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The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by Nobody: 7:46am On Apr 16, 2015 |
Here, I take the liberty this space allows to address the 6 Biggest Myths about s*x and side chicks.  1. If you want a man to respect you, you must make him wait for s*x. I agree, but for very different reasons. A woman should never make a man wait for s*x to gain his respect. When a woman is abstinent, her purpose is not the s*xual deprivation of a beau or any other suitor; not that they are entitled to s*x from her anyway. A woman, who chooses to abstain from s*x until marriage, does so because she holds true to certain foundational values that govern her life. It is not a woman’s responsibility to cause a man to respect her. In fact, it’s not even possible. Respect is only given based upon the value one person places on another. To respect someone is to place a certain value on them and respond to them in kind. The value placed on that person may or may not match the value they place on themselves. Respect is given from within and not controlled or manipulated externally. 2. Cheating destroys the primary relationship. Cheating may or may not destroy the primary relationship. The primary relationship may be able to withstand the damage that follows once infidelity has been discovered. Cheating is not to be taken lightly. Its effects are severe and long-lasting. Even if one had good reason to believe that their relationship would survive cheating, that does not make it any less an act of treason nor does it lessen the pain of the woman who suffers from this heinous act. 3. A man cheats because he’s not getting something at home. The biggest problem with this idea is that it makes a woman complicit in her own victimization. It suggests that the woman is the cause of his cheating because she’s not satisfying him at home. This is problematic on many levels. From a premarital position, these entitlements are non-existent. Even within the context of marriage, a wife does not bear the sole responsibility of s*xual satisfaction though the woman is usually made to feel this is her burden to bear. Such phrases like, “Other women are always willing to do what you won’t” always reinforces a woman’s insecurities and place her in position to compete for the favor and attention of her man against all the women that he could choose from. This is patently wrong. 4. The friends with benefits/no-strings-attached relationship will NEVER develop into something meaningful. No woman should ever have to gamble with the prospect of elevating from “spare booty” to a meaningful relationship with a man. To even suggest that a woman suspend her dignity for meaningless gratuitous s*x is a gross underestimation of the value of a woman. More importantly, friends with benefits and no-strings-attached relationships are misnomers. Benefits are inherent in all friendships. Genuine friendships are inherently beneficial and mutually rewarding. A s*xual relationship is a specific relationship with a totally different dynamic than platonic relationships. Friends with benefits are a category that’s used to combine two mutually exclusive relationships for the purpose of reaping the benefits of one without the responsibilities of the other. 5. Side chicks are 20 somethings looking for a sugar daddy. Even if this were true, what difference would it make? Side chicks only enter relationships by invitation of another woman’s uncommitted disloyal man. There are no age limits or financial limits for these unfortunate women who buy into their own exploitation and allow themselves to be the second-string coming-off-the-bench women in the lives of unsuitable men. 6. The side-chick is just a s*x partner, nothing more. A side-chick is a woman who is a willing victim of a very selfish man. The fact that a woman willingly agrees to be used for s*x does not change the fact that she is a victim, “nothing more.” It’s possible that a side-chick could become a “main chick”, but this “upgrade” is a gamble not worth winning. How could any woman trust a man when she was the other woman in his life? What would make her think her “promotion” would not leave a space for a new side-chick to fill? A woman should be pursued by a man who has chosen her above all others. What’s left unmentioned in these 6 myths (in addition to what has already been presented) is that there is no accountability for the behavior of the men who benefit the most from these “arrangements” (it would give far too much credit to legitimize them by calling them relationships). These discussions always seem to focus attention on the women and rarely, if ever, the men. These women are either blamed for “allowing” men to use them or their relationships are written off as “fair exchange” which seeks to absolve men of any responsibility for the emotional damage that results when the relationships come to a crashing end. That is the biggest myth of all that somehow did not make the list. |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by Fabdedon(m): 7:50am On Apr 16, 2015 |
if you want guys to respect you.. Form hard to get.. Abeg swerve joor.. Dem de talk say men de scarce dem still dem form |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by alberto2k(m): 7:52am On Apr 16, 2015 |
Fabdedon:Baba dey para-vexing |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by Fabdedon(m): 7:54am On Apr 16, 2015 |
alberto2k:hehehe girls wea de form can vex me eh.. Whats d need? |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by TrishaP(f): 7:54am On Apr 16, 2015 |
God help us. |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by alberto2k(m): 7:57am On Apr 16, 2015 |
Fabdedon:the only point they're tryna prove is that their punanii is tighter than the biitch u previously dumped And that's still pointless |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by Hazardd(m): 7:58am On Apr 16, 2015 |
TrishaP: 'God help those who hep themselves' |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by Fabdedon(m): 8:01am On Apr 16, 2015 |
alberto2k:hehehe, their punny wea wide like oil well.. Mostly nah ugly girls form pass.. |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by alberto2k(m): 8:04am On Apr 16, 2015 |
Fabdedon:Na the painful thing be that baba |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by Fabdedon(m): 8:06am On Apr 16, 2015 |
alberto2k:another painful tin be nah dem de carry pass.. |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by shevi4mb(m): 8:07am On Apr 16, 2015 |
I wonder when ladies will learn that their kitten is limited and not to be compared to the other male gender. Some wil start sayin sexist nw. Well, if u have a guy in ur life and he loves you for who u are...pls tnk God |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by alberto2k(m): 8:29am On Apr 16, 2015 |
Fabdedon:that's what I call compensation benefits of being ugly |
Re: The 6 Biggest Myths About S*x And Side-chicks: A Different View by mhizpeaarl(f): 8:41am On Apr 16, 2015 |
I laff in French kwikwikwi |
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