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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by iamodenigbo1(m): 7:45am On May 18, 2015
forgive forgive as if to say it is that easy

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by yorubaboiy: 7:52am On May 18, 2015
youmour:
This should be a lesson to all these young girls ho-ing around,calling it hustle.what kind of dirty hustling is that,whatever happened to working in a salon or starting a business,bible say time go reach when women go dey seek for men,we are in it already
cc lalasticlala

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by yorubaboiy: 7:54am On May 18, 2015
rapmike:


Oga, you want to tell me that you don't have a past that you are not proud of?

N.B: am not endorsing what she did.
shey lesbianism wa je kan gidi ti eyan kpe la fiseyin
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by tempest01(m): 8:02am On May 18, 2015
You meet a girl and propose in a month's time? You don't know that she will put up a good show for you to make the process conclude before bringing out the bad side?

Others might tell you to continue and all that bs...I tell you to get to date a woman for some time and know her well....you guys should get talking and know and accept all past deeds and then progress.....with that, nothing can be used against each other later.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by BigElEddy(m): 8:05am On May 18, 2015
Ask her to invite her lesbian partner over and get a fυςking party grin

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nihilist: 8:06am On May 18, 2015
Of Course you should still marry her!

Especially cos she likes other girls grin

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by dyabman(m): 8:07am On May 18, 2015
hmmm Lesbians are awesome grin grin but for the future of your marriage and your generation , please don't marry unless she's delivered with 100 slashes of koboko by Woli highlife grin grin

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by InvertedHammer: 8:09am On May 18, 2015
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Do you trust her version?

Marriage is not like going on dates.

I can guarantee you that more stuff from her past will continue to unravel.

Some people deserves a whole lot of "leave alone".

Well, unless there is a chronic scarcity of women.
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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:13am On May 18, 2015
@Pukena i'm sure if we examine your past, there are things you have done that you aint proud of. If she is everything you described in the first paragraph, then you shouldn't let the past matter so much. She has changed, even before she met you. Do not let a good girl go because of her past. She is not that person anymore. The next girl you meet might have done worse things. When you get over the initial shock, you ll be able to think clearly.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by UnknownT: 8:14am On May 18, 2015
She wouldn't cheat you with a guy. She can't pass another man's child to you as yours
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by FitnessNigeria: 8:14am On May 18, 2015
From the picture you painted, here is a lady with a past she regrets and a woman solely in love with you.

We all have some past that we wish never happened because we now know better or we have left that life and changed for good.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by tellwisdom: 8:15am On May 18, 2015
See this maye... Lezzies Na hot cake for me. So far it's not man she's doing it with; mehn!!...I'm so ok. This guy u be mugu oo...sad..

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by royal231(m): 8:15am On May 18, 2015
Immorality.... with this u can't surely trust your future wife even with her female friends..... BOY DON'T TRY IT...FORGET HER NOW THANK ME LATER.... I know what it's like falling in love with a lesbian. .. my heart still bleeds...

Think about when the love will die down bro... think about when d kids starts coming...

Forget that lesbian ... her destiny shld be 14 yrs

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by kliq(m): 8:15am On May 18, 2015
tempilo2k:
Dude, I can go on an on with the usual sanctimonious 'Forgive and forget' BS
but, the truth of the matter is, if you know deep down that you aren't gonna let it go then don't go any further with the relationship.
cool

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:15am On May 18, 2015
...But he was also a masturb8or in the past!
Well, a lesson to ladies who swing their totolia glands for material things.
In the future, that ur precious CUNTinent will be opened in public. So many guys derive pleasure in filming sexscenees of girls dey fyiok in hotels, to boast about it or to sell out to p0rn directors.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by nairalandbuzz(m): 8:15am On May 18, 2015
pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

This is really hot...

Questions you will have to ask yourself...
...Are you sure you can love any other woman?
...If truly you can forgive her, are you sure you will truly forget the series of events while making out with her?
...Are you sure they are not playing you?
...How is it that the guy in question is getting updates about you guys that you are not talking to her and not picking her calls?
...How are you so sure that they have not stuck a deal and the guy was promised something maybe in payment or likewise to keep quiet so she can get wedded...


...Hmmm... all that ends well is well...

take heart bro...

