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|The Pains Of The Unemployed by ademega(m): 4:55pm On May 08, 2015|
THE PAINS OF THE UNEMPLOYED
The unemployed are faced with different challenges every day. These challenges are the causes of almost per minute pains in the heart. The longevity and “thickness” of the pains depends on different factors ranging from family & academic background, personal development, acquired skills and most importantly LUCK (God’s grace), but the good news is this; unemployment has an expire date. There are testimonies of people that overcame these challenges/pains on daily bases. If you are going through this stage at this time, I am certain it will pass.
These are some of the pains the unemployed go through.
LACK OF MONEY – :
There is no amount of money you saved during NYSC year that it’s not bond to finish if there are no other means of regular flow of income after the service. When this happens, it’s time to go back to the under grad days when you ask mummy and daddy for almost everything. But this time around the demands are limited to stipend for recharge cards, transportation etc. No more inflated school fees and hand-outs. You find it difficult and ashamed to ask for money to buy shoes, clothes and other luxuries etc. This rubs one a realistic planning for the future.
PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA -:
Most unemployed sleep and wake up thinking on how the next minute will be. They spend every minute praying and hoping for that good news and waiting patiently for that moment when they will start working at the dreamed big company. This sometimes causes sleepless nights of thinking and nightmares. That is why you see some unemployed youths looking haggard, sad depress and ugly. No thanks to unreligious vigil and serious thinking. I could remember the night I got my first employment letter, I was just laughing in my dream just as if I was in one of the AY’s show. That was a good dream in years.
FEAR OF LOSING YOUR RELATIONSHIP-:
Most unemployed guys are always living with the daily fear that their girl may leave them soon for a working class dude. This period, guys are always very nice, caring and loving for the one they wish to spend the rest of their life with. That’s why most campus relationships hit the rock after the reality of the labour world come face to face with them. Guys that are not sugar coated- mouthed changed and gives daily “manifestos” of live together in a beautiful world when the dream job eventually comes. All in a bid to keep the relationship going. Well, most times you don’t tend to blame the girls for this. The reason why they may shift base is not very far from; age factor, rich (working class) guys on their neck and pressure from friends & relatives to get marry on time and the fear of beauty depreciation. With the fact that they are thinking of how to leave their present predicament, they are equally thinking of how to keep that girl from leaving the relationship. They are afraid to join the “girls are not loyal crew” Double whala for dead body. And worst still, in the cause of “showing love” and pregnancy show up!
Some, don’t even have time for love, they are preoccupied with getting that job. So, no matter how beautiful a lady is they won’t even think of her let alone having a relationship with her.
BAD TREATMENT FROM RELATIVES -:
Searching for job entails travelling to different parts of the country either for interview or in the spirit of the search. One will need to stay with one of the well to-do or better off relatives or friends. Most times their attitude towards such visitor may not be pleasant. I have seen situations where grown up job searcher visitor was almost turned to a semi house help. Worse case scenario is harsh attitude from your uncle’s wife. Often times, this visitor has little or no option than to endure till God answers his/her prayer and leave.
SEXUAL HARASSMENT -:
Most ladies are faced with daily sexual harassment with employers of labour. Most especially the beautiful ones. Some company boss will demand for sexual pleasure before they can give job. These ladies are left with the option of giving in and dent precious integrity or remain unemployed and wait unto the lord for a quick miracle. Some were not even luck; they are either rape in the office or at a rendezvous. While some even gave in to find out it was all a ruse. The less attractive even suffer most from lack of attention.
THE CRAZY ANTICIPATION OF THE EXPECTED INTERVIEW CALL;-
When you applied to places, the next thing is to be expecting the good call or message for interview. After interview another call or message to come for the employment letter is the next. For every call or sound of a text message can make an unemployed go mad. Sometimes, you wake up from a deep sleep when you hear your phone ring or a sound of text message like a war wake up call. It’s crazy! It’s not funny at all.
CHEAP LABOUR /UNDER EMPLOYED; –
Just to keep body and soul together, an unemployed try to get a job that pay far below what he worth (the minimum wage and benefits). Just because it’s a cheap labour, the employer maxima this opportunity by giving a little (wage) and demanding a lot (input). This is common among private secondary school owners. Though banks (contract staff) and some companies are not left out in this case .For instance, a friend of mine who is a graduate of philosophy took up a teaching job at a private secondary school. He was made to teach English, social studies, history, government, Yoruba and Agricultural science. On top how much? 15k! On top that self, different daily shakara for my guy. There are cases of graduate who are official drivers of almost their mates in the university or age mates, security guys in those banks are not all pry 6 certificate holders; there are a lot of graduates among them. I tell you this is painful!. Also, some graduates go into pitiful and undignified self-employments. Go to Ekiti and Ondo state for instance, majority of the okada riders there are graduates (well better than crime).
