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guys how do you handle this stituation by fnep2smooth(m): 8:56pm On May 16, 2015
I lost my romantic move towards the opposite sex because I was so busy. I received so many heart break ( hat-trick ) with different girls due to my over seriousness. i met this girl at a birthday party with her friends, after we gist and exchange number everything went smoothly so we started dating.

few weeks later, I invited her over just to know her more and also keep myself from loneliness. She came and we started gisting, playing, kissing and doing all sorts of childish things I have never done in my life. She told me some of her secrets and I put up my own, because we were so intimate that we forgot to eat our lunch because she came around 10:37AM.

after the drama and story telling, I find out that the time is 5:23PM. I was so shock and worried so I ask her to escort me to a nearby canteen to eat ( I just want us to go outside so that i can know what's happening around me) but she refused. I had to convince her for another 30 minutes for her to follow me. she finally agree and we went out and she went home from there.

Now my main aim of writing this

After the meal, I went back to my room and i started looking around to know where to start working out my lost times. I was lost and disconnected from the world because I was with her for 7 hours. So I started putting myself in my cousin shoe, who spends most of his time with her girl friend (24hours indoor) without doing any serious thing inside apart from sex.

I have been finding it hard to let this feelings go because i felt relieve and free when she left.
.........please is something wrong with me or am i overreacting?
......... please guys how do you handle this situation and not being distracted or disconnected from my dreams by falling inlove and acting blind with all my attention on her because thats what she needs.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by armadeo(m): 9:00pm On May 16, 2015
my advice the studying you are doing isn't enough you need to study harder. your write up stinks.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by fnep2smooth(m): 9:03pm On May 16, 2015
armadeo:
my advice the studying you are doing isn't enough you need to study harder. your write up stinks.

Typing error bro...
Am typing from my phone
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by donbenedict(m): 9:05pm On May 16, 2015
Some people need to be slapped.
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Nobody: 9:06pm On May 16, 2015
lipsrsealed
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by IamLEGEND1: 9:09pm On May 16, 2015
Another one has been set loose on the e-streets of NL.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by espn(m): 9:18pm On May 16, 2015
OP..Climb the roof of ur lodge..jump down and keep climbing..if u make it until this time tomorrow..i will give u a gud advice.
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Idowuogbo(f): 9:22pm On May 16, 2015
Hian! This one go soon tear cloth enter market oo...

Bros, are u sure u're feeling ok today?

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Nobody: 9:22pm On May 16, 2015
you are sick !!!

not in the brain but in the mind. You can't let go of the past. you are stuck in the past. you are afraid to love again, afraid to give someone your time.

You are scared of being happy because you think it might not last.

that is what is wrong with you.!!!


Actually it happens but it is not normal. Total withdrawal from people ( ladies ) isn't the solution. Learn to rise when you fall. learn to move on.

Forgive yourself for falling into wrong hands

forgive your intuition for not seeing what to come.

life goes on.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by marshalcarter: 9:24pm On May 16, 2015
Mtcheeeeew


Wen I saw blindness I even thought its physical blindness as in wen you cnt see again






Anyway sha.....u're still blind
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by MizMyColi(f): 9:30pm On May 16, 2015
You're living in denial.
You enjoyed the moments you spent with her, but you've somehow convinced yourself that you cannot allow yourself so much pleasure.

So, you found away to discharge her, and you found it difficult picking yourself up from where you left off.

My advice is this;

Next time you engage in an activity that is energy sapping and you feel all drained.

Give yourself time to cool off.
If you engaged in something pleasurable, allow yourself to ruminate over it. Catch feelings if you must....BUT have it somewhere at the backest of your mind that you gotta move on.

If you are finding it hard still, you can pep talk yourself, even if you've done something bad, admit it to yourself, tell yourself you can be better.... Tell yourself, "I believe I can rise again, I believe I can be better.
Get yourself something else to do.
Change your environment.
Talk to a friend, one whom you can unburden yourself before, without feeling judged.

Finally OP, it's all in the mind.
The mind is the battlefield.
You need to change some fundamental mentalities that you have.
Be more open-minded.
Take responsibility for your actions without resorting to self indictment, judgment and justification.

It is well with you Bro.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Eyepencil: 9:32pm On May 16, 2015
@OP... You need deliverance from a native doctor.
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by yorubaboiy: 9:37pm On May 16, 2015
gbogbo nko to so o kuku ye mi
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by zealot4me(f): 9:38pm On May 16, 2015
MizMyColi:
You're living in denial.
You enjoyed the moments you spent with her, but you've somehow convinced yourself that you cannot allow yourself so much pleasure.

So, you found away to discharge her, and you found it difficult picking yourself up from where you left off.

My advice is this;

Next time you engage in an activity that is energy sapping and you feel all drained.

Give yourself time to cool off.
If you engaged in something pleasurable, allow yourself to ruminate over it. Catch feelings if you must....BUT have it somewhere at the backest of your mind that you gotta move on.

If you are finding it hard still, you can pep talk yourself, even if you've done something bad, admit it to yourself, tell yourself you can be better.... Tell yourself, "I believe I can rise again, I believe I can be better.
Get yourself something else to do.
Change your environment.
Talk to a friend, one whom you can unburden yourself before, without feeling judged.

