Having seen the confessions of a lot of people on this forum, I am tempted to share my little secret with you and hope that your words of advice or criticism will help me in making the right decision. My name is Adanna (Not real name please) and I am 30 years old. By the grace of God, I will be getting married in about six weeks from now to a very wonderful man whom I love so much and will do anything for. My husband to be, is a very loving and caring man whom I will say is any woman’s dream and I can’t wait to be called his wife. However, I am scared of the future, because of the circumstance of how I met him. I met my husband through his uncle who happens to be a very close friend or to put it in simple terms who was like a sugar daddy to me. Please don’t get it wrong here; I am not the kind of girl that runs after sugar daddies. It just happened that the uncle used to live on the same compound with my parents back in the days in Kaduna where we used to live. Then the uncle was a young bachelor and I was in the secondary school. My siblings and I and all other kids in the compound use to take video cassettes to the uncles flat to watch films. There was however, this particular day that I was there alone with the uncle and the unimaginable happened between us. I won’t say he took advantage of me because really and truly I have always liked him and used to dream about him as my knight in shining armor in my teenage mind. He on his part has always shown his likeness and preference for me of all the kids that used to gather in his flat. So we continued with our secret affair back then because nobody knew about it. But then, he was a lot older than me and always told me that what he was doing was wrong, however, he was transferred out of Kaduna and I didn’t see him again till years later. I was posted to Lagos for my youth service after graduating from school and that was when I ran into the uncle once again but then he was already married with three kids. So when he wanted us to start off the relationship once again, I bluntly refused and reminded him that he was married and besides back then, I was infatuated with love but now I am more matured. He respected my decision and we became great friends. So when his nephew who came back from abroad where he went to school, saw me with him and enquired about me from him, he told him that we were former neighbors and that I was a very good girl. That was how his nephew and I started dating. However, when the nephew proposed to me and told me that he wanted to marry me, I was initially scared and ran to him to tell him what his nephew was proposing. He gave me his blessing that I should go ahead and marry him and that our little secret was safe with him and that he was even happy that it was his nephew that was marrying me since he knew that I was a very good girl. Now the marriage preparations are in top gear but I am very scared, should the secret come out any day that I had slept with the uncle back then. Do you think I should go ahead with this marriage, or come clean before the marriage, or just let sleeping dogs lie, because I don’t want to bring shame and disgrace to myself or my family?


Source: http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/100/scared-of-the-future

This is super story

IndecentStar:
This is super story

For the Gods...

I believe, u shud ve told him when he proposed, because if he finds out in future, it might b disastrous, cos he would bliv u stil having an affair. ur sugar dady cant b trusted, cos despite d fact that he is married with kids, he still wanted to continue d affair.
But as tins r now, i would say u shud let sleepin dog lie n try to create a lil space btw u n ur sugar dady, u guys shud b jst friends not close friends.

Abeg oo! sister mi, were you that anxious and full of lust to accept his nephew's proposal?
i think you'll be more save, going for someone different oo.
don't forget; the uncle still wanted a continuity in the ill-relationship between you(op) and that so-called uncle of your lover...
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my mind is not at rest with that his uncle...
op broken relation is more preferred to the effect of what might happen to you if the secret is disclosed.