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Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:33pm On Apr 25, 2015
This is an interesting piece written by a lady to help other ladies learn and avoid the looming dangers.
There are certain things that push guys away from you and sometimes these turn-offs go both ways. Frankly some ladies find it hard to keep a man because of some things they do. Read details below:

Drama: This is definitely one of the top things that push men away. Women tend to be involved in more drama than men. It’s true that your boyfriend will be there to listen to you when you’re having issues, but being catty won’t highlight your best qualities. And being overly dramatic about some petty issue, such as why he didn’t call you first, will make him question the relationship. If you are a responsible lady or want to be one, try not to make a huge deal of something that can be easily fixed.

Possessiveness: Do you constantly check up on your boyfriend? If so, you might want to back off a little bit. When guys receive too many “Where are you?” texts, they tend to get annoyed. They don’t want to be in a relationship with their mom. You might think this is just you caring about him, but to him, it will feel like you don’t trust him, or worse, like you are trying to control him.

Playing dumb: Unfortunately, we ladies have all probably done this at some time or other. Truth is that playing dumb will lead you down the wrong path. He might eventually feel like you’re taking advantage of him or that you just aren’t capable of taking care of yourself, let alone you and the kid or kids when they start coming. Good guys believe a smart girl is much more worth keeping at home.

Clingy: A guy has got to have his own space! How much space a guy needs will vary. Some guys think that going out more then twice a month together is clingy, while others think that you never leaving his side is clingy. As a lady, make sure to observe your own man to figure out where he lies on the spectrum! When you give him what he wants, he will really appreciate your understanding and thoughtfulness – and he will try to make the time you do spend together that much more worthwhile.

Living in the past: It’s okay to share your past once you get comfortable with your new guy. Just don’t dwell on it. Not yours, not his, not “ours.” Don’t compare him to a fling that you had before, a sugar daddy or ex-boyfriend. And don’t compare yourself to anyone in his past – and definitely don’t dwell on a past disagreement that you two had. If you want him in your future, plan today with him.

Dishonesty: We hate being lied to. So why do we do it to a man we love? It doesn’t protect a relationship; in fact, it might destroy it. Communication is key in a relationship, so if you say things that you don’t mean, what’s the point? Try to express yourself and allow your man point out things that he doesn’t understand. Always make an attempt to talk things out. Believe me, it works wonders!
Remember that time you told him you loved that his shirt, even though really, you can’t stand it? Well, what are you going to do if he starts wearing it all the time to please you? That is it, you have all the work to do if you want to enjoy your man and have him spend his money you wholeheartedly.

Power struggle: I always cringe when I hear people joking about who wears the pants in a relationship. There’s really no need to do that. Learn to be humble and work well with your man. Your friends are loyal to their own men at home, no matter what they tell you. So don’t be obsessive over who has more power. Love is what you should ask for from your man, not his authority. You can!

Written by Bukky Sanni
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Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Sommyangel(f): 12:35pm On Apr 25, 2015
Tanku shola
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by SleekyP(m): 12:35pm On Apr 25, 2015
undecided
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Basildvalour(m): 12:37pm On Apr 25, 2015
Too little a task

Now, why can't most ladies do these things and keep their men
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:38pm On Apr 25, 2015
I dey come
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:40pm On Apr 25, 2015
Orijin101:
I dey come
*drags him back*

Sit here let me serve u a bottle of chilled origin grin

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Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:41pm On Apr 25, 2015
Sommyangel:
Tanku shola
uwc angel.. smiley
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Slimzjoe(m): 12:42pm On Apr 25, 2015
undecided
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:44pm On Apr 25, 2015
Slimzjoe:
undecided
Smile.. smiley
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by marshalcarter: 12:45pm On Apr 25, 2015
Nyz and lovely post


#thumbs up#



The wise ones will learn
The dumb ones will be lyk''she's talkin trash''
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Slimzjoe(m): 12:46pm On Apr 25, 2015
lagmostkuit:

Smile.. smiley

Too hungry to smile angry
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by missKiffy(f): 12:48pm On Apr 25, 2015
Nice one
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:49pm On Apr 25, 2015
marshalcarter:
Nyz and lovely post


#thumbs up#



The wise ones will learn
The dumb ones will be lyk''she's talkin trash''
Thanks..