Finally OP, it's all in the mind.
The mind is the battlefield.
You need to change some fundamental mentalities that you have.
Be more open-minded.
Take responsibility for your actions without resorting to self indictment, judgment and justification.

It is well with you Bro.





the only reasonable comment

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by fnep2smooth(m): 9:41pm On May 16, 2015
MizMyColi:
You're living in denial.
You enjoyed the moments you spent with her, but you've somehow convinced yourself that you cannot allow yourself so much pleasure.

So, you found away to discharge her, and you found it difficult picking yourself up from where you left off.

My advice is this;

Next time you engage in an activity that is energy sapping and you feel all drained.

Give yourself time to cool off.
If you engaged in something pleasurable, allow yourself to ruminate over it. Catch feelings if you must....BUT have it somewhere at the backest of your mind that you gotta move on.

If you are finding it hard still, you can pep talk yourself, even if you've done something bad, admit it to yourself, tell yourself you can be better.... Tell yourself, "I believe I can rise again, I believe I can be better.
Get yourself something else to do.
Change your environment.
Talk to a friend, one whom you can unburden yourself before, without feeling judged.

Finally OP, it's all in the mind.
The mind is the battlefield.
You need to change some fundamental mentalities that you have.
Be more open-minded.
Take responsibility for your actions without resorting to self indictment, judgment and justification.

It is well with you Bro.
I think you don't get the picture am trying to put up there. Pls try and read it again. Thanks
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by MizMyColi(f): 9:48pm On May 16, 2015
fnep2smooth:

I think you don't get the picture am trying to put up there. Pls try and read it again. Thanks

I read it twice.
You just don't grab my angle.

It's okay if you don't.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by armadeo(m): 10:00pm On May 16, 2015
fnep2smooth:

Typing error bro...
Am typing from my phone

Apologies.
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by fnep2smooth(m): 10:11pm On May 16, 2015
armadeo:


Apologies.

NO SHAKING

but you can drop your view grin
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Nobody: 10:28pm On May 16, 2015
diddydiva:
you are sick !!!

not in the brain but in the mind. You can't let go of the past. you are stuck in the past. you are afraid to love again, afraid to give someone your time.

You are scared of being happy because you think it might not last.

that is what is wrong with you.!!!


Actually it happens but it is not normal. Total withdrawal from people ( ladies ) isn't the solution. Learn to rise when you fall. learn to move on.

Forgive yourself for falling into wrong hands

forgive your intuition for not seeing what to come.

life goes on.


Help him out ....under our keen supervision..... Who knows....
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by joelyusuf(m): 10:28pm On May 16, 2015
Hmmmmm......i thought it was sometn serious ohhh,,,,Dan boroba! Na ur type Boko suppose to b holdin hostage
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Emmy9ite(m): 10:35pm On May 16, 2015
OP you can do better than this, i am finding it hard to comprehend your write up. Anyway, from the little i gather, you are living in self denial. All work and no play makes jack a dull boy man, don't take life too serious..have fun, party, enjoy urself, but do it at the right time, coz there is a time 4 evrything..
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by fnep2smooth(m): 10:48pm On May 16, 2015
Emmy9ite:
OP you can do better than this, i am finding it hard to comprehend your write up. Anyway, from the little i gather, you are living in self denial. All work and no play makes jack a dull boy man, don't take life too serious..have fun, party, enjoy urself, but do it at the right time, coz there is a time 4 evrything..
i typed it with my phone....
thanks for the comment
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Nobody: 11:42pm On May 16, 2015
armadeo:
my advice the studying you are doing isn't enough you need to study harder. your write up stinks.

hahahahaha guy why you dey like this na lol
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by macklef(m): 11:51pm On May 16, 2015
fnep2smooth:
i typed it with my phone....
thanks for the comment

Even if u typed with a walkie Talkie that dosnt stop u from making sense.

Ur write up is poor man. The topic dos not even relate with d body, i now understand why u studyn so hard.

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Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by iamrealdeji(m): 12:14am On May 17, 2015
That's none of my business though,if you like,go blind for 7 days. Btw,iyawo mi da? Where is Eroticangelina?
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by DonX001: 12:51am On May 17, 2015
macklef:


Even if u typed with a walkie Talkie that dosnt stop u from making sense.

Ur write up is poor man. The topic dos not even relate with d body, i now understand why u studyn so hard.

Lmao! That cracked me up.
grin grin grin
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by chuckvinz(m): 12:57am On May 17, 2015
armadeo:
my advice the studying you are doing isn't enough you need to study harder. your write up stinks.

please can you rewrite it
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Nobody: 5:45am On May 17, 2015
iamrealdeji:
That's none of my business though,if you like,go blind for 7 days. Btw,iyawo mi da? Where is Eroticangelina?
yes?
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by 7footre(m): 5:47am On May 17, 2015
Idowuogbo:
Hian! This one go soon tear cloth enter market oo...

Bros, are u sure u're feeling ok today?
Missing person found! Badosky wha guan?
@op I jux de shake ma head I don't even know what to tell you anyway continu to study hard
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by armadeo(m): 7:25am On May 17, 2015
chuckvinz:
please can you rewrite it


No
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by Deiok(m): 7:52am On May 17, 2015
Op you want our advice shey, i have none for you, advice your self.
Re: guys how do you handle this stituation by loomer: 7:57am On May 17, 2015
Maybe u are gay, but u don't know yet

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