WRITTEN By BRANDON

This may not be the best time for me to write on

this because of misinterpretations, but I can no

longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has

become one of the challenges faced by many young

girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of

the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this

calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the

time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there

really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,

maybe there were more men than women then, or

there was an adequate corresponding numbers of

both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the

women had values and were prepared to build a

home and not park into a built home. Then, once a

young man comes of age and can at least feed

himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife

and the woman really appreciates him and helps

him to build a future. What am I really trying to say?

We created what we now see as "Husband

Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the

case. Ask an average girl to define her dream

husband; you get things like "he has to be tall,

handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and

be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in

order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the

number of girls around you and the number of men

that meet that standard, and you will see the

problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my

father's house and then go and start suffering with

a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the

beginning, you have everything you want and there

is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table

turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run

away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to

start small and end big, than start big and end

small. The problem is that the description majority

of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same.

When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the

man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the

man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49

others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband

Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard,

due to the face of our economy to find a man who is

of marriage age who possesses all

those things these ladies want, legally (except

those involved in Internet fraud); even the number

of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all

those searching for already made husbands.

If you look around, majority of the ladies of

substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready

to build a home with a man who has prospects, ar

married and not complaining of husband scarcity.

The easiest way to find a husband now, is to

change your view of who a husband is. A husband

is that man God made and then saw that it may be

hard for him to really actualize his purpose for

making him, without a help mate and then made the

woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and

fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY

ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building

the family of God here on earth. For those who see

marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into

bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME

WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH

HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a

route to where God has destined him to be

tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE

ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.

Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE

RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should

pick anyone that comes your way and talks of

marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I

am saying is that you should stop setting your

standard on material acquisitions or

physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.

WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE

OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE

UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times,

not seen with the physical eyes, only its

effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing.

Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not

seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer.

God did not just make Eve for making sake; He

made her for Adam's need to b......

hmmm

Nothing like scarcity is just that boys are not smilling, but i smell front page things

Instructive, entertaintive and also informative, girls should be aware.

Good one @ op

long write up,i did not finish readin #thumb up op cant say to it now until i read d whole stuff tho**maybe tomorrow

Husbands are scarce boyfriends are everywhere!! don't be cheap, keep yourself both male and female.

Wisdom.

especially ladies from the ages of 30 to 42 living as "single and searching" I have always asked myself were have they being this while? living in the blind i guess.

But with the latest discoveries, am convinced that this are some of the major factor resulting to high increase of "unwanted" single ladies:
Low level of marital intellectual preparation.
Over religious/cultural believes.
Spiritual hindrance.

T00!0^g

Op,when it comes to hustling with men,supporting and all. Most girls can do it,but they'll rather not so they dont come to nairaland and tell create threads that touches the heart like 'i dated him from the university,now that he's working with Chevron,he says i'm not good enough for him,how should i kill him'.

Men aint loyal!

I think people just need to be more loyal and honest. This can go a long way,i refuse to believe this scarcity thingy. Who are those marrying in hundreds in Nigeria each weekend? Evil spirits?