HELLO EVERYBODY, I'M 20 YEARS OLD AND HAVE BEEN DATING THIS REALLY NICE NIGERIAN GUY WHO IS 13 YEARS OLDER FOR A YEAR NOW,
I TOLD HIM EVERYTHING HE NEEDED TO KNOW BOUT ME IN THE BEGINNING OF OUR RELATIONSHIP. EVERYTHING WAS GOING GREAT UNTIL HE TRAVELLED TO AFRICA TO SEE HIS FAMILY, WE TALK EVERYDAY AND HE'S ALWAYS TELLING ME HOW MUCH HE MISSES ME AND I REALLY LOVE THIS GUY VERY MUCH.
FEW WEEKS LATER HE CALLED ME UP AND TOLD ME HE HAD THREE KIDS BUT SAID HE IS NO LONGER WITH THEIR MUM,I FIND IT VERY HAD TO BELIEVE , I'M SO CONFUSED. THE WORST IS THAT MY FAMILY ALREADY ASKED ME IF HE HAD ANY KIDS, WELL THE ANSWER WAS NO AT THAT MOMENT NOW I DON'T WAT TO DO. I DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD TELL THEM. I FEEL BETRAYED BY HIM, PLZ HELP IF YOU CAN. THANKS

* no need to shout*


What kind of relationship do you guys have, is he just using you for green card?

NO HE IS NOT HE IS ALREDY A CITIZEN

don't be confused my dear. you are 20 and you have your whole life in front of you. now dump him real quick and move on with your life. am sure you don't want drama at age 20 do you? yes tell them and let them know you are breaking up with him too. drop it like it is hot girl.

at age 20, what should be important is your schooling, job and your life. are you in school or working? if yes focus on it.

it will be hard but you will get over it with time. ha!!!

MACKISSA:

HELLO EVERYBODY, I'M 20 YEARS OLD AND HAVE BEEN DATING THIS REALLY NICE NIGERIAN GUY WHO IS 13 YEARS OLDER FOR A YEAR NOW,
I TOLD HIM EVERYTHING HE NEEDED TO KNOW BOUT ME IN THE BEGINNING OF OUR RELATIONSHIP. EVERYTHING WAS GOING GREAT UNTIL HE TRAVELLED TO AFRICA TO SEE HIS FAMILY, WE TALK EVERYDAY AND HE'S ALWAYS TELLING ME HOW MUCH HE MISSES ME AND I REALLY LOVE THIS GUY VERY MUCH.
FEW WEEKS LATER HE CALLED ME UP AND TOLD ME HE HAD THREE KIDS BUT SAID HE IS NO LONGER WITH THEIR MUM,I FIND IT VERY HAD TO BELIEVE , I'M SO CONFUSED. THE WORST IS THAT MY FAMILY ALREADY ASKED ME IF HE HAD ANY KIDS, WELL THE ANSWER WAS NO AT THAT MOMENT NOW I DON'T WAT TO DO. I DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD TELL THEM. I FEEL BETRAYED BY HIM, PLZ HELP IF YOU CAN. THANKS

At 20,what are you doing with a 33 year old man with 3 kids who told a major lie perhaps to get in your pants
are you looking for a father figure?
Please cut off that relationship immediately.
Don't waste your youth with a damaged good

*Hauwa*:

don't be confused my dear. you are 20 and you have your whole life in front of you. now dump him real quick and move on with your life. am sure you don't want drama at age 20 do you? yes tell them and let them know you are breaking up with him too. drop it like it is hot girl.

[b]at age 20, what should be important is your schooling, job and your lif[/b]e. are you in school or working? if yes focus on it.

it will be hard but you will get over it with time. ha!!!

Exactly what I'll say
what's she doing with a man who's been around the block several times and ended up with 3 kids
Looking for an innocent young girl to slaughter
Old layer

MACKISSA:

NO HE IS NOT HE IS ALREDY A CITIZEN

Don't let this love-vendor sweet talk you into anything
Some men like taking advantage of young girls and will tell you exactly what you want to hear
don't be a victim of these serpents
Tell him it's over!
He'll profess his love and try to convince you
You said your relatives know about him?
and no one raised an eyebrow about the age difference?
Tell them he's a bloody liar and their words will help you get over the idiot.
Get into school(if you're not already in one) and get a degree ,a young man in your generation will come along
get rid of this sweet talking "senior citizen" iimmediately and change your cell phone number.

This is just ridiculously funny.

I must be pretty young or is it that some r/ship are just outright funny nowadays?

Dating a guy for one year and not knowing he has kids. Don't you go to his house?

Anywaz sha, it must be just me that thinks this is weird

Osisi you are right. girl, don't defend him. doesn't matter if he is a citizen or not. Again like Osisi asked, what are you doing with a 33 years old man?

run, and run far away. throw away the love (infatuation) please. i don't know why young girls put themselves in too much trouble.

