Let her confirm that she is back to stay before you start acting as if you already married her.

As far as I am concerned, she may well not have make up her mind completely about your reconciliation. She may be putting you on probation.

Use this time to build trust rather than creating chasm in the relationship. If she is destined to be yours, you would not fail to win her.

Be, matured.

sistawoman:



Maybe she is not cheating on you but cheating on him??

I think your response is pretty unfair. Some guys is hurting emotionally and you're insinuating that he's cheating.
@ Poster, I think you should back off before you get hurt.

I taya for you oh Oga. . . . this is 2009 abeg let Old doings and habits be passed no time to de disturb yourself for some kain chic where no reason you wella shogbo?

to reply "I love you too" after a phone conversation is not a sin. It's only normal

Ben20001:

to reply "I love you too" after a phone conversation is not a sin. It's only normal

hmm lets see

normal to what?

believe me . . . . .in asmuch as i find the whole thread funny

if it was a family member or a friend most peeps would say love you and not i love you too

if it is your mom, you would say i love you mummy(yeah i still say that)

i love you too. . . . . .no two ways about it guy. . . . . .remember robert kelly's song when a woman's fedup

well she gone and fed up



@olanajim

Give her the benefit of doubt and stop eavesdropping on her phone conversation (intentionally).

eavesdropping guy whats the deal

the guy overheard haba!

you don start again o o

forget about it, she might not be cheating on you afterall
But then for her to say her i love you too, she was talking to a guy. The guy must have said i love you and replied saying i love you too.
But it might not be like that, sha. But just forget about it coz its too late, you should have asked her about it immediately it happened, its too late now.

Omo ask her. If her answer doesnt add up or doesnt allay ur suspicions comot the girl abeg.

My guy,

I will advise you to be patient till you are fully sure of what you are talking about, So that you dont end up making a big mistake by making the wrong judgement.

is that the shocker?

maybe ur chemistry is losing its physics

find out who she was talking with, cld be her girl friend, girls say that alot to each other,they all potential lesbians yet to discover themselves.

smooooooth:

find out who she was talking with, cld be her girl friend, girls say that alot to each other,they all potential lesbians yet to discover themselves.

woooohhh is that like a recurring fantasy of yours or what? like probly all guys are gays just about to discover themselves too(hiss)

@poster why didn't you just ask for Bleep's sake. something you cld have ended on the spot you dragged it now just cos of the word "i love you"
if she's seeing someone serves you right cos i don't know why she'd be wasting her time with you in the first place when you're not just man enuf to get issues resolved on your own, you have to bring a bunch of confused, oversexed & under sexed, mature & immature strangers to the issue.
you knw what? here's some advice look her in the eye and ask"do you have a boyfriend or since we split did someone take my place or are you seeing some one right now" whichever works for you.

dappssee:

I think your response is pretty unfair. Some guys is hurting emotionally and you're insinuating that he's cheating.
@ Poster, I think you should back off before you get hurt.

Me thinks English is not your first language. Please study very well well then re-read what I wrote and you will understand that your comprehension is not correct.

sistawoman:

Me thinks English is not your first language. Please study very well well then re-read what I wrote and you will understand that your comprehension is not correct.

You must be really stupid. Just because I omitted an apostrophe between y and s. Pity the man who will end up calling you his wife. Bitch!

Lyke sistawoman said maybe she's cheating on him, not you.

On the other hand, she mite be trying to test you. But i cant really see that cos then she must have planned it with the guy which i feel i just as bad. Think its a lose-lose situation. Pls get another girl, them plenty.

@dappseee

You must be really stupid. Just because I omitted an apostrophe between y and s. Pity the man who will end up calling you his wife. Bitch!

Hey guy!
That was just too much, when two Nlanders abuse each other, they end up being best of friends
Congratulation u ve got a new friend!

@sistawoman

Me thinks English is not your first language.  Please study very well well then re-read what I wrote and you will understand that your comprehension is not correct.

That was harsh too,

dappssee:

You must be really stupid. Just because I omitted an apostrophe between y and s. Pity the man who will end up calling you his wife. Bitch!

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  Omoboy take it easy. Try to be a lil bit of a gentleman in a public forum lyke this.  
U know how women act