Well guys.. God4bid it happens.. you found out that your lover is HIV Positive, both of you have been going out for 4years now.. and doctor confirmed that you free from HIV and ur next partner is positive, Will you just dump him/her or what will you do.

Run Away, what am i waiting for.

I would tell her to RETURN it (the HIV) to whomever gave it to her and not to return until the deed is done!

ajsalako:

I would tell her to RETURN it (the HIV) to whomever gave it to her and not to return until the deed is done!

this guy is f**king crazy..

i'll say nothing,but will like to know where she got it from,to know if she's bin cheating...

ajsalako:

I would tell her to RETURN it (the HIV) to whomever gave it to her and not to return until the deed is done!

U r hilarious dude.

If he got it by having sex with someone infected.. I'll DUMP him. But if it was just all those mistaken ways he got it... I'll STIL DUMP HIM!

hahahaha i am thinking only white folks that might think about staying together

Not just white folks. The "god will take HIV away from him/her" people too will, stay.

hahahahaha you so funny

Na wah oh! tough question. If it's my hubby, wetin man go do? i will hang in there, with the imposed celibacy
If it's a boyfriend, who knows

ill'd 'jaa'

First thing would be to go for my own test, but if im negative then a phew!! and den some skolding, talking and breaking ups

A lot of you immediately said you'd dump him.
Without even knowing how he contracted the virus? It could have been from an infected needle as well

Don't be so quick to convict someone without knowing the facts.

nddy:

hahahaha i am thinking only white folks that might think about staying together

Let's bring in a little racism as well.

I wouldn't say only white people would stay nor the "religious folks." My bestfriends aunt dates a man who is HIV positive. They've been dating for about 3 years now and she's known about the infection for 2 of those years. It takes a while for it to show up in your system.

You can still be with someone who is HIV positive and not contract the disease. You can't get it by holding someone's hand or eating off the same plate.

If I found out that the person I'm with has contracted the disease we would talk about it. Go to the doctor and find out all about it. The cause, the effects, etc. After we are fully informed we would then have a long talk about how it will effect us and where we will go from there. Only then would I decide whether to break it off or to keep going.

Hmmm! this 1 hard small o. hmm, i believe the first thing for me would be panic. every instinct screaming RUN. but i guess i'd come back to try and help him sort his life, i mean four years isnt going to dissappear just like that in the wink of HIV ( unless he got it by cheating on me in the first place).

@nferyn, are you white? hot angel and co were just kidding. besides it takes courage and great strength of character to want to stay together in the face of such, so its a plus for whites! no offence please.

First things first, that will be the basis for us takin a break so i can clear out my head[ a girl needs to scream, especially if we've already been going out and he's just lettin me know], after that, we can both sit down and verify certain things. if he got this disease after we met and we've already started dating, i'm sorry but there ain't no way i'm going to be involved with him.

vexxy:

I wouldn't say only white people would stay nor the "religious folks." My bestfriends aunt dates a man who is HIV positive. They've been dating for about 3 years now and she's known about the infection for 2 of those years. It takes a while for it to show up in your system.

You can still be with someone who is HIV positive and not contract the disease. You can't get it by holding someone's hand or eating off the same plate.

If I found out that the person I'm with has contracted the disease we would talk about it. Go to the doctor and find out all about it. The cause, the effects, etc. After we are fully informed we would then have a long talk about how it will effect us and where we will go from there. Only then would I decide whether to break it off or to keep going.

Well spoken. You bring empathy and common sense to the debate

i wasnt racist

nddy:

i wasnt racist

I'm not saying you are. but what else could you call your remark?
Language is a powerful thing, be carefull when you use it

its not being racist, its like saying chicken is black people's meal. People dont know whats racist and all not

nddy:

its not being racist, its like saying chicken is black people's meal. People don't know whats racist and all not

I wouldn't immediately say both examples are similar, but I understand your point. But let's not forget that all people have some ethnocentric behaviour in them. It's an evolved trait among humans that helped us survive for hundereds of thousands of years; We should acknowledge that and try to fight these tendencies as much as possible.

bagoma:

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@nferyn, are you white? hot angel and co were just kidding. besides it takes courage and great strength of character to want to stay together in the face of such, so its a plus for whites! no offence please.

Yes I plead guilty , but my wife is Nigerian.

You can see us here:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-637.512.html

Anyway, people are people. race is a meaningless concept biologically. Why not divide up the world between the tall and short races That would be something

ha ha ha ha that would indeed be something!
regards to iyawo.

Who said i was joking. I'd DUMP the dude. I aint gat no HIV so where u get it from?? Nigg@ Talk.. Shuu... Buh bye boo!

nferyn, i just checked out your pics. i think your whole family look great too. mixed blessing. i'm happy for you.(naija women are the best, abi?)

hot-angel:

Who said i was joking. I'd DUMP the dude. I aint gat no HIV so where u get it from?? Nigg@ Talk.. Shuu... Buh bye boo!

oh girl, u harsh o

i dont know wat kind of human being that would stick with him or her?

i dont think she is harsh she is just being real

true.

I know its really hard to stay with someone with HIV,but if u really care for that person i don't think u wuld just let go like that.Even if this person isnt my lover, and i know him/her as friends i wil sure stay with them.he/she needs me now more than ever,i have to encourage them as much as i can,what are friends for?

Since there is no barrier to true love, live goes on and HIV shouldn't be the barrier to stop the miracle.
Love is a miracle, loving someone from another family/tribe.
So I won't quit, a friend in need is friend in deed.

bagoma:

nferyn, i just checked out your pics. i think your whole family look great too. mixed blessing. i'm happy for you.(Nigeria women are the best, abi?)

Well, for me at least

nferyn:

Well, for me at least

Good for you nefryn! Your baby is soooooooooooo cute!

I wiLL RUN 4 FORTY.

I CANT WAIT 4 ANY EXPLANATION OOOOOOOOOOO I WILL RUN 4 MY DEAR LIFE, CO'S MY LIFE IS PRECIOUS TO ME