20 is time to focus more on college and career eh. that is not the time for sex or fake love! you will get the real one later. now leave the old soja alone please before his real wife comes pounding you.

i'm currently studying fulltime, jst thinking should i do over the fone or wait till he come back from his trip?

Heat, when men want the sugar between a lady's leg, they will do anything . . . LIE to just get that sex, what else.

the ones that loves you will be honest with you unlike those that wants you as a intimacy gadget to water their johnny.

actaully i do  go to his house most of the time,the thing is the kids are overseas with their mum and i have never seen a picture of them with him.

do nothing on the phone. you want to listening to stories? this is a good time to forget him. delete his number and change yours if possible. when he comes looking for you, tell him you want a break and focus on school more. tell him you are no longer interested. it is simple to do. just the pain is what you will have to deal with but you will be fine. good thing you are in school, it will keep you busy.

you are on track, now dump the man real quick.

The guy most likely is incubating the mother of his kids tonight while she's on nairaland asking for advice.

MACKISSA:

i'm currently studying fulltime, jst thinking should i do over the fone or wait till he come back from his trip?

Call him and tell him you never want to see him again.
You can say something like
John, the age gap between us is too much and I'm not comfortable with continuing this relationship because of the lies.
I'm still too young to deal with baby mama drama.
It's been nice knowing you
and hang up immediately
don't give him any chance to respond.

rehearse your lines many times and when you call ,go straight to the point and hang up afterwards


then after that,change your cell phone number and cut off all ties.
He'll try to manipulate you but remember that I've already warned you about it.

i guess he hide the pix when you are coming. you dey play with Naija man eh na smooth operator

MACKISSA:

actaully i do  go to his house most of the time,the thing is the kids are overseas with their mum and i have never seen a picture of them with him.

oh ok. And you're still questioning your stance on your relationship?
Is that the kind of man you want your kids to call "father".
If phone is not possible, use email to break up with that fool.

Hot mess!

*Hauwa*:

Heat, when men want the sugar between a lady's leg, they will do anything . . . LIE to just get that sex, what else.

the ones that loves you will be honest with you unlike those that wants you as a intimacy gadget to water their johnny.

Wow, I know what you mean.

it's nothing new, move on with your life. Stay with him if you love him.

HeatFusion:

oh ok. And you're still questioning your stance on your relationship?
Is that the kind of man you want your kids to call "father".
[b]If phone is not possible, use email to break up with that fool.[/b]Hot mess!
Wow, I know what you mean.

Yes
and she should do it now that he's still in Nigeria so she'll have ample time to move on before he returns

And he's a naija man too?

What is up with these ppl. One might think they're even fine to be trying all this funkiness.

dreeldee, eh? is that what you got to tell a 20 years old girl? to stay with the second hand at that age ?

what love got to do with it?

please girl, whichever you want to use, just use it!! just DUMP him

HeatFusion:

And he's a naija man too?

What is up with these ppl. One might think they're even fine to be trying all this funkiness.

These men use sex  and sweet talk as weapons to hold these young girls in bondage
they can be as ugly as OBJ
They've already perfected the other skills to make up for other things.
Imagine a lying father of 3 with a 20 year old
That's a man that's bent on ruining this young girl.

I can almost tell you he's on a bed tonight with his Nigerian bride,the mother of those kids.
@ poster don't even bother asking if he's with someone over there,he'll only say what you want to hear
I'm telling you that he 's not sleeping alone.

LOL

they are sleeky. trust those type, he might be showering her with gift and whatever.

These small kids no dey even fear face!!!    

13 yrs difference , U no even fear  

**osisi:

These men use sex  and sweet talk as weapons to hold these young girls in bondage
they can be as ugly as OBJ
They've already perfected the other skills to make up for other things.
Imagine a lying father of 3 with a 20 year old
That's a man that's bent on ruining this young girl.

lmao

Finally, exactly! just recently out from diaper and you've fallen deep in love with an agadi. weird

I hope this girl is taking in all we're saying.

Do they? if there is something in there for her (goodies and sex), she might not listen. but i hope she does.

Abeg , if U wan do Naija guy, I dey availabe

Which kain Ojoro be this one, abeg!! 20 yr old kid wan begin tanda with baby mama wahala

Osisi why your own too much self. I am like 9 years older than my girl so whats the problem?

@Poster,
Ruuuunnnnnn Rehearse the verse osisi gave you and fall out. How do you intend to cope with 3 extra kids assuming you still want to have yours

dayokanu:

Osisi why your own too much self. I am like 9 years older than my girl so whats the problem?

act. you're 8 yrs olderr than me

Heatfusion,

I mean the real one. No the booty call