LITTLE /NO FRIENDS: –
Just like the popular saying that failure has no friend while success has many relatives. During the search for job your friends forget your phone number and worst still they won’t reply your text message or reply your chat, thinking you may be asking for one favour or the other. Just let the job or the money comes, you need just a Facebook post or fantastic picture on your wall before the calls keep coming in.
It’s funny and unimaginable when you hear family and friends advising you to go spiritual, attaching your present predicament to generational curses or past sin.
In the course of going from one company to the other you meet people that will always treat you as if you are suffering from leprosy. Addressing you as if that is how one will die in the state of unemployed. This egoistic boss feeling like the Lord of all will shout or even ask you to wait till eternity just to let you know she /he is in charge. I call them big men with shallow mind sets.
For just that reason, friends and family will forget to invite you to occasions. You miss out as best man, best lady, bridal train of close friends’ weddings.
JOB SCAM :-
In a desperate bid to leave the state of unemployment, unemployed graduates fall victim of job scammers. The scammers ask for certain amount of money to get a juicy job but at the end of the day it turns out to be a ruse. So many unemployed had fallen victim of these scammers.
You can also, check my previous posts on unemployment.
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by kelvine(m): 4:59pm On May 08, 2015|
I tell the unemployed, get a diary, write down all your job hunting experiences, they will be useful reference to encourage you overcome all challenges of life when you eventually get a job.
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by jobyyjob: 5:45pm On May 08, 2015|
Op are you also unemployed?
I felt this would hit FP. For me though the most humiliating is the Psychological Trauma which leads to having Little or No Friends which in turn leads to Discrimination and Embarrassment just because I Lack Money. It even makes me afraid of Loosing Relationships both from girls and my overbearing Relatives. Although I've not been Sexually Harassed, I am Underemployed making me Anticipate The Interview Call and sometimes I've been deceived by Job Scams. The solution my people is to get Spiritual.
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by KillerBeauty(f): 5:47pm On May 08, 2015|
Unemployed people face a lot of emotional pain, even physical pain. A year after service after I failed to get a job, I started plantain chips business and hot oil burnt my hand when I was trying to fry the plantain.
Well no pain no gain
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by stepo707: 5:52pm On May 08, 2015|
All you listed there are true.e no easy oh.
Also people also do illegal things to survive e.g yahoo,stealing etc
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by XtraSmooth404: 6:04pm On May 08, 2015|
''If I tell you say e easy, na set up''. The period of job search is way tougher than securing admission into one of the best Uni's. We all have our stories to tell..
After NYSC, I stayed back for a while and was teaching in two schools. I later relocated to lag fully to take the bull by the horn, wasn't easy either Na me dey select jabs now.
Prayer, hardwork and determination is the key. God bless our hustles.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by cecekim(f): 6:05pm On May 08, 2015|
KillerBeauty:It is well. A gud job is on d way
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 6:49pm On May 08, 2015|
- Meeting former classmates who were unserious in school but who are now well to do on the road and having to endure the embarrassment of answering the question "Scholar, so where are you working now"?
- Traveling to Lagos from far distances via night bus just to make some interviews. Some firms in Lagos will send emails to someone in kaduna inviting him for interviews at their head office in Lagos Island at 10am the next day. A desperate unemployed person won't mind travelling all day and all night just to make that interview hoping that that might be the ordained job. Many have lost limbs and lives because of that.
- The constant look of pity you get from some people in the neighborhood who know of your situation. At a point you start to avoid taking some routes in your area just to avoid seeing some people. Imagine you are about to buy credit in your neighbourhood and you are standing beside this fine babe. Then this elderly neighbor comes and asks you in a loud voice "wale, I hope have you now found a job somewhere." and when you tell them no, they reply with "eeyah, Pele. God will do it"
- Refreshing your email every minute especially when expecting the result of an interview and then the heart-rending feeling after getting a regret mail.
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by duran2059(m): 6:58pm On May 08, 2015|
I think number two is for me
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 7:01pm On May 08, 2015|
@adeaks, ^^^, so spot on esp 1 & 2....