I'm learning too smiley
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 12:50pm On Apr 25, 2015
Slimzjoe:


Too hungry to smile angry
Okay..
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Slimzjoe(m): 12:56pm On Apr 25, 2015
lagmostkuit:

Okay..

Is there something I can do to this beans to make it Done quick
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Tallesty1(m): 1:11pm On Apr 25, 2015
VickyBee
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Odunharry(m): 1:27pm On Apr 25, 2015
if you want to keep your man, do same thing you
expect him to do for you
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 1:29pm On Apr 25, 2015
Possessiveness: Do you constantly check up on your boyfriend? If so, you might want to back off a little bit. When guys receive too many “Where are you?” texts, they tend to get annoyed. They don’t want to be in a relationship with their mom. You might think this is just you caring about him, but to him, it will feel like you don’t trust him, or worse, like you are trying to control him.

This part really gets on my nerves.
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by DonX001: 1:45pm On Apr 25, 2015
Article's right on point.
Especially drama, possessiveness and being clingy.
Can get really tiresome really fast.


Although sometimes, a man that wants to leave will leave, irrespective of what the woman does to keep him. Even if she turns herself to an angel on earth, he's still headed for the door.
Same goes for the opposite sex.
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by DonX001: 1:46pm On Apr 25, 2015
Double post.
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 1:52pm On Apr 25, 2015
DonX001:
Article's right on point.
Especially drama, possessiveness and being clingy.
Can get really tiresome really fast.


Although sometimes, a man that wants to leave will leave, irrespective of what the woman does to keep him. Even if she turns herself to an angel on earth, he's still headed for the door.
Same goes for the opposite sex.
You're correct buh it's also good to do the right thing
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by p2t2r(m): 2:08pm On Apr 25, 2015
You forgot to add blo'w job.
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by DonX001: 2:10pm On Apr 25, 2015
lagmostkuit:

You're correct buh it's also good to do the right thing

Sure, thats the first step to a viable relationship.
These points will help stop some girls from shooting themselves in the foot, right off the bat.
Keep spreading the gospel, Miss Relationship Counselor.
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by DonX001: 2:11pm On Apr 25, 2015
p2t2r:
You forgot to add blo'w job.

Lol, that one sef dey....grin

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Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 2:13pm On Apr 25, 2015
DonX001:


Sure, thats the first step to a viable relationship.
These points will help stop some girls from shooting themselves in the foot, right off the bat.
Keep spreading the gospel, Miss Relationship Counselor.
Thanks buh i'm still learning too smiley
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 2:14pm On Apr 25, 2015
p2t2r:
You forgot to add blo'w job.
grin

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Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Owliver(m): 2:32pm On Apr 25, 2015
Lagmostkuit If you want to keep me, don't disturb me when I want to play my gatdamn video game. E.G Winning eleven, Crash. I need silence pls sad that all. very simple
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 2:37pm On Apr 25, 2015
Tallesty1:
VickyBee
I'm keenly waiting for what he will do to keep me. angry
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by ShakurM(m): 2:59pm On Apr 25, 2015
Gr8 sex like a 'professional' no dey

Food like a housewife no dey
angry

No wonder, side chicks be winning
Mtschew
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 3:02pm On Apr 25, 2015
Owliver:
Lagmostkuit If you want to keep me, don't disturb me when I want to play my gatdamn video game. E.G Winning eleven, Crash. I need silence pls sad that all. very simple
Hmmmmmm undecided
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 4:42pm On Apr 25, 2015
Vickybee:

I'm keenly waiting for what he will do to keep me. angry
u mean u are waiting to be kept by me,ehya,,,I am not a goal keeper
Re: Ladies, See The Things U Can Do To Keep Your Man. by Nobody: 4:45pm On Apr 25, 2015
Unibenstudent:
u mean u are waiting to be kept by me,ehya,,,I am not a goal keeper
Are you rètarded or love showing your ignonimious stûpidity?

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