Hi friends, Before I start I would like to say a big thank you to all Nairalanders because I have been a big time beneficiary of most topics ranging from romance (boyfriend girlfriend thing) to computer and virus thing to phone advice and coping with irate bosses, even though I don't comment.

I will be most greatful if the couples here give me their humble advice cos I need their experience.

I have gotten to a ripe age for marriage and have been praying to God for the man from whose rib I was taken from. I have a good paying job, mentally and emotionally sound for marriage, prayed and listened to different mp3's on marriage. There are lot of guys who want to date me but I feel I have grown past d age of casual dating and need to settle down, based on this I remind God that he is not an author of confusion and that I don't want to get confused with different proposals from men. that only the man from whose rib I was taken from should be persistent on asking for my hand in marriage.

My brothers and sisters, since August last year, there is this man that has been on my neck proposing marriage. I have tried all I can to avoid him, discourage him etc because I am not attracted to him, but he keeps saying he has made his decision. I don't know why am not attracted to him, but maybe its because am more educated than he is and I earn more than he does.

Please help a sister with your humble advice on what to do because it seems like the guys am waiting for are not ready.






No insults please.
Thanks

I won't say much , you said you are not attracted to him, that is a no no for me.

u see waiting dey vex me



"because u r educated than he is"



kai, I pray too much education will not make u miss it out



and about u not attracted to him



its simply because u don't want to

jamex93:
u see waiting dey vex me



"because u r educated than he is"



kai, I pray too much education will not make u miss it out



and about u not attracted to him



its simply because u don't want to

like I said, I don't know why am not attracted to him. but what I know that may put me off is the fact that I earn more than he does and am more educated. Am just trying hard to think........

marcnelly:




like I said, I don't know why am not attracted to him. but what I know that may put me off is the fact that I earn more than he does and am more educated. Am just trying hard to think........

Well you have to let go of this idea of education and the amount you earn....

It rare to see a man who will still go ahead to marry a lady that is more educated and richer than him...it pulls down our ego....

The only reason you are not attracted to him is because you don't want to....

Until these is scraped out there is 85% percent probability that after him the next man won't last long with you because of these your “am educated and richer” beliefs that you make your priority.....


Or you can continue with these kind of attitude and when you get old adopt a child as your own....

Only one man out of thousands will still go ahead and marry a lady that is more educated and earns more than him..and the present one is the man...

Just as you stated the ones you want are not ready for you....

The ball is in your court

marcnelly:




like I said, I don't know why am not attracted to him. but what I know that may put me off is the fact that I earn more than he does and am more educated. Am just trying hard to think........

ok

@OP It's not advisable you proceed with that guy to start any relationship at all. You're not attracted to him is a valid reason for you not to start what u can't finish. If eventually you go into a relationship with him, you'll resent him always and he'll see it as an opportunity to live off you as well since you are more educated and earn more than him.
In all I wish you all the best. Cheers

Thanks friends for your comments and opinion. remain blessed.