Sorry sis, hope you ve got something better now? But then i like your courage, not everyone can do what you did... it's well......
Unemployment is a biatch shaaa, naija own is the 'biatchest'...
Some people visit many job sites daily, tender multiple applications, yet no invite...
There's light at the end of the tunnel..
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 7:03pm On May 08, 2015|
adeaks:LOL, very funny & sad at the same time.
@Op all what You listed are true 100%. Na God hand person dey.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 7:05pm On May 08, 2015|
MarvellousGod:when will the 'tunnel' end?
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by obiak4(m): 7:40pm On May 08, 2015|
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by obiak4(m): 7:42pm On May 08, 2015|
kadgets2:someday brov hope and pray
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Setaje(f): 7:51pm On May 08, 2015|
Feeling alone and unhappy. Avoiding people. The list is endless. The one I hate most is some people feel u are just being lazy. The idiots that say go and learn something as if they will give u money to go and learn. Some will say go and do masters, go and start buying and selling. As if they will give u money. Some will say u are choosy. Another will say start small. Start what small? The major problem is not laziness but background of job seekers. Job seekers who were hustlers in school, people who their parents added no value in their lives, who struggled in school already have that tenacity and will to do any kind of jobs. In Unilag I new girls who fix nails, do hair and the ones that carry aristos for a living. Had no help from family. The ones that carry aristos are d ones doing so well now and travel round the world and get married to one mugu. The ones doing handwork continue after school. While the rest, it's either their parents help them or they just sit and wait hoping for a breakthrough. You cannot compare such people who have been spoon fed by their parents which is actually the right thing to do, to start doing all sorts of menial jobs. We have all forgotten the very basis of going to school. The country wants to turn everybody to a daylight business woman or man. All my friends be make up artist, sell clothes and bags, perfumes, caterers and u say I should also do that and market to this same friends. Not everybody is wired to do business. Not everybody is wired to learn a handwork. Not everybody is meant to work in an office. frustration should not be the basis of going into anything. I have never seen anybody do well in something they have no love for......
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 8:05pm On May 08, 2015|
kadgets2:To each his own.. I don't know when urs will end, but I'm quite sure mine's ending soon....
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by ademega(m): 8:06pm On May 08, 2015|
Setaje:Word! This post makes my eyes filled to the brim . it is well
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by bb4522(m): 8:23pm On May 08, 2015|
Setaje:i concur with everything you said. the bold word surprise me the most
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Sidney1990: 8:28pm On May 08, 2015|
God will surely hear our cry and grant us that job which we've been hoping for. Don't give up, keep believing
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by abdulslutsky(m): 9:22pm On May 08, 2015|
MarvellousGod:Even PHCN don't mind taking the light. Naija worry me o.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by solarview(m): 9:31pm On May 08, 2015|
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by knostbrown01(m): 9:54pm On May 08, 2015|
If i see how my drop out friend wey learn mechanic dey spend money....i wonder why i go to school self
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Lero15(m): 10:04pm On May 08, 2015|
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by ednut1(m): 10:17pm On May 08, 2015|
i collected regret mail sote. once u open ur mail. ur eye automatially sees only one tin. Regret . February 2014 kpmg gimme reg mail after interview. remain small mk i cry.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 10:23pm On May 08, 2015|
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Ghost01(m): 10:27pm On May 08, 2015|
That look of pity on the face of those who know ..., their "pitiful" greetings and those depressing, lonely moments are the worst.
But sha, like the xtians do say, it'll all end in praise!
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by prelinctus: 11:00pm On May 08, 2015|
Threads like this always spring up albeit with different topics. Someone should open a counterthread - 'The gains of the employed'.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Nobody: 11:15pm On May 08, 2015|
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by LaurelP(m): 11:16pm On May 08, 2015|
Logging on to Facebook becomes annoying
Becos u get to see pics of ur former skul mates who are doing well, especially d unserious ones
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|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by fritiyo: 12:04am On May 09, 2015|
If a friend of my ask me if have started working, I will simple tell the person that am working out something.
Very painfull to stay all day at home doing nothing sa.
Joblessness made Nairaland n facebook my favourite tourist destination centers.
But thanks be to the almighty God, it will be a thing of the past.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Etfash(m): 9:58am On May 09, 2015|
Op is so right... I am moved to tears now. How time flies and one easily forget. Father, I am grateful.
|Re: The Pains Of The Unemployed by Obeenah(m): 10:01am On May 09, 2015|
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