I dont give people this kinda advice but my mind is telling me to let go and move on... (before that, ask him to send you the link)

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by lacreamieboie(m): 8:15am On May 18, 2015
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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:16am On May 18, 2015
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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nnemuka(f): 8:17am On May 18, 2015
We all have secrets and dark past.
No love without forgiveness.you should be happy she now wants a man in her life, some lesbians hardly change their ways.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by uzolexis(f): 8:17am On May 18, 2015
Everyone has a past OP. U r not a saint urself,stop being childish,she makes u happy,she's a wonderful person at least 4rm ur story that's what I can tell,if u really love her like u say u do,u won't leave her cause of this. I know it hurts but that's life,nobody is perfect.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Ella201: 8:18am On May 18, 2015
pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.
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At tyms we make terrible mistakes buh d most important fin iz dhat we realize dem feel sorri 4 dem nd correct dem. Iv u leave dis hrt dat iz truly in luv wid yhu r u sure 2 find d 1 dhat iz willing 2 luv u nd nt ur moni? No 1 iz perfect try 2 4get d past nd move on dhatz lyf!
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by eyeview: 8:18am On May 18, 2015
Note that she did not confess directly to you. It was a coincidence that you were there when the love-vendor called. Had you not been there,she may not have told you. So there's no way of genuinely knowing if she was repentant.
Personally,I would advice that you back off cos marriage is not a daily rosy affair. There are times in it when you stretch each others patients to the point of giving up. So how sure can you be that such times won't lead her back to that era.
Lesbianism(and the likes) are more spiritual than psychological in nature. I hope you have what it takes to help her win this spiritual battle. Many who have tried to leave it later succumb to the greater force of the spirits behind it,unless they can get God to help.

But why do girls most times do things in the present which they won't be proud of in their future?

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:19am On May 18, 2015
She was not is.

OBJ was once a convict, but we all know how the story ended.

If she possesses the qualities you crave to see in a woman, then walk her down the aisle already.

I reiterate, she was only once a lesbian, just like you once had a side to you that was dark.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by nobul(m): 8:19am On May 18, 2015
I av d solution
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Lunar2010: 8:19am On May 18, 2015
Dude, dat babe is a runs girl... period! She only wants out now because u have come into the picture. Dat guy calling is still pimping on her. Imagine ur girl telling him all dats going on with u guys.
U can decide to marry her or not, up to you... but l believe she's still attached somewhat... my opinion sha.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:19am On May 18, 2015
Shame the devil-forgive your girl,stick closer to her,love her more.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by moweta(m): 8:19am On May 18, 2015
Wether u forgive her or not is not my main source of Concern. My concern is dat being a lesbin is a sexual prefrence. So as a guy, are u satisfying her or will she wake tomoro up to come here put up a Post on how she married a guy wen she prefered women. And seeking our advise on how to get away from u? Just saying.
grin.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by shammah1(m): 8:19am On May 18, 2015
Hmmm undecided
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:20am On May 18, 2015
I am sorry this happened to you but right now u need to get ur head out of the clouds and begin to think clearly if u indeed love this lady.

1. First thing you need to do is ask her over and request that she tells u all about her past so no surprises because if she had kept this from u I assure u that she has other things she is keeping from u as well.

2. second thing u need to do will depend on how you took what she told u. if u took it well then take her sim card, buy her a new sim hence changing her line. you both are about entering a new phase so old harmful contacts must go and if you also have something in your past which night pop up tomorrow u also tell her and do the needful

3. Lesbianism has a very strong spiritual undertone, go for counselling and prayers. If she was a lesbian until recently then its likely she still is or she just decided to be bisexual thereby playing both fields.

4. Ultimately there ia nothing true love cannot accomplish. if you were comfortable with her b4 this revelation, now is d time to love her more and not desert her.

5. I run a couples counselling programme so if u require counselling get in touch privately and we will fix this together.

God bless u.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Dannyswit(m): 8:21am On May 18, 2015
Forgive her and move on with her. It takes the grace for women to open up to us abt dere past.
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by chekasforchekas: 8:21am On May 18, 2015
Sir first you would not have known if she had changed number right, you would not have known if she have played her game well, so I think the choice is yours to make here, it's your call, but note, you talked about a link from her male partner, bros get the link ok to know if your do called woman have been involved in an online lesbo porn. Once more it's your call.

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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by justwise(m): 8:22am On May 18, 2015
pukena:


I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

Before taking her back(if you want to) find out about that website to know actually what she does

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